I'm pretty new to the hobby, but I finally found someone who I clicked with pretty well, and suddenly they are no longer around/ended up leaving. Ofc its all business at the end of the day but I'm pretty bummed. Yes this means time to try and meet someone new but I was just settling into the routine. Do girls just travel a lot near end of year?

You can ask around for her and see what others say.. Be on lookout for her when you look through the new girls in your area.  

 
One thing I know is to not outright trust those who say "she's back in Korea". It could be true, but many times it's just said so that people let go and stop looking for the girl. I've noticed some people saying certain girls were in korea and yet I'd find them her working in other states. Lol.

It could also be an instance where the girl is actually in Korea, but not permanently. Since it's such a hassle to travel there, a few of the girls I've known like to go for months at a time.

will be back or not depends on WHERE she went.  Do you have any idea?  Did she say anything the last time you saw her?  This is a good argument for giving her your hobby phone number once you become a regular.  Don't make this mistake with your next favorite.   Travel can be any time of the year, so there are several possibilities.  She is either in the US or Korea.  If she's in Korea, and she didn't leave you her +82 Korean phone number, its not likely you will find her unless she returns to the US to work again.  (They can come on the visa waiver program for 180 days every two years.  Most that do this will divide it into two 90-day visits because they can make enough money in 90 days to support themselves for the succeeding nine months of that year.) If she's still in the US, she could be on an extended vacation (there are many girls who will work two or three months and then take an entire month off to rest and revitalize themselves), or she could be touring to another city.  Be skeptical of guys telling you she is working somewhere else on the sole evidence of her photos showing up.  When a girl leaves, the photos go into the booker's archive and are pulled out from time to time to use for a new girl FOTB that doesn't have a professional photo gallery yet.  

 
If you are willing to see her in another city, then your best bet, which is still somewhat of a longshot, is to look through her reviews, and tab reviewers who have reviewed her more than once.  These guys are most likely regulars with her and would be the most reliable source for whether she is still working somewhere in the US.  Send them a PM and ask if they know where she is working now.  If she went back to Korea, they will probably know for sure.  

 
Word of caution . . . .  You are posting this under your alias.  I didn't check to see if your reviews are also under your alias.  Before you ask someone if they know where she is, use whichever name you reviewed her under for your PM so they can see you're a legit customer of hers.  If you haven't reviewed her, and you are asking them for location info, you will be likely get treated like a stalker and get nothing, so don't waste your time.  Obviously, since PM capability is required, you need to be a TER VIP member.  Hope this helps.

Thanks for the detailed response, honestly I think things like trying to track her down, PMing people, or visit in another city is too much effort, so I will just wait and see what happens. If they come back next year then great, otherwise life goes on. It just caught me off guard cus I was expecting to see them 1-2 more times before the year is over.

Same thing happened to me and I did a thread about her. The Mongers posted and she was found, I was also PM'd from a long time regular. Planned to visit the BA, but before I could she was back in town! Sometimes things work your way! Good luck!

The nature of this business is transitory and transient. Most of the girls are not "lifers", they work if they are in a financial bind, if they want to save up money to buy property or start a business, or they work part time a few days a month or a couple weeks here, couple weeks there near the city where they live to support their lifestyle (one of my east coast favorites fits in this last category). Many of the girls are also on the lookout while they're working with eyes on snagging a whale/$$$ to support them or even get hitched to. Generally, they're about making their money and getting out. Some girls of course get addicted to the money and the lifestyle so they'll stick around longer than others.

As you probably know, in life, the options for hot women are nearly unlimited and there's always a rich guy nearby, so very few girls will stay in the business for longer than a few months/year, it is not an easy job to bathe, massage, suck and fuck 5-10 guys a day and pretend you like them and that they get you off, day in and day out. Very few 'lifers'/long term girls in this biz. Like pro bodybuilders and the crazy motherfuckers that climb cell phone towers and powerlines, it takes a special breed to do this job and do it for very long. Guys might talk shit or look down on kgirls but I got a lot of respect for them. They work very hard at a difficult job and take pride in doing a good job.

In my (limited) experience, and this experience was hard-earned, if a girl is new, you need to see her early and often, there are several reasons for that. And if you hit it off, get their number/kakao so you can stay in touch.

To answer your question, no, she's probably not coming back.

One if the Kgirl legends of the past was quoted as saying "They always come back."   Well, as we know that is not 100% accurate.

