1). Appearance and personality are equally important to me. I look for both qualities and will only chose to see women to whom I feel physically attracted while at the same time sensing that a warm, personable, and sensual connection will be there. 2) website ( how she sees herself) - reviews ( how she is perceived by others) and ads all give me further insight into the personality and appearance of the woman and a sense of whether we will "click". Pictures are important as the style and choice of photographs also message a lot about how the provider wants to be perceived. Explicit photos are not necessarily the ones that entice me the most! 3) Correspondence. A providers response to my initial inquiry is first indication that the chemistry will work. I am not looking for an email relationship, certainly not prior to our first date, and understand why some women might be reluctant to engage in one. When it does happen, I of course enjoy getting to know the provider better and consider that opportunity as a bonus!
What do you look for at a minimum? What makes you comfortable choosing someone? How important is a mental connection? Or is physical appearance more important? Equally important?
Also, put these in order of importance in choosing someone (if you'll indulge my curiosity):
Website Reviews (quantity? quality? the Numbers?) Manner in correspondence (how she communicates with you in writing) Manner on the board (how she communicates here) Photos Ads (i.e., where/how she chooses to advertise- does this have a bearing?)
Provided that she is cute to begin with, for me attitude is the genesis of a successful experience. Mental connection, physical connection and just about any other type of connections are born of a great attitude. What's interesting is that in some cases, attitude goes a long way toward making even an average appearance look good. With respect to appearance, face is a bit more important than body, but attitude can still make both of those look better even if they are not quite my preference
My rankings...
1. Reviews (quality and the digits) - back channeling is key here. Reviews in a vacuum are overrated. 2. Manner in correspondence (if she can fuck with my head in a good way before we meet, I have yet to have a problem) 3. Website & Photos - These two are about equal. Pics are usually Photoshopped to some degree, therefore discounted to some degree, and the Website is her view of herself and her communication style at a fixed point in time. It's static and a bit staged, so not always a great indicator of who she is in the moment. A blog adds a bit more value provided it's updated more than once every 8 months 4. Ads - If all the other stuff lines up, I don't care where or if she advertizes 5. Manner on the board - Not critical because many ladies don't do this. With that said, there are a few, I'd like to meet based on their posts alone. I might not fuck them, but I'd probably enjoy dinner.
Posted By: MT91151[/usernamOe]Provided that she is cute to begin with, for me attitude is the genesis of a successful experience. Mental connection, physical connection and just about any other type of connections are born of a great attitude. What's interesting is that in some cases, attitude goes a long way toward making even an average appearance look good. With respect to appearance, face is a bit more important than body, but attitude can still make both of those look better even if they are not quite my preference
My rankings...
1. Reviews (quality and the digits) - back channeling is key here. Reviews in a vacuum are overrated. 2. Manner in correspondence (if she can fuck with my head in a good way before we meet, I have yet to have a problem) 3. Website & Photos - These two are about equal. Pics are usually Photoshopped to some degree, therefore discounted to some degree, and the Website is her view of herself and her communication style at a fixed point in time. It's static and a bit staged, so not always a great indicator of who she is in the moment. A blog adds a bit more value provided it's updated more than once every 8 months 4. Ads - If all the other stuff lines up, I don't care where or if she advertizes 5. Manner on the board - Not critical because many ladies don't do this. With that said, there are a few, I'd like to meet based on their posts alone. I might not fuck them, but I'd probably enjoy dinner.
1). Appearance and personality are equally important to me. I look for both qualities and will only chose to see women to whom I feel physically attracted while at the same time sensing that a warm, personable, and sensual connection will be there. 2) website ( how she sees herself) - reviews ( how she is perceived by others) and ads all give me further insight into the personality and appearance of the woman and a sense of whether we will "click". Pictures are important as the style and choice of photographs also message a lot about how the provider wants to be perceived. Explicit photos are not necessarily the ones that entice me the most! 3) Correspondence. A providers response to my initial inquiry is first indication that the chemistry will work. I am not looking for an email relationship, certainly not prior to our first date, and understand why some women might be reluctant to engage in one. When it does happen, I of course enjoy getting to know the provider better and consider that opportunity as a bonus!
I would say that the first is appearance followed by reviews and how she corresponds. The mental connection is very important but you don't usually know if that is there until you have met.
You will probably get a lot of different answers but as a minimum: Nice phots that show entire body and not just pieces of it or it may appear you are hiding something - we know why some photos are only from the chest up , good reviews, independent with a decent incall location.
