Heard some of the local gen  are gearup to date. Just some advice and my 2cents  

1 Make up your mind, you should know before you go if it’s a hangout together/dining together or a date date?  
2 Don’t give girl  false expectation! Unless you both figure out a solution for her/your needs.  
3 Don’t be an ahole and expecting free sex on the side, or only to satisfy your fantasy of dating  KD or to showoff.   
4 If it’s date, and get potential, are you ok if girl continues to work, or you’d support financially.  
5 Be prepared, you are not the only vip, she is screening other potential too.
6 If it doesn’t work out for any reason, be a gen and leave peacefully or come back as her VIP client again.
7 don't share your personal dating in public! most of us don't care!
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over these years, heard many stories, of course there are a few still happy ending ones. however, most of them are ugly or troubled  breakup: girls forced to relocate, guys became stalking, lax bomb hoax, catalina island helicopter incident....etc.
well, my point is be a man, treat the girl right.

gearup?  

KD?

gen = gentleman?

Can you clarify please lol.

I presume this is about OTC dating???

Ill even say, even though I haven't ever dated a kgirl, that many of these apply to regular dating as well.

 
Points 1,2,3 and 7 are all applicable there.

The stories I've heard weren't as troubled as KDMV has shared, I think what I've heard is that most just ended up disillusioned, but with a good lesson. Which is still solid experience for life.

KD is Kevin Durant, I mean, KDoll

I mean I agree with most of it but what is wrong with having a fantasy of dating a Kdoll?

It's my fantasy, dammit! Not yours!

Everything else I agree with. Interesting that most (all?) girls are screening multiple "potentials" (potential what? sugar daddies? Sponsors? suckers?) depends on the girl I guess?

Green card...

 

Sugar daddy...

 

Boy toy...

 
YMMV

hehe

Sorry for the newbie, if you don’t understand this then you probably are not on her vip list to see!
This is a post  & advice for those who plan to go out w this lovely but too naive KD! Hate to see girl got hurt for any reason!
And, the good/ bad stories I mentioned are not just happened here in DMV, as matter of fact most of them are from CA!

sharing who you are dating with ANYONE is a bad idea for both you and the girl.  Guys who are into the GFE aspect want to believe that the girl is into them and values their time together above all other customers.  Learning she has an outside boyfriend completely kills the fantasy for a lot of guys.  Consequently, it can hurt her business, and if you're dating a Kgirl OTC, that's the last thing you want to do to a girl you care about.  

 
Likewise, I don't want my girlfriend to know  who else I'm fucking from my reviews.  My girlfriends agree in the beginning that I can fuck other girls as long as I'm paying, and she can keep fucking her customers, so for both of us, transactional sex is NOT cheating on our relationship.  If they know I'm CDL because I bragged on  some forum that I'm dating them, then they can read my reviews and know specifically who else I'm fucking, which knowledge often leads to jealousy and problems in the relationship regardless of the agreement we made to allow transactional sex with no questions asked in the beginning. Most of my outside relationships have ended over jealousy . . . . . not mine, hers, but it wasn't because they  found out I was CDL.  I'm very careful  about keeping my TER handle anonymous.

So this is about one girl in particular?

Nothing per se wrong with the dating fantasy but if can lead to a number of undesirable outcomes, which is why the "be honest" bit was put in.  

 
For some that fantasy is both one-sided (the monger) and grows into an obsession with the guy refusing to accept the feelings are not shared. That is very bad for both sides. See also the point about other potential options the girl might be considering. If she ends up choosing door number three but that's not your door, let it go and respect that choice.

 
If the date is your fantasy but you never had any intentions of more than fulfilling the fantasy be sure not to lead the girl on. She may well be thinking longer terms/not a fantasy fulfillment relationship -- fantasy fulfillment is part of the P4P world. Just don't mislead the woman because you want your fantasy; it's just mean.

 
Even if your fantasy is not just some "role play" type fantasy but something you wished could be true (a real relationship -- which WILL be different than what you paid for BCD) you still need to come to terms with where it started and if that work is expected to continue or not. Both sides, as in any relationship, needs to be on the same page AND have the personality/psychology to accept the reality if she is going to continue working.

 
Not saying any of the above applies to you but I'm sure that is why the comment about the fantasy was included.

 
And the answer to what the "potentials" are is Yes. Could be any of them or even all of them.

Great post. Agreed on all counts and now I will be sure to keep my fantasy BCD. Hehe.

Jensen, this is about as good of an advice post on here as any. Separating fantasy from reality is paramount.

That is typically the way I used to approach the sessions -- I'll believe pretty much all the illusion after I enter and before I leave but once I walk out the door I remind myself none of it was real.

I personally like to never lose a hold of reality, even inside. It may be crude, but I always remind myself what I am, what she is, what we are doing and why we're doing it. And that's ok to me.  

 
When I was younger tho... definitely were a few instances where I bought into the fantasy a bit too much. Those were good learning experiences.