I agree with what others have said regarding possible answers but you don't mention if this was one of the Agency girls or an independent provider. The agency girls will tend to move around more -- and depending on where you are that will be the norm and not an exception.

 
You also mention both "being pretty new" and "clicking well". Who else were you seeing? Just this girl or was she just a regular you saw but were also spending time with others? The questions you perhaps need to ask and get an answer to may be quite different that you know.

Yeah could be that too. But I've literally had people post "she's in Korea" as the girl was available elsewhere.

 
Some girls and their entourage do not like to be tracked. Too bad tho, in the age of internet it's not hard. I'm still working on a potential website which tracks each girl, her name variations, her previous agencies, previous pics etc. Taking me forever to write but hey lol

after a three or four year layoff should NOT have.  Lol

Well since I started seeing this girl (from an agency) I just stuck with her since my previous experiences were just not as good, and there were some continuity in our conversations and I know what the routine is (same place to park, same method of entry, same routine from her).  

What warning flags do you refer to?

Any specific names?

It's always great when you some some "go to" types in the area to rely on.  

 
Warning signs? Besides the mention or "pretty new" and "seemed to click" (or close), the posting under the alias, no mention of who and the seemingly sudden disappearance.  

 
It's not unheard of that new guys end up enchanted by some K-Girl (hell, just read the Twoon's "Kumiho Chronicles" on the board here - LOL) and think the lady has reciprocal feelings. That generally comes from the inexperience and not understanding how to keep control of natural emotional responses. Sometimes these get the better of the guy and they start creeping out the lady who knows it's all an act and really has no interest in any type of a "connection" other than a civil, profitable sex exchange. They are just good hostesses.

 
My experience when I've found some favorites and repeat (and particularly over multiple tours) we do get onto the subject of length of stay and return plans at some point. Your post seemed to indicate that never occurred but that you were connecting at some level -- and even at a purely "good customer" level is fine -- that seems a bit odd that she suddenly disappeared. Well, that can occur when the guy is misreading the signs and not getting any of the hints the there really is not the same level of connect on her side as the guy seems to be showing.

 
Just some food for thought. It is easy to forget that this is a business relationship and transaction due to the intimate nature of the activity. That can lead to emotional confusions. The girls all get this and any that have been in the game long at all probably recognize the signs very early. Now, not saying that is what is going on with your situation -- you are not sharing enough information to make even a bad guess -- but this is also one of the scenarios that play out for the "here today gone tomorrow" observations.

If I read Jensens post correctly, he's insinuating that you're a stalker who tries to get info on the girls whereabouts. He's saying (at least how I read it) you're using an alias to ask this question, plus he alleges that if you were close you could've gotten that info from her anyway (very questionable statement imo)

The warning signs he's talking about is basically you giving them off to him..

 
I suggest you pm me the name or post it here and I'll (and maybe some other mongers as well) use my sources to find out what's up. I don't see any warning signs in looking up what a girl is up to nowadays. If I can help, I will help.

 
Cheers.

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What you say makes sense, I was surprised at how initially I felt when I found out they left. Now I have come to my senses but I was never really looking to track them down or anything. I recognize its mostly just transactional and there is nothing super special about any of the previous meetings.

There wasn't a particular reason I posted under my alias, just maybe the original post was kinda lame and I didn't want the org or the girls to read it lol.

That was not really my intention in the first place nor am I really looking to pursue things further - like I said I am new-ish and maybe was a little naive but I'm over it.

The only reason I posted under the alias was I felt like the post was kinda lame and I didn't want the org or the girls to infer who I was :P  

Not sure how people generally use alias here but I guess I can see why people would think I'm hiding something.

That good and often things are just what they appear -- simple questions. Glad you're not having any lingering worries and pining for someone that is gone. Lots of good memories to make in this world.

 
You can check on in the TER Instructions Post in the FAQ for Newbies -- LOTS of good info there if you've not just wandered though it. They do have a section on using an alias and sounds like you were right in line with it. That said, nothing lame about your post at all.

Since you are new to the board KGF, I wanted to point out that there are two ways to gain the VIP access.

Many hobbyists (including myself) pay for the "privilege" as it is a worthwhile investment.

Others (lead by CDL) go the route of creating FAKE reviews to gain access.  Most do a nominal amount to just make the minimum necessary, though CDL is burning his keyboard to become the all-time leader.

This also leads to my suggestion that when reading reviews you need to compare and contrast reviews and reviewers to see what is real and what is FAKE.

Good luck and we hope you continue to contribute here!