One of the most helpful things about reviews was that gave a pretty good idea of what services providers offer that is not something that can be spelled out on their website.  As in "kissing" or "no kissing"....

There is no tactful way to ask about menu availability until you're screened.

It's a little cumbersome, but you could prescreen and then state your desires with a request that if the lady thinks you are not well matched, to please decline the invitation. That way she doesn't have to answer a direct question. She can accept or decline the date. What do you think?

I welcome a detailed request!

Yes, there are ways to ask without asking. Please email me after visiting my site which is my name .com and I’m happy to help!

(without unnecessary extra graphic details) and I'd be happy to inform if that fantasy is enticing for me or not.
Many of us, myself included, still have reviews available with different locations, so check and you might get lucky.  

A p411 gentleman contacted me and everything checked out. He asked that I please read his p411 profile and to pay close attention to his bio. In the bio section he stated exactly what he was looking for. I thought clever of him.  Unfortunately he requested a couple things I was not comfortable with so I politely turned him down. But it worked! He didn't have to ask me anything.
So for gentlemen who are members on p411, this is one option

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if someone takes the time to fill out my form in full or is a p411 member i am happy to answer those " do you..." questions

Reviews help us in getting to know the third party thoughts. Every company or individual would surely post good things on his/her site. But we trust more when see other peoples thoughts about it. However, you need to trust for the first time.

I still stand by reviews. Instead of asking a non vanilla question straight up,maybe ask if they by chance have any reviews.Most of us kept ours one way or another!

I still have my reviews up, but for those who can't access TER reviews I have no problem answering service questions once you've been screened or sending a detailed request with your screening info!!