Better Sex - ATF vs GF
When Love Meets the "ATF" Experience: A Lighthearted Look at the Battle for Better Chemistry*
Years back, I had a funny exchange with an ATF—a top-tier companion—during one of her visits from the West Coast. After a fantastic session, I joked, “We’re like a couple madly in love—like boyfriend and girlfriend!” Without missing a beat, she shot back, “Boyfriend and girlfriend? Usually, they barely have sex in real life!”
That got me thinking. Fast-forward a few years, and here I am with an actual long term girlfriend. We have a great relationship and a happy love life, but when it comes to sheer intensity and thrill, I have to admit... the "chemistry" & “performance “ are different from back when she was still working in the biz.
So, here’s the question: where’s the “better” sex? In the warm embrace of a partner you love, or in the no-holds-barred energy of a pro?
So, here's my take on it:
It depends upon what your needs are.
If you are a person looking for physical fulfillment, a first class pro sans emotional involvement would be the way to go..
If you have heavy emotional needs, then the warm partner is probably your thing.
Not that the two are necessarily mutually exclusive, but finding someone who can combine the two would be the proverbial unicorn.
My own experience is that the former is what younger men look for; but that as one ages (I'm early 70s.) the latter becomes more interesting.
Trying to pick out the best sex I ever had is difficult. It's like trying to name the best song or movie you ever heard or saw. I can think back on at least a dozen specific sexual unions, and about half fall into the physical category and half in the emotional one.
GF vs ATF
put Elly May Clampett on the Kgirl board?
your ATF "becomes" your GF. The underlying dynamic changes from play-acting to genuine passion, and there is no clock unless you are seeing them at work. The only challenge is extricating yourself after six months to a year when they start to get the urge to leave the business, settle down with you, and have babies. I'm not interested at my age.
However, I have had the opportunity a few times to meet civvie Asian women who are new in the US, and have very little sexual experience in their home country. Many civvies FOTB have no experience with BBBJ or DATY and vaginal sex for them has been plain vanilla. With a little coaxing and a test drive, they are easily convinced to let me mentor them. I get to start with a blank slate, teach them myself to do everything sexually that I like just the way I like it, and train them that there are few taboos in America, sexual expression is much freer, and nothing is off the table except things that might be dangerous, like extreme BDSM or asphyxia play. When you have trained a girl to do everything the way you like it with no attitude or embarrassment on her part, it's hard to get a professional to top it. However, it takes time and a lot of practice to bring them up to the level of a pro Kgirl. The upside is that you are paying for dates, but not for their time. I had one of these the first year of Covid, and it was a great way to spend all of the free time I had then.
Best sex I’ve ever had was with a pro. I rarely, maybe twice ever, missed Sira on a visit over the course of.. I don’t even know.. 6-7 years? She lived in Cali but would visit NoVA/Tysons frequently each year. She probably retired as she hasn’t visited in maybe two years now. Hope she’s living her best life!
Didn’t retire, name changed, check with Booker for more info
I asked her go-to agency here in NoVA, Club Paradise, some time ago and they told me they thought she retired too. I don’t know what agency or agencies she may have worked out of on the west coast and not keen on asking a bunch of them. Any leads would awesome via PM or here. 👍🏼
I only met her once years ago, however, did hear from the grape vines that she changed name, switch agency for a reason. if you don't know, or CP won't tell you, then move on!
Already had moved on and have only used CP to meet Phila/Candy in the last 2 years, and CP was my go-to for about a decade.
There's an undeniable allure I feel for the beauty of Korean women, a fascination that goes beyond mere attraction. I've found myself drawn to the subtle seduction of Korean softcore porns, especially the soft, intoxicating allure of their love scenes. Those moments where desire unfolds slowly, with the heroine bare except for the smallest slip of lace panty, her partner exploring every inch of her with hands and lips. The intensity of his touch, slipping beneath her last panty to touch, to rub her wet pussy, ignites a thrill that I can't quite resist.
When I confessed this fantasy to my favorite companion, a stunning, independent kgirl who shares my passions, she embraced the idea with knowing delight. Our weekly rendezvous took on a new rhythm as we indulged in these scenes together—kissing deeply, our bodies entangled on the bed as I traced my way down underneath her panty, mirroring those forbidden touches. In those moments, fantasy and reality melded into something exquisite, a perfect date that lingered long after.
This is my perfect date with professional.
Let me take you back to the days of a certain tall, blonde, stunningly composed MILF who was, in her prime, a weekly fixture in my life. She was a true professional—someone who seemed to glide effortlessly between dazzling looks, impeccable poise, and a skill set that could leave anyone blissfully sated.
So there we were, post-date, reclining with that comfortable sense of ease that only familiarity can bring, when she turns to me with a question. She wanted to know what I thought about our ‘relationship’ and how much I enjoyed our rendezvous. But then, without skipping a beat, she drops this pearl of wisdom: her clients' significant others should be *grateful* to her. Why? Because she was the unspoken peacekeeper! In her view, by fulfilling her clients’ fantasies and meeting their “needs,” she sent them back home as calm, content, well-behaved partners. In other words, her work was like relationship glue!
Now, I had to laugh, because while I could appreciate the confidence and, let’s face it, the entertaining logic behind her statement, I wasn’t entirely sure I bought the whole "secret marital aid" perspective. Still, she had a point—sort of. What’s your take?
It was part of one of the comedy bits on Friends with Joey's parents.
Suspect it has some elements of truth too.
Faye Desiree (RIP) had the same philosophy. She was a true courtesan in every sense of the word. Elegant, relaxed, sensual, confident, empathetic, and experienced in Tantric sex. Every session with her was pure magic.
Honestly she’s correct.
I do this hobby for physical pleasure. That’s why I so enjoy K-girls. Not much talking.
It has made the S/O and I stop fighting about sex. Keeps the peace.
