Is when a client professes his love to you. Not that I don’t mind having admirers or a gentleman treating me romantically because we are on a “date”; that is very much appreciated. Cuddling, sweet gestures, locking eyes, touching, holding hands, kissing.. even public displays of affection (so long as it is within the time alloted) is blissful for me. However, when they begin to speak to you from an emotional standpoint and want to form a serious romantic relationship outside of the hobby is when things can get a bit overwhelming for me, especially when I made it clear that I am not seeking a boyfriend, spouse, or considering real life “dating”. A sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship is perfectly acceptable in my eyes as it is an arrangement and doesn’t overstep the boundaries set henceforth.
Ok was just wondering what make you uncomfortable.. here is why this question arose. I have had clients ask to cuddle or make eye contact. Both I am fine with but I feel odd or stupid do these things. No real reason why but just do. What is something that makes you uncomfortable?
Is when a client professes his love to you. Not that I don’t mind having admirers or a gentleman treating me romantically because we are on a “date”; that is very much appreciated. Cuddling, sweet gestures, locking eyes, touching, holding hands, kissing.. even public displays of affection (so long as it is within the time alloted) is blissful for me. However, when they begin to speak to you from an emotional standpoint and want to form a serious romantic relationship outside of the hobby is when things can get a bit overwhelming for me, especially when I made it clear that I am not seeking a boyfriend, spouse, or considering real life “dating”. A sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship is perfectly acceptable in my eyes as it is an arrangement and doesn’t overstep the boundaries set henceforth.
That's a good one to point out. Seems some let the dream last 2 long and never come back to real life..
is when a client tries convincing me to do services that I do not offer. Like, I super nice and hate to be mean. I don't wanna be rude, but when I say no that's not my thing, accept that and move on. Don't try telling me you're clean, or were recently tested, or you care about me, or will be gentle, or anything. NO MEANS NO. lol. It makes me so uncomfortable I just want to end everything right there.
Yes, exactly! It really mucks up the mood that I've consciously tried to foster when someone tries to push my boundaries. I just don't understand why being with a sexually available, willing, attractive, and friendly woman just isn't enough for some folks (just kidding, I know it's because they've been conditioned to believe boundaries are negotiable). When you're being let in to what some consider a very sacred place, please have some respect.
I believe that most providers genuinely do their best to make this experience flow nicely and create a comfortable and welcoming atmosphere where clients feel valued and catered to. It would serve a client well to step back for a moment and focus on the positive aspects of provider (and generally life) and stop dwelling on getting every little detail checked off the list. I've had to cool things down for a moment many times and remind my dates to just /be in the moment with me/. I think it really comes down to that - enjoy these moments that we have together, appreciate the cumulative experience. Just like I choose to pick out and focus on the positives about my dates, I would hope that they take the same approach. Dwell on the pros and don't let the percieved cons ruin what could ve a fantastic time!
... too much eye contact is one (i've actually had guys ask me to NOT close my eyes) ... eye contact helps keep the connection but let's not stare holes into each other souls lol.
And "forced" dirty talk or ear licking (on me).
So much to reply to!
First, Ms Mocha, I am truly sorry that some idiot thinks the slave rape scene is okay!
As for uncomfortable things...I find laughter helps. One of the weirder scenes I was asked to play involved stomping on a plastic toy car (provided by client). Another guy I know likes stiletto heels on his balls. I personally am not into having my toes sucked for long periods of time...
When it comes to a hard no, simply make it clear that you don't do that.
Men and women need to do their research! Read all of her reviews to see what they say she does and when in doubt ASK her if she will do whatever it is you like. Ladies, read all the reviews HE has written to see what he says he likes. In the end, we are all different, communication is key. Let's Have Fun!
"when in doubt ASK her if she will do whatever it is you like." Explicit communication is a quick way to be on someone's DNS list. Most providers will break off all communication if you ask if she does _____.
1st: Have any of you ever unsolicitely contacted a client after a date, to see if he is available or when you will see him again. I have had this happen and I found it really weird.....