Comfortable = good quality reviews that you can tell were written by a decent professional guy. A nice incall location. The fact that you screen makes us comfortable.
Connection - Physical appearance is important and a mental connection is good if you want to continuing seeing someone. Physical will be different for all guys. Some like legs, some tits, we all like a nice ass , some like small and slim, some like a lot of curves. There are plenty of hot bodies out there doing this but a good mental connection will make us repeat and write good reviews. I had a good mental connection with someone in Orlando (she's in SF now) and it was so hot between us it was incredible. I've seen some with awesome bodies that acted like they were doing you a great favor by just laying there.
Order of importance:
1. Good quality reviews. Numbers don't matter but 1 isn't enough. 2. Photos and web page with rates. I've never called anyone that put "call me" by their rates. Personal web page is best. BP scares us...we actually screent too! 3. Corresponding with us after we make contact. We know the importance of screening and what you to do it, but understand our need for discretion and anxiety with giving out work info, ect.. Basically be patient and work with us - some of us don't see a lot of providers every week. I'm luck if I find time and opportunity every other month. 4. Manner on the board. It's cool you're here and we like to see new photos here.
Before I try and answer your questions, I want to thank you for your positive contributions on this board. Your board presence and the way you communicate are very attractive to me. Without knowing what you like, where you’re located, etc, I already feel comfortable that you are a decent and safe gal. Mentally, you have already connected with me. Now to answer some of your questions more directly. I'm in no position to take any more risks than I am already taking. So, safety and discreteness are a top priority for me. You can be the hottest lady in Miami and offer me free service, but I’m not calling you unless I can't get enough info on you to assure me that you are legitimate beyond shadow of a doubt. Once that is established, I'm interested in the basic GFE services from an attractive lady in the age range of 25-35. The age range is not written in stone. I have seen girls younger and older and enjoyed my playtime. Appearance and performance numbers are only a guide for me. However, they are equally important and a good starting point. I like beautiful faces. While I'm attracted to many different body types, a pretty girl with beautiful eyes and a big smile will always get my attention. I'm typically looking for girls that score “around” 9 in both appearance and performance. The mental connection part is important. Whether it's genuine or not, I want to feel like the young lady I'm with is happy to be with me for that hour or two. I read the reviews and try to get a good idea of the "warmth" of the lady. If I read more than once that the girl was a bit cold or disconnected, I'll pass. Order of importance; Quality Reviews-w/o them forget it. (KK reviewed you, and your posts are great---you're good!) I don't get hung up with quantity. Photo's- I got fooled once by photos. Now I make sure they are recent and that they don't look like you are hiding something. I can live with imperfection, but I don't want to go in expecting one thing and getting another. Communication on the board is a nice plus. It helps the mental connection. Emails, pm's, and texts are important for confirming appointments. My time is valuable too, and I like to be sure we are on the same page. Flirting is nice too. Proper English is a big plus. Ads are only important if you don't communicate on the boards. Well, that's my (long) story and I'm sticking to it. We are all different, so take my views with a grain of salt. As always, it works both ways and ymmv.
What do you look for at a minimum? What makes you comfortable choosing someone? How important is a mental connection? Or is physical appearance more important? Equally important?
Also, put these in order of importance in choosing someone (if you'll indulge my curiosity):
Website Reviews (quantity? quality? the Numbers?) Manner in correspondence (how she communicates with you in writing) Manner on the board (how she communicates here) Photos Ads (i.e., where/how she chooses to advertise- does this have a bearing?)
Appearance gets you the 1st date, performance gets you the 2nd, and chemistry gets you the 3rd, 4th, ...
I'd have to agree with that. And to choose someone for that first date, my ranking would be: 1 - photos 2 - manner on the board ( to get an idea of the chemistry) 3 - reviews (for me, just to make sure she's legit) 4 - manner in correspondence 5 - ads
I have to like what she looks like and know she does the things I like (GFE) These 2 are first and foremost and are dealbreakers. Mental connection may happen or not and is hard to predict but if I am very physically attracted to her I will probably enjoy the session, just may not repeat. I think manner on the boards may give me a indication of her personality but it can be totally different BCD (take London for example, I can't say I always like her attitude on here, she is entertaining to say the least, but I bet BCD she is totally different) Advertising doesn't matter, there are well reviewed girls using BP. While a website and pics are nice its not a dealbreaker.
