I'm at the bar. You are too. You're looking for action, so am I. That's why I'm there, same as you. We get talking, I like you, but I want to do some face to face verification. For my own peace of mind. Do you mind me asking you....'are you on TER'? The ones who are seem to get a kick out of it. The ones who aren't don't seem to know what it is, which makes sense. But is that generally true? Do you mind me whipping out my phone and checking a few things, right in front of you? It seems mildly rude, to be honest, but maybe you're cool with it...I honestly don't know. So that's why I am asking

First off, I don't hang around the casinos and bars looking for men to see. I do for fun. So.. This is what I would do.

Ok..fair....but let me qualify this by saying..by the time I ask that question...I have already been asked "so, do you wanna have some fun'? I'm certainly not leading with 'duh, are you on TER?" When that question pops out of my mouth, we are so far beyond where the conversation is heading, or has already traversed, it's not a question of 'what's going on here?'. Also, if I ask, and I leave it to those simple three letters, without describing what they stand for...they either know, or they don't. If they don't, it's dropped.  

Because it has real world applications.   . I hope to read more comments and insights.

I wouldn't even consider this approach. Setting up time in advance and having a back up plan is comfortable and works for me. I'm no damn secret agent, whispering code words in some casino bar. Mi dos centavos.

Since I do not go to the bars to look for dates, I guess my opinions on this aren't really the opinions that you would be looking for...

This isn't an approach, lol.   Just the reality of a man alone sitting at bar in Vegas.  

Again...appreciate your response and your insight. Sincerely.

Really man. Come on..'whispering code words"? Like hiding behind some computer screen arranging 'dates' is somehow more 'above board'. FU.

Oh.. I don't judge..

I don't have a personal opinion on ladies who meet via TER or the bar or both..
I can't say that it hasn't happened to me.. It used to happen a lot in Atlantic City.. I don't drink alcohol anymore so I rarely find myself at a bar.. Unless I'm with friends or visiting a bartender friend..
I personally just choose to arrange dates via the Internet. It's my comfort zone so it just works best for me.
To the ladies who can arrange these in person - sometimes I'm a little jealous..  
I haven't crossed the waters in to feeling comfortable discussing this. I mean., if the guy doesn't get the jist of it.. Or.. I don't know.. It's just a comfort level for me. It's what works for me and that's my only concern

I think if a guy asked me I would smile and say, "Are you?". Then we would have a good laugh/conversation. I don't find it offensive. I think it is a nice ice breaker. I've never had the opportunity to do a legit bar pick up. I just don't feel comfortable asking "are you ready for some fun?"and then figuring out how to screen the guy and then having to negotiate fees. Or whatever the process is. Gosh, if a guy walks up and hands me a card with his p-411 ID and lets me check my phone real quick to verify him I might just take the plunge.  
So the reverse question to guys.... If a lady walks up to you in a bar and says'"Are you TER whitelisted or a member of p-411?" would you be offended?

Hell, I'd consider it a badge of honor, our little "Secret society club". And if she's hot, then its game on and I would then go into my Tarzan yell and pound my chest.....lol

..."I'll show you mine if you show me yours..."

Really man, you wasted three paragraphs responding to my throw away one ? Plus an FU ? Perhaps you take these boards and TER light banter (and perhaps yourself), more seriously than I do.

hat was the premise of my scenario...well, sort of. I guess I started the question by saying I went looking for it, but in reality, the question was more based on my own experience. It wasn't " I'm an idiot for not pre-planning, so is anyone free (and let's get to verifying)"...it was "I'm sitting at the bar NOT looking for it"...and then the process starts, initiated by a woman...THEN the experiment/question kicks in.  

...in the Summer 2012, I was out walking the strip in the afternoon and I was in the temporary walkway they had set up after they took down O'Shea's and were developing the Linq. The covered walkway was filled with people walking both directions. I was headed North when a pretty young AA woman, walking South, suddenly just reversed direction, linked arms with me and started engaging me in small talk. Petite, curly flowing and hi-lited brown hair, dressed in a short, flowery summery dress with heels and large shades. Just the type of woman I'm attracted to. I was cool, I know the game and I enjoyed the public display of affection. She asked me if I'd like some company for the afternoon. I told her I thought she was very pretty and I might be, and asked her if she had a TER profile I could look up. Right away she said no. I told her I only see women who have positive TER reviews. She then offered that, "but I could give you a really good deal". I then literally bit my lips together so I wouldn't ask "how much?" as that, if it were a LE setup, would put me into the solicitation phase. At the end of the walkway, we unlinked arms and she left me, ready to begin her next lap thru the walkway. It can be SO hard to resist being hit on outside of your safety zone.

plus an FU. yup.  

I would start asking you a million questions!!
most likely I dont have people In my ordinary life asking TER.. yet, In the right atmosphere I am honored when I get a lil email saying..  
"Lorena, I think I saw you at ..... was that you?"

It's always been light banter Twisty. Feel free to respond with another paragraph or five.  

If I am so inclined, I shall

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I'd love it if I was asked this, especially by someone like you.

You would??! Ask a million questions? lol...cuz I would ask a million back! I wish had been you!!

Re: Temptation is My middle name ))).. I love to lead!!wink

Lorena,