There's this guy I've seen a number of times. He's GREAT when he shows up. He's attractive, fun, sexy, nice, and even sometimes tips on top of the donation (of his own accord).
BUT he has become REALLY BAD about canceling appointments at the last minute lately, and just as often being a complete NC/NS. I am not the only one he does this to... On one of the bad client sites he has been reported by a handful of girls for repeatedly doing the same thing to them.
Since he lives about an hour from me, I will no longer agree to go to him for outcall, because I don't want to drive 2 hours round trip and have him not be there. Now if he says he is coming to my town and wants a date, I have reluctantly agreed, as of late.
But today, he did it AGAIN. He was supposed to come to my place, and 15 minutes before the appointment time I asked him if he was almost there and he said he was running late and still at home (an hour away) so we should just make it tomorrow. This guys seems to have NO regard for my time, or the fact that being a businesswoman in this respect requires scheduling.... It's one thing to have nothing going on and just sit waiting for him and if he doesn't show, "oh well"... but today I blocked off the time for him on my calendar, which required me to postpone the meeting requests of a couple other gents who wanted to meet.
Now today, he essentially cost me money by not showing up, because I could have been with a client who respects my time and was going to be there for the planned date.
I think I know that I should just cut him off. Am I being too harsh by doing so? Or should I have done it already? Sometimes I am too nice. Like I said, he's great when he actually shows up.
And if I cut him off, should I tell him why? Or should I just say I can't see you anymore and leave it at that with no given reason?
I hate to lose a client in this economy, BUT I must remind myself that losing one unreliable client will just make room for a better, more respectful gent with whom to spend my time.
Your thoughts, TER people?

is tell someone like this gentlemen to "give me 30 minutes to get ready" or what ever heads up time you need. Yes, I have a few that seem to always have things come up more than I would like but seeing each other for awhile our good history keeps me wanting to see them. Obviously you feel this man is worth the aggravation since he has done this to you before. If he feels likewise for you then he'll risk his time to try and reach you for a short notice date. Both win and you won't lose out again.  

Kisses Haley

What if I told him straight up, "Look, you've last-minute canceled and NC/NS on me SO many times recently, and it really disrupts my schedule and wastes my time. I like when we spend time together, and I would love to continue to see you, but I cannot tolerate your disregard of my valuable time. If it happens again, I won't be able to see you anymore."

Maybe would that work? That way I am still trying to be "nice" but also letting him know I just can't take his crap anymore, and if he does it again, I'm done with him.

...trust me, I know!.....lol!  So do what you will with the info, but it is true.

And guess what, someone dumped me (actually 2 of them, I think, still waiting to hear back though from 1 of them....lol!), so I think I am available....lol!  Outside of South FloriDUH!, many think I am a pretty good client!

Lots of disposable income, FWIW.......lol!  Always a plus.....

I will recommend the same thing to you I recommended to a lady friend today. If the person cannot respect you and keep the date, dump him. If you were to give this person an ultimatum, think about how he would take it and how he would treat you on the next date. Would he still be a respectful gent or try to push your boundaries? Also, my other piece of advice I gave to my friend was to maintain her self respect and do not allow anyone to walk all over her.
On a side note, I checked out your pics on your site, you look hot and yummy. The next time I can make it to Florida, I would love to meet you if available.

so why waste your time trying to get with him. I just got over all of them doing that sort of thing. I think and my provider friends say I am mean. I know this I have no tolerance for a guy who thinks so little of me that he plays games. There are so many games they play that I just do things like make the honk the horn so I KNOW they are even in the car. Photograph the money when they say they a great deal of it for me. If they say they have a bunch of guys I want a pic of them. If they are on their way where exactly are they and prove it.

Just got tired of the games.
too many real good guys out there to get jaded by the few jerks.
Renee Holly

The bottom line is that clients have to respect your time. It is a basic courtesy.  Respect is respect.  You certainly would not see them doing this if they were going to their doctor, dentist, hair dresser...you get my point.  It is a sign of disregard, disrespect.

If they cannot be respectful, then you do not need them as a client. There will always be another client.

You can always stipulate that future sessions require a deposit (greendot, paypal, etc)

Three strikes and your out. That's my opinion.

Why give him anymore thought?

He would have blasted you on TER and/or the other boards so why give this Habitual offender anymore chances?!

Cut him off completely. No explanation needed. Block his number/email. If he finds a way to contact you then just tell him your all booked up.

You are his second or third option for that given time slot.  He's one of those guys that don't give a shit about anybody's time but his own; he's a sociopath.  If Plan A fails, you get paid.  If not, he's paying another chick and fucking her, while you sit like the Maytag Repairman.

Now re-think your question: "I think I know I should just cut him off.  Am I being too harsh by doing so?"

How much money are you really losing if you cut him off?  An hour a month?  Four hours?  

How much time a month are you wasting on this fuckhead?

Sometimes you need to fire your clients, in every business.  Just based on PRINCIPAL (yes, it's allowed here), I wouldn't let the asshole darken my doorway ever again.  

One sure way to get rid of him: tell him you're starting to have feelings for him...you know, THAT way.  You'll never hear from him again.

This is one of my pet peeves.  I both had a wife and business partner like that so i couldn't get away from that kind of person, day or night.  I came to the realization that there are certain people like that, thinking their time is more important than others.  This type of person will miss habitually flights, tee times, appointments, etc., having no concept of time while keeping others waiting and waiting.  It's just in their psyche.  Yes, I've also experienced this in the world of hobbying with NCNS on several occasions, including a few where I traveled or moved my schedule around for nothing.

I have no toleration for that and as a result I no longer travel for the sole purpose of hobbying.  Been there, done that and wasted too much time and money for nothing.  In other facets of my life I simply go about my own business not worrying about theirs.

As a few others have mentioned I'd quit wasting my time and money, cut him off and move on.  There are plenty of fish in the sea.

a-clouds

Yeah, he's done it no less than 5 times in the last 3 weeks. I've come to expect it. I am too nice, I guess, which is why I kept letting him make appts. No more.

Thanks everyone for your helpful responses.

Now not only will I not feel guilty about dumping this client (and for the record, I plan to just keep telling him I'm booked up when he inquires) ... But also I'll have more time freed up for those of you gents that know how to respect a lady's schedule.

XOX

~ Carmen Sinclair

When I first became a companion, I went with the 3 strikes your out scenario. Not anymore, if a guy is a NCNS just one time, he's out. If he cancels last minute, I will "sometimes" give him another chance. However, if he cancels twice....he's out. I will not tolerate a guy who doesn't respect my time or me as an individual. (I use the term guy...because a gentleman wouldn't behave in this manner)

Paris Bouvier

lol lol lol lol lol and everything you said your so right