I have been seeing the same lady for more than 4 years. It's a good relationship. Each of us seems to be at the stage where we are letting our guard down a bit. You know, not major things like financial stuff, just personal things like number of kids, likes/dislikes, how many dogs etc.
I am thinking about taking her with me on an upcoming trip to your fair city. My question to the board is should I ask her to tell me her real name prior to taking her with me? How insistent should I be or should I just let it be. I am thinking if something should happen, I may need to know that information. (Medical emergencies, auto accident, ??) By the way, I have never asked for her real name. Not an issue in the current situation. Thanks
if you have been seeing here for about 4 years, i wouldn't see a problem. clients that i have seen over the years i gain "trust" with (if you can call it that) and have told them my real name.
but at the end of the day it is all about boundaries & how much she feels she trusts you. at the same time if she gives you her info, you should be prepared for her to want the same (if she doesn't already know your info) hope all works out! xox
I have done this in the past. If she expects you to book air fare (and possibly hotel) then you must use the name and DOB that appears on her travel ID for airport screening and at the hotel if you intend to give her a room key. Note that adding her as a guest in your room will let her charge food & drink (and other items/services) to the room. If she looses her room key and you are not with her, she won't be able to get a replacement with a non-matching name on her ID.
If she is not ready to disclose this to you, alternatives are to give her the cash in advance and let her book the travel on her own, or reimburse her after. The hotel room is less critical if you two don't spend time apart, or as long as she can call you if she has a problem getting back into the room
By combining the two lovely ladies comments as well as Herbtcats into one very well rounded informative answer to the questions you ask.
I myself have enjoyed a full friendships with a gentleman for many years and they have never know my true name as well as shared it with someone the first evening. Enjoy your stay in Vegas with your special lady
Posted By: OralIntent
I have been seeing the same lady for more than 4 years. It's a good relationship. Each of us seems to be at the stage where we are letting our guard down a bit. You know, not major things like financial stuff, just personal things like number of kids, likes/dislikes, how many dogs etc.
I am thinking about taking her with me on an upcoming trip to your fair city. My question to the board is should I ask her to tell me her real name prior to taking her with me? How insistent should I be or should I just let it be. I am thinking if something should happen, I may need to know that information. (Medical emergencies, auto accident, ??)
By the way, I have never asked for her real name. Not an issue in the current situation.
In another situation I invited a gal to meet me at a resort in Mexico. It was all inclusive so we could eat, drink and then go play. All I had to do is buy her a day pass so I thought no problem. The problem was that the front desk needed her name and she had to leave her identification at the front desk. It was embarrassing to only give the front desk her "nickname"... The front desk lady gave me the "stink eye"... lol... She ended up leaving her identification and real name at the front desk...
I've thought about taking someone via plane with me and wondered how to ask their name.
Posted By: OralIntent
I have been seeing the same lady for more than 4 years. It's a good relationship. Each of us seems to be at the stage where we are letting our guard down a bit. You know, not major things like financial stuff, just personal things like number of kids, likes/dislikes, how many dogs etc.
I am thinking about taking her with me on an upcoming trip to your fair city. My question to the board is should I ask her to tell me her real name prior to taking her with me? How insistent should I be or should I just let it be. I am thinking if something should happen, I may need to know that information. (Medical emergencies, auto accident, ??)
By the way, I have never asked for her real name. Not an issue in the current situation.
4 years is a long time. Are you flying or driving?
If you're flying, it's a no brainer..... Real ID. Just mention it casually, and feel her out with a few questions. If she wants to go and really trusts you, it should work out. Also, you know you're bringing sand to the beach right???? Lol (Unless you're planning some 3-way action) Good luck!
When you have the conversation about going away the subject will come up and answer itself. We all know the heightened security in travel, and when you mention going away she will likely provide the answer you seek by either saying here is my name for the booking or can you reimburse me. By asking the question does she WANT to go away you will your answer.
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