Has anybody ever had a provider as a real girlfriend?  I have the opportunity to do so, but am very confused.

Well, not as a girlfriend, but I do have a provider as a business partner and I couldn't be happier.  She is the best.  Sedagive.

Well, I once had the opertunity to date a stripper.  I quickly decided it wasn't for me.  I'd suggest you think about it quite a bit before jumping in.  I'm just not the kind of guy that can send someone he loves off to perform sexual acts with other guys.  Maybe you are.  If you decide to move foward, I'd strongly suggest you talk over the ground rules with her, so there is no confusion about what either of you are allowed to do.  I hope this helps.  Good luck.Falcon

It truly takes two special people to handle such a thing...the only way to eliminate the confusion is to TALK, TALK & TALK SOME MORE and when you're done with that KEEP TALKIN =)...its all about respecting the others limits...i personally dont think the two mix very well, but of course im only talking from my own experiences.  Best wishes to you!  -kim xoxoxox

Our appointments were never like true appointments but rather dates.  It started out very strange,(in a good way!)and when I didnt feel comfortable taking his money any longer we sat down and talked.  And talked and talked and talked.  It is a very tough thing to do.  I mean he obviously knows what I do for a living thats how he found me in the first place, but does he honestly like it?  Some days yes, some days no.  IMHO the toughest thing is reading reviews. He likes to see that I did well but Im sure its uncomfortable to read what I did with someone else.  Hes a strong man and I love him for that.  We set ground rules we both live by, what is acceptable and what isnt.  We are completely honest with each other and when he asks, yes I tell him about work.  (Not names or gruesome details)  We have our ups and downs as all relationships do, but were happy and it works for us.  May not work for everyone.  Hes on his way over now....I will let him post from a guys point of view when he gets here.

Jazzy-I find it funny how you pose the question, "have the opportunity".  This sounds like a business deal not a realationship, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.  Enter into this kind of realationship with open eyes and be prepared to be jealous, as I sometimes get with my girlfriend who has already posted a reply.  Talk, talk, and more talk is the key, it can range from erotic to painful.  For me personally it is not the sex that bothers me but the fact she may be having a good time with someone else. If you keep your ego in check and obey the rules it's all good. She is only doing this to provide senior care for me in my advancing age.

Jazzy,In answer to your question, I could imagine it to be very difficult to have a provider as a girlfriend.  Out of personal experience, I have had a couple of topless dancers as girlfriends in the past, and the current woman that I am dating is also a topless dancer.  At times, I find it very difficult to have them as girlfriends.  A part of me does not want to know what they do at work, but another part of me is curious.  Even though they are only dancing, I still have these mixed feelings.  Now if they were "dating" clients and working as providers, I'm sure it would be even more difficult for me to accept.  Very thought provoking question that you pose....

If so, you need to really make sure you do have an opportunity. It is far too easy to misread people, hear only what you want and to make assumptions in your mind that will make you look dumb and goofy. I did this once a while back, year or so now, and while I still consider us good friends, it put a strain on what is a great, meaningful and important friendship to me. Good luck if you do have a true opportunity, and take Kim and Meg's advice, Talk, talk, talk!!!!!--modified by Top at Tue, Apr 10, 2001, 16:14:15

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Damn, Meghan he must be a strong man.  I couldn't do it.  Cudos to him if he can!  It sounds like you two have a winner!

..... and I havent killed him yet ~--modified by Meghan at Tue, Apr 10, 2001, 19:04:09

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haven't heard/seen from you in a few days over at theLA board so I thought I would come lookin!See ya next week?Lustmanps- I promise not to tell where the bodies are buried!

Reading this thread is killing me. Yet, I must respond!In January of 1995, I returned to LA after a long out of town consulting gig. Needless to say I was glad to be home and VERY horny. So I got out the LA Express (no TER at the time, you know) and called on a particularly athletic and shapely blond in the massage section. We had a great time, you know, really hit it off. So I casually mentioned that I'd like to date her. She was shocked! "Really, after what we just did?" Sure! It was FUN! So she took my number. The next day she called and we went out that night. We had fun on the date, but I hadn't slept with her at that point.We started dating and getting serious. I told her it would not work that way; that it's OK when we were just having fun but this was turning into something different. So she quit the biz....To make a long story short (too late?), today we are happily married (3 years!) with a baby girl and I love her as much as the day I married her. I'm sure I'm not the first one to marry a provider! (Just the first to post)