Appearance is critical but photos aren't going to tell the full story. I really love it when I have the chance to meet a lady in another setting (M&G) prior to scheduling with her but that is not always possible.
The mental connection is another key. Again, tough to do without meeting but a good history of email and PM connections can go a long way.
I love it when a lady shows her personality on this board. You, Sarah, have told us a lot about yourself in your short time on the board and we appreciate that. A real good sense of humor adds to a lady's attractiveness in my book.
As far as the rankings, I'll take a shot with the following:
1) Manner on the board (how she communicates here) -- see comments above 2) Manner in correspondence (how she communicates with you in writing) -- love some personal banter back and forth 3) Reviews (quantity? quality? the Numbers?) Quantity should be just enough to give a fair appraisal. Quality is important but sometimes must be taken with a grain of salt. Numbers -- well, they re truly subjective. After all, one man's 10 in looks may be another man's five (and very often that is the case) 4) Photos. A must but seldom tell the full story. 5) Ads (i.e., where/how she chooses to advertise- does this have a bearing?) This doesn't really matter to me, other than the fact that I strictly use TER and seldom look at other boards for ads.
1. Consistently good reviews (one or two bad ones will not sway me) 2. Attitude here, in correspondence, in voice communications 3. Ability to contact the provider via telephone 4. Physical appearance is among my lower priorities
1. Photos--i.e. appearance. If I'm not attracted to her, then why bother setting a date? 2. Reviews--i.e. performance. I need to know if I'm going to enjoy myself or is she a "going through the motions lady, clock watcher, etc. Quality of reviews over quantity any day of the week. 4. Manner in correspondence--I don't want to spend my time with a HS dropout who can't communicate during the down time. 5. Manner on the board. Is she a fun person to be around or just in this for the $? Website 6. Ads--I could care less where or how she chooses to advertise
My #3 is not on your list. I need to be able to stay within my "play budget".
Personality is the most important thing to me? It's true, no matter how hot the lady is, if she has a personality that clashes with me, I don't enjoy the time together as much. A great personality will bring me back even anytime.
Does volume matter? Meaning, do you prefer and actively seek out low volume providers, or is it not important? Also, how do you gauge that?
I have to say I am very pleased that for many of you a mental connection is just as important as any other kind of connection. My brain has to engage before my body will, and if there is nothing going on in his, and I can't invent something convincing enough to get myself hot, I'm not gonna have too much fun. Luckily this hasn't been the case in the hobby...touch wood it won't be. It has been in civvie life, however, and it's such a disappointment!! Especially if I have been hot for someone for a long time, and have fantasies built up around our sexual merging...there is no feeling quite like that sinking realization that I've bedded a potato.
I'm not gonna see some BP gutter rat that posts 6 times a day for $40 specials. Even if a girl says she only sees 1 or 2 a day I expect its a few more.
Volume is huge. I will NOT see girls that see more than a date a day. I have a lady in Tampa that I see regularly. She provides me with everything in a perfect provider so I'll tell you in no particular order. She's smart, sexy, willing to deliver, connects with me in an unbelievable manner, can cuddle and talk if that's the mood I'm in as well as 'suck a golf ball through a garden hose' and oh yeah, she's gorgeous. She's over 40 thus experienced and after about a dozen dates, we've both been incredibly honest with each other on everything. Its a very rare connection and allows me to 'shop' outside of her only rarely. I feel VERY lucky.
Since I have enough friends in the hobby, and have met numerous ladies at M&G's all over the country over the past half decade, it's rare for me to have to e-mail a lady in response to her ad that I haven't met previously. Not that I have forgotten how, though.
What I look for:
a) Hobby presence. b) Excellent reviews here on TER. c) Promptness in responding to e-mails, or alternatively, phone calls or texts (if I know you are cool with that). Anything beyond 48 hrs. upon first contact tells me you're not interested, and it's time to move forward, dred. d) Your presentation on your website. You want to appear to be classy, yet a little bit naughty, i,e,. fun to be with. The pics there should be indicative of such as well... e) As for what will make me see a lady again? Chemistry...
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, good reviews, independent with a decent incall location.
It has been in civvie life, however, and it's such a disappointment!! Especially if I have been hot for someone for a long time, and have fantasies built up around our sexual merging...there is no feeling quite like that sinking realization that I've bedded a potato. 