Stripping is "fantasy land"...It's really more look and use your imagination, but don't touch. Strippers make their money being a tease and are better liars than actresses, for the most part. Because of the fact they lie alot, guys are harder customers and are disrespectful now more than ever. When the guy's been taken for his hard-earned money, he either doesn't go back or when he does return, he has a defensive attitude.
Making money stripping isn't as easy as it used to be.
I started dancing in 1996, before lap dances. I started because I really needed the money and didn't want to work a full-time job. I also have an exhibitionist streak in me
but I'm also shy, so it's a funny mix. Anyway, even before I get on stage now, I get the "butterflies"...that's until I do my first twirl around the pole. I love the attention and all eyes on me...I feel really sexy and love to get into the music and vibe of the club, not to mention all the hot men I come in contact with hehe 
Strippers that do extras in the club are running the risk of getting the club shut down. Not a good idea. I'm not into extras because I'm afraid I'll get fired. So I'd rather make plans after. Even then, I want to have seen you more than once, meaning you come back to the club, spend some more money on me and ask me that question again..."What are you doing later?"
A stripper will more likely leave the club with someone she's attracted to or who shows her wads of cash. The strip club scene has really changed and that's when I started looking into other alternatives...
I found out about ter over 2 years ago. I signed up but didn't advertise or participate really until I got my first review. I read the board, but made few comments...the whole industry/lifestyle was overwhelming. And I was going to take it slow because I couldn't risk getting caught, by loved ones or ...
Now that I've been in both worlds, I can tell you...they are two different aspects of the many in the adult industry. There are similarities, but I believe it's coincidental.
To answer your question StripClubExtras:
A stripper is a stripper and makes money taking off her clothes, dancing and turning men on with their sexual energy-but it's not usually likely you will get what you find with an escort. They sell fantasy, not reality.
An escort give her client the one on one time he craves and is skilled in many erotic arts...
There really is no comparison...Unless you book your own private show (make sure you have a pole ready!!!)
And of all the escorts I know, only 2 have been dancers first.
Out of all the dancers I know, none have been escorts (but a few looked for work after..) and some got into relationships with customers (not the norm). The ones that got into relationships with their customers (2 ladies come to mind), they ended up breaking the guy's marriage up (both guys were married with children) and then marrying him and quit dancing. I didn't think that was cool. I hope to never be the cause of something like that.
One of the guys I saw years later, divorced for the second time and dating one of the dancers I was working with...I guess some never learn.
I can't decide which I like better, so I continue to do both. I dance when I want to and I escort more often than I dance at a club...but for me, dancing is a fun way to stay in shape, so I'm dancing all the time.
As for anonymity, if you dance outside of your neighborhood, it's doubtful anyone would find out. I think one is safer being a dancer as opposed to an escort posting pictures and ads on the internet. The internet though, that's forever...even when the website's gone, there are archives and people that collect pictures...so to think no one will find out is a fantasy.
Just how ya handle it...
xxx
Jinni