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Mrs_Obvious 9121 reads
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1 / 9

I want to divorce my husband. We met while I was a provider and he a hobbyist. Is there a loophole or something that I don't need to wait a year before filing? He withheld info and I commited adultry.
Suggestions?
Thanks.(sorry for the alias but I think it's better for me this way.)

The_Hunter 6526 reads
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2 / 9

I'm not really up on divorce laws, but you should be careful about admitting to adultery. In some states it's a felony to commit adultery (whether you're aware the person is married or not). Some states even have minimum mandatory sentences for it. So look into your local laws before admitting to anything.

shudaknownbetter 6881 reads
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3 / 9

You don't state what jurisdiction you are in, & marriage/divorce laws vary by state.  
You can claim both "misrepresented".  I have a friend whose second husband withheld his alcoholism...  Divorce was quick. It helps if the marriage was short.  
Without any information, I'd say go see a lawyer.  Tell him you both withheld information.  What holds up a lot of divorces is boths parties don't agree to the D.  Assuming husband gets lawyer too...  convince them both parties agree.  
Work out any property settlements yourselves in advance.  In mine there was d*mn litle to fight over.

Best of luck, skb

Mrs_Obvious 7190 reads
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4 / 9

We are in agreement so their won't be a fight. No assests together or at all for that matter. He knows I was a provider, that's how I met him.
Stupid I know...lasted 23 months but the sex ended before that as well as any communication. So I went and commited adultry. Not sure he knows, he never said anything.
Thanks

shudaknownbetter 7067 reads
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5 / 9

One files in their state of residence, according to their term of residency.  
You don't generally have to admit "fault" these days...  
It's been a while but my RI divorce stated:
Were married, At (place), On (Date)
Cited "irreconciable differences"
Are and have been for some time living apart.  

The biggest delay was in getting a court date.  

You still want a property settlement even if it's "whatever in your possesion".  You need to settle future rights like retirement, Social Security, future earnings.  Don't let it hold up the filings.  This keeps the court out of your finances.  

The more leg work you do, the less the lawyer can delay or charge you.  
More luck,
skb

dickus 7379 reads
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6 / 9

in some states to alter the 50/50 presumption of division of marital assets and may be a bar to spousal support.  These considerations may not be material to everyone, of course.

--Not a lawyer, but routinely stays in Holiday Inn Express(es).

ravens520 15 Reviews 6433 reads
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7 / 9

Aldultry is a ground for immediate divorce.  bill,

ClassInAtl 6693 reads
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8 / 9

But despite what folks may tell you, it will be much easier and quicker WITH a lawyer.  If you don't know one ask a friend or someone you trust, or check with the local bar association.

Generally, you file where you live, and if you are in agreement, even that can often be overcome.  I don't see any reason not to educate yourself some on the Web, butthere is a lot of bad information out there, so I'd run anything you readby your lawyer.

Good luck.

ThePeopleRule 5851 reads
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9 / 9

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Here is the link to online article on divorce:
http://www.nolo.com/articleByCat.cfm/catId/BC93B1DE-97D2-44DB-87F20B0350BA0643

Look at the "divorce in your state" link for state-specific information and links.

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