a year or so ago, when i had a paid account, there was a thread about being married to a provider.  it had some good advice and was posted on the general discussion board.

is there anyone out there who is married to a provider and can provide advice?  i will get a paid account again if someone can provide advice.

I have posted advice a few times and here is the links to a few such posts that should give some basic advice:

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=517281&boardID=12&page=#517281

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=454792&boardID=12&page=#454792

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=445767&boardID=12&page=#445767

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=419440&boardID=12&page=#419440

Anyway if you have any questions here is my fuck board email: [email protected]. Feel free to email me as my VIP will be going away shortly. I wish you luck.

thank you for the email address.  i read your previous posts and will email you this evening.  i needed to find a man i could talk to.  thank you again.

http://christianbvega.blogspot.com/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html?m=1

 http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=FTdBXLCo1Qk&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DFTdBXLCo1Qk

There is some great stuff here. Watch and listen. If I had to boil all the advice I gave and the links Zoey gave it boils down to four things.

Treat you Sex worker SO an a woman and your lover and not a "sex worker". Love her as she deserves to be loved.

Respect her choice and all it entails to be a sex worker.

Be honest with her and yourself. Let her be honest with you and to herself.

Remember she chose you to be with not her clients.

thank you for the links.  i have no problems with her work and want her to meet everyone in my life.  i am not insecure about the work and want to be there to support her.

interesting that in the middle of your inquiries your handle appears to have changed.

This will be long so bear with me, Ive had a few long term relationships during my hobby years

Respect her above and beyond all

We work in a field where husbands lie to their wives about funds, whereabouts, secret bank accounts, late nights at the office etc to be with US for a few hours!- THE LAST THING WE WANT TO COME HOME TO IS SOMEONE WE CANNOT TRUST IMPLICITLY!

Be supportive of her health and encourage getting tested together when she goes for her Doctor. Remember, her health is her job security so don't put her or her clients at risk by being shady.

Never forget that men spend their hard earned paychecks to be with her and enjoy her company all the while they adore her and many propose often. If you are lucky enough to be the one who gets it for free do NOT be foolish enough to take her for granted. There is quite literally a line around the block of gents who'd give their left nut to be with her!

Many providers express wanting their boyfriends or hubby to let her feel like her desires come first. Her entire day revolves around making others happy so its wonderful when she can know her genuine needs will come first. Be attentive to not coming across like her clients when requesting things- for instance comments like hey baby ya wanna have sex probably will make her roll her eyes.  

Don't ever put demands on her that may trickle down to affect her work. For example: "oh I don't want you to ____ your clients"  might kill her reputation if it were something that affects her reviews or performance like kissing for a gfe or anal for a pse gal. If she asks your opinion great- but don't offer it or you may come across as controlling and often even the most seasoned hobbyists are naive to what we really deal with.

If she ever asks you to drive her to work don't charge her like you are her driver! A girlfriend of mine said her ex always charged her to drive- All I could think was why wouldn't he do it simply to know she was safe out of love for her not to make a buck off her how sad right?

MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY !  Many guys seem to think dating a provider will be great cause he thinks she might be willing to support him financially.  That is the lowest form of guy and there's a word for that...

Understand she needs her hair nails tan waxing makeup etc at all times not because she always wants to but she has to in order to keep up her "inventory" so to speak-  

Stay away from her computer- no matter what- Privacy of her work station is paramount. If clients feel their info isn't safe due to some ex bf reading emails or something it doesn't just hurt her it hurts all providers who screen for their safety! We have all read the horror stories of someone splitting up and their accounts getting hijacked- don't be that dousche that puts the entire hobby world at risk because you want revenge on an ex.  

Above all appreciate her and understand her needs. Don't take her for granted. Never compare yourself to her clients- it's not the same at all you can relax. Remember she chose YOU to be the lucky one who sees her when her guard is down. Sanctuary is very important emotionally for all providers at home.  

To sum it up...
A serious relationship with a provider can be too much for most men. However if you are genuine and respectful of her world it can be a more open and honest relationship than any civie would ever get