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Another Way...
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Hi Cameo,
I agree with everything you've said, but would like to point out that there is another way for men to live their lives that does not involve deceit at any level.   Be 100% open and honest with your wife.  My own beautiful wife and I are totally honest with one another about everything.  I don't need to hide from her the fact that I, like most healthy hetero guys, want to screw every pretty girl I see. Guys, it's up to us to educate the women in our lives and make them understand our true nature as men.  If you go along with the nonsense that our society teaches girls about guys, namely that guys can be monogamous and are evil cheaters when they screw around, you will be left with few unpalatable options.  Either live a life of frustration or cheat on them thus proving them right.

My wife and I are comfortable with our sexuality to the point where she will point out a pretty girl walking by if she thinks I've missed it!  She knows all about my hobbying and knows I have no desire whatsoever to replace her.  We have a 100% loving committed life-long relationship. It is based on so many wonderful things.  It is not based on sexual exclusivity.  Visiting providers makes me happy, and even more horny, so my wife is the ultimate beneficiary.  I get to tell her about my adventures which gets her hot.  So I don't have to hide cell phones, internet activity, hotel receipts, etc.  

My wife and I have been married 41 years.  She is still one of the most beautiful women I've ever known, with tits that would do a 30 year old proud, and we still have a very hot sex life.  I adore her! She does everything a guy could ask for!  So when I go visit a provider, she knows it's not because I am in any way dis-satisfied with my sex at home, I just like the variety and the fantasy of fucking a hot stranger from time to time.

I've been told I am very lucky, and in truth, I know that I am.  But you make your own luck in life.  It takes time and it takes work. If you accept the standard idea that a woman will necessarily freak out that you have non-monogomous thoughts and tendencies, yet you feel you need to visit providers anyway,  you are dooming yourself to a life of deceit.  But if you teach her that you are simply a normal guy, and that it's wonderful for the both of you that you are what you are, life can be even better.

I am an observer; an Analyzer; Someone who finds reason in the unreasonable...
Tackling the core of these needs we have, and presenting ideas and pictures to consider.

Some Beginning Hobby Basics:

- Have a Hobby phone. Not linked to any family AT&T plan. A discrete pay as you go phone. A number your wife doesn't know about. This is ONLY for using when communicating with your Provider friend. Find a storing place for this phone. A place wife doesn't considering looking. The shed out back? The Fishing box or tool box? You know your place in the house and what areas your wife doesn't look. Keep in mind her intelligence level. Her psychic power; her link to your mannerisms; does she know when you are lying or being sneaky? My mother found my father's porn hidden in a shed she never went into, because she was able to read him like a book. Remember that if you don't APPEAR guilty, you will be less readable.

- Hobby Email. This is an email that you can access thru gmail, yahoo, hotmail... that you can log in and have your password and access it from your Phone or any computer. You DO NOT want to look at escort websites from your home computer. Unless you are ready to be issued divorced papers the next morning with your scrambled eggs for breakfast. It's simple, go to gmail.com, pick whatever name "[email protected]" and password "johnson10inch", and now you are safe via email communication

Intermediate Hobby Thoughts:

- Stop being Guilty. Not only are you going to be readable, you may bring bad luck on yourself, because guilt is born from a place of fear. Fear brings negativity, and finally bad luck. Rather then entertain fear, try entertaining Love and joy of Life. If you think about how you are loving yourself, loving others, and living in a state of love and giving, then you will avoid misfortune.

- The gift of giving. Gentlemen, release the ego and negative idea of "paying for sex". You can take your mind in any direction you choose. Do you want to think in this way that you Pay for sex? Or do you want to take it in a more positive direction, in that you are 'Giving Kindness To One Deserving"? The women you see, is open to mutual companionship in this moment. You are not paying for Bread, Cat Food, Rent... You are doing a beautiful act of giving Kindness to One Deserving, and vice versa. You have been drawn to her for a reason. For this one moment in your life, she is coming into your life, to give you an experience that you want for some reason. Attitude is everything gentlemen. To coin the phrase 'pay for sex' is coming from a place in the mind of total detachment. She is giving you all of herself for this moment, and you are giving her all of yourself also. Afterwards, each person goes in another direction and its all beautiful and joyful.

