I never thought of myself as any good in bed. I was a late bloomer but I have come a long way in a few years. My creativity usually gets the best of me so straight sex pretty much bores me.
I mean, NOT when you in your own mind THOUGHT you were, but when did you become completely 100% certain that you were a GOOD LAY?
Were you taught how by someone who could teach you, was it a SO or provider?
Was it all trial and error, practice makes perfect?
Did you think you were, and then later had an epiphany?
Were you deep in prayer and received a calling?
In my case, I was a virgin until the age of 21 (really) I was just taught the basics of the birds and the bees. I had not dabbled in sex, and had only a few partners until I was married, and then married again lol I think my epiphany was with my almost 3rd that I realized I enjoyed GIVING more than receiving. It was an artform for me and that there were better ways to enjoy sex, just not the same old missionary style. LoL
By the time I stumbled onto this lifestyle and have been in it almost 5 years now, I had it down pretty good. My BBBJNQNSCIM was out of this world, and as my reviews where saying it every single time. That's when I knew I was GOOD at it.
when you say "My BBBJNQNSCIM was out of this world, and as my reviews where saying it every single time. That's when I knew I was GOOD at it."
I got a taste of that twirling tongue once and wholeheartedly agree.
As far as your question goes, I'm never 100 per cent certain that I am a good lay. Hell, that's why I keep "practicing" with different ladies to try to improve my game and get it UP to the level that it needs to be! LOL!
It is truly a "learning experience" and when ladies like Gabby are instructing me, I sometimes wish I could be a "slower" learner. LOL!
I laugh when I read reviews where the guys describe themselves as having huge cocks or extreme endurance.
I don't have any illusions about myself. I'm a decent looking guy with an average sized cock (I've been complimented for girth more than length) and know that I'm an attentive lover with an insatiable appetite for cunnilingus.
I hope that the women I'm with enjoy the time spent with me, and my skills in the bedroom, and forgive my shortcomings (or sometimes my quick cumming).
Is there really a way to Know? I have left sessions with a smile on her face as big as mine, of course she got paid. I have had other sessions that I tried all the tricks that I know and got very little response. I think it boils down to if both side like sex and niether has an attitude both will be good lovers.
In my much younger days, I was a big fan of the happy hooker, read her columns in penthouse magazine. Learned lots, and was lucky enough to have a few open minded girlfriends to read and practice along with! She preached a novel approach, have fun and enjoy it.
I found a stack of old Penthouse Mags in my ex SO closet, when we were making room for my clothes . and came across her articles. We would try ALMOST everything she wrote about.lol
I was taught my bj skills by a much older man who took my virginity. No it was not FORCED, just coerced. He took his time teaching me a skill he liked to call "watch those teeth".
I did more than just dabble... I was pretty much a full swinger by the time I was 21. Then I got married and settled down for 12 years.
After my divorce, in my 30's I remember being told by a lover that I f...d like a rabbit. That kind of stuck in my head.
I suppose my true epiphany was with my 2nd husband on the day we met and I gave him head 4 times. After that, he told me I was going to be his "bj slut"....the rest is history!
By an amazing woman that I met while working at a camera store in college.
I sold her a Hasselblad and she gave me a weird look as she slipped me her card before she left. It said "you're so cute." on the back.
I almost creamed my pants. I was 19. She was a Swedish photographer, 33. Not making this stuff up. She took my virginity and pretty much made me her sex toy for a few weeks. She taught me to please her in ways I didn't even knew were possible. Then her boyfriend came back to town and it was over. That also taught me a lesson: Huh. Women cheat too.
Anyway, she gave me a lot of confidence, and I started dating girls at my college. What a disappointment. I had to teach them everything; but, I began to get a reputation and I had so much inexperienced tail in college I'm glad I got no one preggers or caught something.
But I always had my photographer lady in my head. A few years later, I hooked up with a woman 10 years older than me while working in London. Oh my God, yeah: that's how it's done. She was the first one who told me how great it was and I actually believed her. Wow. I'm still a younger guy and I enjoy seducing younger civvies and teaching them a few things. You're welcome guys. Some women my age have caught up, some not so much.
I owe everything to, let's call her "Anika." I still dream about her
I never thought of myself as any good in bed. I was a late bloomer but I have come a long way in a few years. My creativity usually gets the best of me so straight sex pretty much bores me.
I started my current career at age 20 and was in a strange foriegn land within 6 months. For the last 26 years ........You name the country , I have lived there. 6 months here, 4 months there, but NEVER at "home" for more than a month in any given year. Vietnam, Cambodia, Mexico , Europe , India , hell, I lost count a LONG time ago. I am currently in San Palo and have little hope of being on Ft Lauderdale beach for the holidays. Sounds exciting ..........Think again. I have sacrificed a personal life for this "exciting career". Currently I am 46, NEVER had a girlfriend, never been on a "date". As far as I know, I don't think I have even made a female "wet". Fuckin' sad ! In all honesty I MAY have had sex maybe 25 times in my ENTIRE life, and half of those are with a few providers in the last 5 years or so. I started playing in this sandbox to try and gain some confidence and learn how to be a "lover". It's looking like this game plan won't work, as I simply lack the experience to feel comfortable touching a naked female. I am too far gone and it's looking like you can't teach a old dog new tricks. At this point I am about to go back to a life of celibacy and just accept things the way they are. I admire all of you ( men and the ladies ) on your sexual liasons and freedoms. I simply freeze up, lose the abilty to speak and think, and look like an idiot !! I REALLY WISH I COULD HAVE THE MINDSET YOU ALL SEEM TO HAVE !!!! A "good lay" - Yeah , right, that's funny !!!
On a positive note though .....I've never had a mortgage payment, electric bill, or car payment and have 7 figures in the bank. I just got approved for my retirement package and my Bahamian citizenship !!! I bought a brand new boat and jetskii ,and am looking forward to shopping for a love shack on a deserted island somewhere in the Exumas !!!!
Currently accepting applications from providers with big tit's who can cook a GREAT meatloaf while wearing a skimpy bikini !!! I will try and be a good lover, but need some training and patience
you blast richard but then post that the guys bank account makes you wet arent you exactly the kind of girl he was warning the poster about sure seems like it go for the gold or credit cards whatever fits im sure its just rumors
AnOther Alias "dickhead cubed"?!? (or is it a private club) xxx Jinni PS. You don't understand (it's not hard) laugh a little and quit being so miserable.
This is a great thread Cinnamon!!! Self confidence is important in this game play on behalf of the guy and the gal. Arrogance is a downer in the play time. I try to be open, do my best ever trying to please the lady. And I'll let the lady be the grader of how well or otherwise my part of the session goes. CORECTIVES noted by your partner goes a long way toward improvements but criticism is destructive.
Did not answer your question earlier. Prior to my first sexual encounter, I read a lot of books including sex stories. This followed by putting into practe what was learned bookwise and this was followed by the direction of Dewey the great educator, "learn by doing" and being done.
I looked old for may age in school. At 15, had the luck and pleasure of dating a 20yr old that was built like a brick house. Definately put me through my paces and taught me a thing or two. That was a good start.
Next girlfriend wanted to save herself for the right time. OK with me and understood, but she was naughty and open to oral and all sorts of other things. Gave me lots of time to practice how to please without sex.
I hear I have some skills, hoping the ladies just aren't blowing smoke. Trick is you always have to keep learning new things.
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