You meet a provider and click from when you walk through the door. All sessions after that are just great, sex, attitude, laughs and seemingly perfect sessions.
So, a real FWB relationship, not love or even close, just a real fun time for each multi hour visit! She starts touring, and is away for a long time, 8 months. She is back in town; you are pretty excited to start the repeating of the past sessions!You get there and it's a good session, sex, and a fun time, but something seems off. When you leave it just doesn't feel the same, like it did before when you couldn't wait for the next session!
You can't put a reason why, it's just not the same, maybe time to move on! You ever get that feeling?
Is a long time not having seen her. Both of you have changed. Ahe may have become more jaded. It happens.
Think about it….She’s been put through the ringer for the last 8 months or so. It’s officially a business transaction to her.
I wouldn’t have expected rose peddles laid at your feet after all she’s been through
And this happens in the world of P4P,it isn’t the first time “you can’t go back home again”
Just trying to keep it real
But not just right away.
Could be a lot of things going on but I would not really make a call off just one session. Good to think about and while absence makes the heart grow fonder, as they say, what you remember and what was reality might have diverged a bit and you need to get back into sync with one another. Could be from either side or probably both.
I tend not to try recreating the past as I remember things but rather create a new present to enjoy. Might have to be a bit different from your memories but can be just as enjoyable.
many more Kgirls that used to come for 90 days at a time to work LA and then go back to Korea but then come again the next year for 90 days. Having been a regular of many of these girls, I noticed that when they come back the second year, it takes them a little while to get into "showtime" mode where they are enthusiastic and personable with every customer, especially their regulars from last time. You may be experiencing the same kind of thing with touring girls that are moving from city to city with a significant gap before you see them again.
That fact that something seems "off" the first time or two could also come from her own insecurity about whether you have "replaced" her in your regular lineup. Now that she is back, she naturally want's her spot back on your roster.
Good info, appreciate it!
I feel for you... also did you mean real fwb outside of p4p? If thats the case I'd feel even worse.
Honestly it really sucks. I'd try to see her again if you really enjoyed her company before. I think the EV here is worth it. The off chance that she might warm up and get to similar level would be worth it to me if I were in your place.
And actually like Jensen has said I would say don't try to recreate the past but try to achieve similar plateau in the present with her. Maybe something being off or this ingredient that is missing... can reappear spontaneously.
I was in a very similar situation recently and somehow my expectations were completely shattered and exceeded in a way I didn't even think was possible. And I'm a glass half empty, cynical type of person. You know me lol.
Not trying to rub it in or anything, just saying. I'd probably be a bit crushed if what happened to you were to happen to me. And I'd try again to make sure. It would hurt a little, but once again imo if the odds aren't complete shot it's worth trying again. I'd probably try at least two more times before I let go. But then it depends on how much you valued that companionship. I valued it a lot.
Cheers
No rub in, I appreciate the post!
No, it was P4P, I was saying that we both enjoyed the session time.
It was like FWB, we both brought in some personal things we liked and wanted to share and did some OTC time.
With multi hour visits I like to bring my music, and she really liked my old time R&B.
I liked what Jensen said too and will put that in play in my next visit in a few days.
It might be pressure from the Boss/Booker that has her stressed and I'm feeling it as she has to be cool to not ruffle their feathers!
I valued the relationship, still do, and will get into the second round!
Oh you did do otc time before. Yeah that's what I was hinting at.
Good luck! I hope you find the missing ingredient ASAP and get back to the same or better (or sidegraded lol) state as before!
i was right in ur shoes about 3-4 months ago with a long time atf that gave me everything i wanted, and really great gfe. she was my atf for a good 2 solid years before business started slowing down for her so she left to a diff city to work for a while and i was honestly devastated when she left. she eventually returned after 6 months, i was all excited to see her as well but after the session, it just felt really off like i didn't have that feeling of wanting to rush back instantly the next day or so like i usually did all those times before.
i just feel like with every provider you get close with whether it be a atf giving u great gfe or fwb vibes, you create a spark and connection with them but after they've been gone so long, and you've been seeing diff girls, that connection and spark faded away overtime.
me personally, i tried to keep seeing her but the more i repeated, it just felt like i was forcing myself to repeat than actually wanting to repeat, if that makes any sense. over a span of 2 months, i eventually started dialing it down and eventually only seeing her once a month to do my diligence lmao. she eventually left again though about 2-3 months ago and if she did return this time around, i would probably just move on personally and won't repeat anymore.
i personally had a long time gfe atf for 2 years and another atf that gave me great fwb vibes as well, and i think personally, it's easier to repeat with the fwb than my gfe atf of 2 years.
i would rather move on with that gfe atf though personally but i could still see the fwb atf just once a month but only because she has that magical pussy imo. other than that, i would rather just see the new girls that i've created a new relationship with than to repeat that same gfe atf.
relaying your experience, I appreciate it.
You kind of triggered something for me.
So, I'm one guy looking at and remembering the sessions.
She has a client list, also away for 8 months, and can't remember everything that went down with us.
It surprised me that some of the small, but unique I guess to me, things didn't ring a bell for her.
I thought, wow really!
I guess I jumped the gun thinking and acting like our last session was the week before when it was 32 weeks!
I will ease back into some new fun times!
Good post!
I'll bet she's fucking someone else bro.
fucking someone else, unbelievable!
yea obv lmaoo, this hobby is better if u don't get attached, that's how I've been since I cut off my atf. pretty sure everyone went through this once but some take the fantasy way too serious n end up turning into obsessive stalkers. Heard from my fwb atf, a guy was going way too overboard and was obsessed with her, stalking outside her complex.
not the way to go and definitely not obsessed!
I guess it was the honeymoon phase where everything is new and an adventure, sex & clicking together!
Next, you're comfortable with each other but nothing is really new.
So now you are out looking to find the next Kgirl and another honeymoon phase!
This might fit somewhat or at least I hope you get a kick out of it!
Asterisk words are my add ins.
A Jesus Raza quote in The Professionals, "Great Fuckin' movie!
La Revolución/*session* is like a great love affair. In the beginning, she is a goddess. A holy cause. But, every love affair/*Kgirl* has a terrible enemy: time. We see her as she is. La Revolución/*session, Kgirl* is not a goddess but a whore. She was never pure, never saintly, never perfect. And we run away, find another lover/*Kgirl*, another cause/*session*. Quick, sordid affairs. Lust, but no love. Passion, but no compassion.
Check out the full quote if you like this part!