Let me tap into a few more thoughts here...

More Complex Hobby Thoughts:

- The window of your life, and The guarantees we have. There is the birth, there is the death. There is what is in-between the two. There is the uncertainty of what follows death. There are the theories and the hopes. "The Faith Unseen" the grasping strong to a trust that after we die, we are going on to another place or will be reincarnated. But this is all based on faith, trust, hope, and we havnt the guarantee. The reality is that You are born, and you will die and in between you must live life to its fullest. What will you do with the time you have in this body that has hot blood pulsing thru it? With the breath and joys of life?

- True Love vs Companionship for a Season. As humans we have the ability to fall into a kind of love that never fades. To experience a fire that never dims. This is somewhat rare however. Only a few humans find this kind of love, where the desire grows stronger each day, where age is irrelevant, and beauty grows as the couple ages. Nothing distracts from this love. I am pretty much sure, that if you have found this kind of love, You are not going to be reading this on TER. The other kind is more ancient then you can ever imagine. The modern term is "Seven Year Itch". But this idea goes very far back, even into the days of Ancient Ireland with High Kings and Druids. The Hand Marriage was a contract between a couple for seven years. The contract couldn't be broken during the 7 years, however at the end of 7 years, either person was free to walk away freely. There was also the option to renew the contract. If the couple found they still were in love, or had a good professional reason to maintain the contract, then it was renewed. The reason for this was because people were comfortable with the fact that in 7 years, people change, fires fade.. The Celts did everything with their whole heart, mind, body, and soul. If they fell out of love, they would not suffer to stay or feel guilt about leaving. Seven years is a tolerable amount of time to finish a contract. This is what modern day society is lacking! Modern day Divorces are messy, hateful, hurtful, tragic. Why have we allowed the extremes in this age? It's either to avoid marriage altogether, swearing a single life and never allowing a contract, or else feeling forced to give this short window of one's life to only one person... one person that no longer is loved.

Gentlemen, consider that if you are wasting your life in a sexless, unloving marriage, you are also wasting your partner's too.

The paranoia and Guilts of this modern day are something I would like to see conquered. Guilt causes issues when screening also. The guilt and fears, keep ladies from maintaining a consistent life of guaranteed assurance of safety. Recently, I was contacted by a man only calling himself a first name. He tells me nothing else. I'm expected to go to his hotel with only a first name (most likely this is also not a real name). I am to lie in his bed, kiss him and be the best lover I can be, while knowing that he fears me? I can not do that. I do not want to be feared. Dealing with our Paranoias and Guilt, opens us up to the true Courtesan Experience we crave.

The Assumptions of a Hobbyist:

Gentlemen, there are many reasons a women chooses to provide companionship. Would you like to know mine? I have never been able to feel content with the fears of others in regards to allowing or receiving love. I am pulled by my heart chakra. It pulls me to love others. I love strong and am caught in a time warp of being an old soul, with fierce love capability. Modern day people, fear this kind of love. Because I can't go back into the Art Deco or ancient days I hail from, My option in modern day, is to divide up the source of my love and branch it out in many directions. Offering healing, love, the Fire of my spirit and all that I am to many lovers. You will never see me jaded, because I come from a place of warmth and need to love others. I think many women are like me. Do not assume that we come from a selfish place, as this also holds you back from receiving the most of your connection you can make with us. No human is immune to the needs of touch, non-judgement, approval, ego boost, comfort and renewal of spirit, need of sexual expression.

The Conclusion:

It is a time of opening up, like a flower, unafraid and willing to explore, guilt free, joyful, Striving for the Positive in all we do. Choose the positive people, situations, outlook. Find the balance of Yin and Yang in all you do. Is the dark perhaps not really the dark? Perhaps it is filtered light. People come into your life for a reason. Could she have been one that you were meant to meet? For a moment? Open yourself up. Especially here in Los Angeles, your creativity is ready to pull in more experience. No more writer's block, when you are living life to its fullest. Remember the guarantees. We must make the most of our lives, our dreams, passions, and Life Journey.

