I'm ready to lose my mind here, and I don't know what to do or think,  but even as I write this blog I have to repeatedly stop to hang my phone up.

It started on thanksgiving morning, all day from 7am till midnight...I thought it was some collection agency with a dialing system that musta gone haywire because when I would answer and say 'hello' I would hear dead air and sometimes toward the end of it a guy would act as though he could not hear me. Over and over all day till I turned my phone off. I turned my phone back on after while and saw that I had meanwhile missed a call from my daughter as well. That really pissed me off. As I look at my phone log from that day, I see that they called 66 times that day alone. Then it stopped...until last night.

I've been feeling like crap all week and as I'm laying in bed snuggling my cats, trying to rest, drinkin ginger ale, my phone is going nuts. Different # but 818 as well. That night I'm babysitting for a friend and it continues. By this morning it began escalating out of control- mind you I have the call control app for my android, and the dude was blowing my phone up back to back so much it was getting past the blocker and a few times auto answering and not hanging it back up, even causing some sort of glitch in my sd card almost formating it and froze my phone up completely twice. I finally answered at one point and it was the same guy from thanksgiving acting like he could not hear me....I said 'motherfucker I know u can hear me....why r u calling me?' And he would speak so low and softly I could not understand him, then hang up and call again. I kept answering and he got braver and started spewing obscene fucked up shit to me starting with ' u wanna give me ur pu**y don't u? U wanna be my little slut?' Etc etc etc and I realized that answering made him more obsessive. I've turned my phone off, back on, and I'm at my wits end here, because its still going and so far since just 6am today he's called 87 times. My friend called his phone during all this and the dudes voicemail message is just this long crazy rambling that u can't even understand and I'm officially creeped the fuck out. Nut case.

I don't know what to think, but if I ever find this psycho fuck, I'm taking a hammer to each individual finger till there's nothing left, and I mean that shit. I've had it


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Has a call block feature. Forward your # to Google, then set his # to be blocked. Each time he changes that #, add it to the list. Then he'll hopefully lose interest. Legit calls will go to Google VM which you can get emails of instantly and return calls. Do not answer his call or engage him in any way - it fuels the obsession. You can also call your carrier but you'll need to do so each time he alters his #.

God, what a fuckin' pyscho.  Try the Google Voice suggestion.  If that doesn't work, you may have to get a new number.  Hang in there darling.

Some people just don't have anything better to do with their time!   Sorry you have to go through this, sounds like a nightmare!  I thought it was weird for someone to even call 10 times back to back, but 87 is just crazy!!!  Hopefully he gets bored with his little games and finds something else to do!

Umm, dude... just change your number, and have people email instead??Good luck.

Papasan- lol, him and everyone else, the turkey mongers have forsaken me, damnit.

Ok, seriously though, here's my objective in having posted this blog- I've had the same # for years- to change it causes a few setbacks from the biz perspective....that's how a lot of old clients find me after time has passed, but also how new clients verify my credibility and that I'm who I say I am, by googling it.

  I'm hoping that someone out there may recognize the MO or have experience with a similar situation or know how to trace back to the actual person without fail. I want to identify this person, not for the purpose of retaliation, but to stay a step ahead in keeping myself safe. I could change my # 1000 times, but the bottom line is that in this line of work, putting ourselves out there is inevitable, in some way shape or form. Whether the dude is harmful or not, 96 calls in one day (the total so far) reeks of obsession and is due cause for alarm. This is a case where i'd prefer to be on offense ahead of time rather than defense when its too late. This is the most dangerous job in america.....I want to protect myself where I am able.

If anyone has any suggestion on how best to go about this, I welcome it, and if anyone wishes to assist me, please PM me

"Whether the dude is harmful or not, 96 calls in one day (the total so far) reeks of obsession and is due cause for alarm."

I think you are right about this. IMO you should not treat this as an annoyance, you should treat it as a dangerous situation. I don't mean to scare you, but it's better to be overly cautious than not cautious enough. 99% chance he's harmless, but that 1% chance is not worth taking.  I don't think you should talk to him on the phone again; no matter what you say to him, it's likely to encourage him.

I suggest you reach out seriously to your own support network, friends & family, and get yourself into a safe living situation, surrounded by people you know and trust for awhile until it blows over.  

Re your phone line, have you thought about hiring an answering service for awhile? Tell them the situation. If he calls your line and gets an official sounding live answering service voice, that may put him off and end the problem -- hopefully. Of course you would need to find an answering service you can be candid with, but I imagine you could find one.  

If that doesn't work, I think it would be better to turn off your phone for a few weeks and let your contacts know your line is down, rather than letting this continue.  That's the best suggestion I can come up with. In any case, I hope you find a solution.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Good luck.

aaaaaaaahh.....why do you use the same number for your business/clients as well as for your personal inner circle, ie..your daughter?

