Maybe its my age (65)
The whole LE cloud really gets to me. Maybe I read the papers too much, but  in last few years am getting really nervous before appointments. Always looking over my shoulder. Carefree younger days are now super anxious old ones.  

But as to your concern, it's probably over-blown.

Hi, I mean that the super small chance of a car accident is the riskiest thing about the whole visit! Meant it as a joke, but its very true,  Just have to wrap my stupid head around the fact...thank you for the reply!!

I don't usually give medical advice but it sounds like you need some.  
Disclaimer: Just as mrfisher is "still not a lawyer, I am still not a doctor.

Hi Inicky, thanks so much for the advice! I stay away from all meds, so didnt even think of it, but some Xanax could be perfect, as I would just use it occasionally.  
Fortunately am seeing my doc anyway next week for regular check up, will ask him.  I will post the results, maybe it will help other (silly, stupid) nervous nellies like me.  
Take care, and thanks again!!

I was a nervous wreck when coming to appointments back in my 20's; I first started at 22.  You know, always looking over my shoulder, taking a detour whenever seeing a Crown Vic behind me (even when it's a taxi), and nearly shaking when knocking on her door.  The poor girl had to spend the first 10 minutes calming me down.  It got slightly easier when I figured out that it was less nerve-racking to take a train than to drive.  

After severe jitters seeing my first few professionals, it has gradually become the case that those apprehensions while traveling to meet her arouse me -- the association with pleasure has been strong.

Wow, fantastic. Like a mental Jiu-jitsu,  turn the power of the enemy to your advantage. Question: How the hell did you do it? Sounds like a subconscious sleep on it  trick, or even hypnosis.  

... other than to continue making appointments and finding intense pleasure once I arrived at those appointments.   The association, between the jittery text message to ask for a time, the jittery drive to a meeting, the jittery wondering how she'd look and act, and the pleasures that ensued, got made by built-in mechanisms that we all share.  
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Sometimes it's nice to be human!  

You are a genius my man, thanks for the inspiration.   Are you a psychologist? If not, you should be!  Right now I have that flip in my head, it will happen...take care!!

IMO, LE concerns are WAY overblown. Greater chance of getting hit by the bus on way to provider than LE catching you.  

I don't worry much about LE but there are lots of other things that can get you busted with your SO that play on my nerves. You could get in an accident on the way to your rendezvous or get a traffic ticket or your car could break down and then you would have to come up with an explanation for why you were where you weren't supposed to be. That never happened to me but one time somebody told my wife she saw me somewhere and wondered what I was doing there. In that case I was actually innocent and it was a case of mistaken identity but it makes you think about the possibilities when parking outside a hotel and walking inside. Probably a good idea to wear sunglasses.  

This did indeed happen, and was by far the most serious situation I faced, but there were others.