Thankyou for reading. Love Cameo


-- Modified on 2/24/2013 1:01:33 PM

No seriously I would like to express my gratitude to you for taking the time to write and post such a heartfelt and insightful post. I personally would rate this as one of if not the best post I've read on TER in all my years of being here. Words cannot convey really how much I enjoyed that. Its easy to understand why you accept clients for other types of personal and life coaching.

My favorite quote:

"No human is immune to the needs of touch, non-judgement, approval, ego boost, comfort and renewal of spirit, need of sexual expression."

I think that one sentence really sums it up for me personally. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

I love that there are providers out there that have this outlook on the hobby.  Unfortunately, this is quite rare.  Even though I have only seen a few providers, I prefer to spend my time with providers that have a similar belief as you do.  Quite often when I was searching for the right person to provide me companionship, I have been frustrated because they see the hobby as a job.  For a time, it changed the way I looked at the hobby.  I became frustrated with the providers that were flakes, tried to upsell you on the phone or on arrival, or basically did not provide good service.  It dissuaded me from trying new providers because it was such a frustrating experience.  I have been fortunate to have found two providers that I regularly see.  One has the same philosophical bent as you do and is very engaging.  Another does do it for the money and its pays her bills, but at least she is up front about it and provides excellent service as well as being engaging during our time spent together.  I found your post quite interesting and insightful even if it is a bit unusual from my experience.  I hope you continue to have this attitude.  Perhaps one day our paths shall cross.

Thank You for putting your thoughts into words
Until a few years ago I considered this a job and while liked by my clients, I was sometimes not happy with myself.
In 2007 I took a fresh look at the way i approched the business and the way i related to my clients, very much like yourself.
Like the old recruting slogan "It's not a job, It's an Adventure !"

xo Samantha

This was beautiful... thank you for sweetly sharing.

Took my time to read this post
Wow
Artistic written
Congrats
Multo bello
Cc

Hi Cameo,
I agree with everything you've said, but would like to point out that there is another way for men to live their lives that does not involve deceit at any level.   Be 100% open and honest with your wife.  My own beautiful wife and I are totally honest with one another about everything.  I don't need to hide from her the fact that I, like most healthy hetero guys, want to screw every pretty girl I see. Guys, it's up to us to educate the women in our lives and make them understand our true nature as men.  If you go along with the nonsense that our society teaches girls about guys, namely that guys can be monogamous and are evil cheaters when they screw around, you will be left with few unpalatable options.  Either live a life of frustration or cheat on them thus proving them right.

My wife and I are comfortable with our sexuality to the point where she will point out a pretty girl walking by if she thinks I've missed it!  She knows all about my hobbying and knows I have no desire whatsoever to replace her.  We have a 100% loving committed life-long relationship. It is based on so many wonderful things.  It is not based on sexual exclusivity.  Visiting providers makes me happy, and even more horny, so my wife is the ultimate beneficiary.  I get to tell her about my adventures which gets her hot.  So I don't have to hide cell phones, internet activity, hotel receipts, etc.  

My wife and I have been married 41 years.  She is still one of the most beautiful women I've ever known, with tits that would do a 30 year old proud, and we still have a very hot sex life.  I adore her! She does everything a guy could ask for!  So when I go visit a provider, she knows it's not because I am in any way dis-satisfied with my sex at home, I just like the variety and the fantasy of fucking a hot stranger from time to time.

I've been told I am very lucky, and in truth, I know that I am.  But you make your own luck in life.  It takes time and it takes work. If you accept the standard idea that a woman will necessarily freak out that you have non-monogomous thoughts and tendencies, yet you feel you need to visit providers anyway,  you are dooming yourself to a life of deceit.  But if you teach her that you are simply a normal guy, and that it's wonderful for the both of you that you are what you are, life can be even better.

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