I recall an HX to Ter provider, who has a reputation for flaking-out.  20+ text and 10+ calls, in 4 hours, delaying and postponing a meeting.  Every excuse imaginable was given....  Ruined my whole day.  Never did meet her.... Never will.

Its a sad state of affairs when a woman concerned for her safety turns to this community for help and instead has to waste her time defending her character to men that don't even have the balls to use their real handle. if your not ashamed. u really should be....

First of all- addressing pot callling the kettle black, these are two drastically different situations altogether. obviously u have some sort of grudge against me for a missed appt sometime in the past on another site, and while thats very unfortunate, it has NOTHING to do with a situation in which i feel threatened by someone ive never seen and can't even identify. In fact, i see no purpose in your comment whatsoever because with an anonymous handle, i have no way of even referencing who you are and if your insinuation even bears any legitimacy whatsoever. If its such an issue that you feel the need to address it, then please do so at an appropriate time in an adult manner. To do so on this particular thread is way out of line and irresponsible as well as just disrespectful with no regard to how serious this situation is to me....i"m apt to say that says a hell of a lot more about your character than my own.

sociopaths anonymous- i so use a separate #, however, my daughter does have both so that no matter what, she is able to get ahold of me. She did manage to reach me that evening, but thats not the point, and theres no reason to put my character on trial in this situation....at all...this could happen to any girl here, and having a 2nd line or not would in no way make a damn bit of difference in being targeted and obsessively harassed by someone who is obviously unstable. So now that i've explained this to u, which i should not even have to, maybe u can explain to me how your comment is even relevant to this situation or a means to a solution here...because from what i can tell....aaaaaaaahh, it isn't. Its just u being a dick, and i don't have the patience for  it. Theres a time and a place for that shit somewhere, like HX, so go find it please, because this is not it. Grow the fuck up.

Sorry for the phone mess.

I don't know if this would work for you but I had a pharmacy outfit calling from India 20 times a day. They would call 3-4 times over a period of 5 minutes and then wait an hour and again call again 3-4 times. This went on for months.

What I did was add the phone number to my phone book, call it Jerk1, and set the ring tone for the phone number to silent/no vibrate. They would call 40-50 times and get no answer, They would then change their number and call using a different number (I think it's called phone number spoofing). I'd again add it to my phone book as Jerk 2, and again set the ring tone to silent/no vibrate. I would have no idea when they called so it didn't bother me. This went on for 3-4 months but eventually they stopped calling.

But I do think the best thing is not to engage at all as someone suggested. The guy will give up eventually if he has absolutely no response.  

Good luck with this Jerk.

Whoooaaa..easy there little lady, your original post indicated a problem with a psycho..with multiple calls to a known phone number....for business or personal use.  You emphasized this point with the inability for your daughter to get through.  I can dig that, daughter not being able to reach you.   No need to get hostile, this is not a question of your character.  I'm not your problem, not your solution, it was just a simple question, based on your post.

Don't know about any of your history on HX or anything else, really doesn't pertain to anything here.

Your legion of fans, followers and regulars can easily contact you by email or vice versa and then you can give them a new number.  Stalkers/psychos in this business are unfortunately a reality of your profession, which makes the necessity for careful screening even more poignant.  Why can't you change your number? If it persists, then you have a security problem with your computer that goes beyond asking for advice on this board.   As far as being called a dick, I've been called worse, and I congratulate you on restraining yourself as I am sure you have many other names you could have said.

and I don't see anywhere in them where she mentioned her daughter having both that number.

What again was it that prompted you raising the issue in the first place?

It is very simple.  The lady wrote about a psycho calling her number repeatedly, annoying enough, scary enough, and then emphasized it by mentioning a missed call from her daughter which really got her pissed.  It struck me as odd that she uses the same number for business as well as family members.  I don't know her business model, don't really care, but for her regulars, or people she really wants to be able to reach her by phone, it makes sense to have a number for those she so chooses to have that other number.  She says she does, based on her third post directed at me and the other alias.  

So again, why not change the business phone number?  If the psycho keeps calling the new number, stop having a contact phone number, make contact strictly through email.  We all know several ladies that do this.  But like I said, don't know her business model. The long terms regulars, or people she wants to stay in contact with already have her other number.  If the psycho/stalker or any new potential psycho/stalker calls the "private number,"  then it is someone who was given access, or the number was leaked by someone she trusts.

Are you sure its not some kind of paranoid delusion?  Substance induced psychosis? Take a nap, when your asleep the phone cannot be heard....

I was getting sales calls back to back from some dumb ass trying to "give away" something at no cost. Yeah right, so when they wouldn't stop calling I got an air horn and as soon as they started their pitch bwaatttt! well sure enough it stopped the constant calling.