2nd: Have you ever had a client walk away at the door or initial greeting. If so, do you expect any donation for your time that you spent getting ready or waiting? The reason I ask, is because I treat the hobby like an actual hobby. I’m not here because it’s my only option to bust a nut. If I go to an incall, and the provider is not using true pics or pics that are a true representation of her I will leave. Same with an outcall, if I am mislead and the product is falsely advertised, I will not give that provider my business. I have had providers request partial donations because they claim I wasted their time. I feel it’s the opposite, they have wasted my time. If anything, they should offer a reduced donation to get me to stay. If someone is charging/advertising me a steak and lobster dinner, then tries to offer me nuggets and fries, I have a problem with that.
Let me know ladies
1. Yes I have contacted clients after meetings if I knew we were a good fit or if I had a super deal out of boredom. If they say don't contact me for whatever reason I do remove them from my list..
2. Yes u should pay a donation if u booked a time and then end up canceling . Not full amount but atleast 50% . That is only if it's the same girl in the pictures. If it's a total bait and switch they get nothing for fake advertising.
So if it is the girl, but the pics are not a true representation, she is still deserving of half the donation if I do not like the product. For example, girls use pics that only highlight their good qualities or one good quality. I recently went to a incall, and the girl that answered the door was obviously the girl from the pic, however, they were not a fair representation of her. In her pics, they where mainly backshots. The reason being, she had a hug gut and missing teeth. If she advertised that, I would have never wasted my time getting ready or driving there wasting my gas. She got no donation and she did not deserve any. I walked away, and texted her, that she should show her true self in her pic.
Well there r limits on that. Pix that r super old or they changed shape now ya r no good .. but if she is atleast close 2 what she posted in an ad...she deserves 50% .. if you just didn't do it homework that's not her fault... sounds like next time u need to ask 4 a face pix ...
Nothing grosses me out more than when a client puts their feet on me or asks to touch mine or licks or touches my ears....I usually wear stockings for a reason...I HATE FEET....and it pisses me off because I ALWAYS let them know in the begining that they can lick kiss touch whereever they want EXCEPT for my Ears & Feet and its like they purposely push my buttons to see how much they can get away with
Gentleman....No means No!!!
When someone sets a time to get in contact with me yet no contact for many hrs after that and acts like I knew what they were doing...
Usually I find good in all I encounter....but what makes me most uncomfortable IS when a gent bites my ear! ughhhh gives me the creeps!
... not too long ago I saw a very well reviewed provider who's pictures were easily 20 years old. I knew they would be old since I have been seeing them for several years but the magnitude of deception was remarkable. While I was shocked when she opened the door she is still attractive for her age and in good shape. Based upon the recent reviews I knew I was in for a good time so I decided to stay. If it wasn't for her reputation I probably would've talked to her about it and left.
Maybe not in line but a top 50 Tampa lady made me really uncomfortable. She delayed our appointment by 30 mins then invited me in. She delayed another 45 mins telling me it was ok she would make it up. I set up a 90 min appointment and had a wonderful time once things kicked off. But after the 75 min delay in the beginning and then a 30 min run an errand for me at the end, more than three hours passed she stated I owed her for the additional time. I made my escape but felt played. I did provide a review on a different forum and was contacted by others with the same story.
I also have walked out out once on an Orlando lady when the photos where not who I met. I still think I met the mother of the lady in the photos. She is still active and getting good reviews.
Wow her delays and what not shouldn't fall onto ur wallet. If she wasn't ready to see you either she should of not took the appointment or been upfront with you at least. And old pix is 1 things but bait n switch is a scam and shouldn't be talorated..
Old pics is nearly the same things as bait and switch. If the pics do not represent what I will see upon our meeting, they should not be used. The only reason a provider would use pics that are old and do not represent how they currently look is to bait you into setting up a meeting. Once the meeting takes place, they hope you go through with it, because you are horny or have already invested to much time and effort to start your search over. Both line......... using old pics that do not give a fair representation are dishonest.
Reading all the responses to what bothers providers, I just think these are the same things that occur at the beginning of a normal relationship and you hammer them out over the duration but since many visits are one time, you rarely (except in Tina's case when she makes it clear to start the date) get a chance to discuss.
One point - I believe that its the provider who can be the chameleon and adjust to their visitor's preferences (without of course crossing those boundaries related to health and safety) that receive the highest ratings, earn the most and get the better clients.