I was reading one of the posts recently and it made me think about my first experience in the hobby and how I got involved.  Im curious to know how and why you ladies got involved in this industry, what your first experience was like if you ever regret it?  As for the fellas, how they ended up starting in this hobby and what their overall experience has been and if they ever regret it as well?  For me, I clearly remember the first time many years ago.  It was for the excitement factor as it was something I've always wanted to try.  I started this hobby by visiting "shops" so it wasn't the best of experience.  After thousands of dollars and years of trial and error, I've realized that certain agencies and usually certain highly recommended independents are the way to go.  I only wish that I knew about TER back then. Please share your experiences.

I got involved in webcamming for fun on a popular website and after having casual sex with one of the members he told me I could make money doing it.  I was working full time as a full charge bookkeeper then but had a oil-water relationship with the office manager.  She pissed me off one day so I went into my office and remembered what my friend had told me previously about making money.  I placed an ad way back then on a popular website and I only took 2 calls from everyone that called.  The first guy I met with was a CPA and we laughed and then had a great time and he became a regular.  The second young man was an outcall to Doral at 10pm.  We didn't stop until 3am and I slept until 7am then went home.  Low and behold he was my first reviewer and HOTCOUGARMILF was born and having fun ever since.  It's a great life... you should live it to the fullest each and every day.

I was nervous as all get out and based upon that one experience, can't believe I had a second.  Not the providers fault, all mine.

I have not had sex with my wife since and never will again.  

Since that time I have met with many wonderful providers and have become a "regular" with a couple of them.

Regrets, I really don't regret my time in the hobby.  I regret not legally ending my marriage.

My parents fought over everything and they only stayed together because of us kids.  NOT GOOD because we had to witness firsthand all the nonsense and everyone was unhappy in the long run.

I know not everyone is fortunate enough to end a relationship for one reason or another and I'm sorry it has not worked out for you.  A man has needs though and you shouldn't feel guilty for that.

Wife thinks pussy is made of gold, stops having sex with husband. Husband says fuck that bullshit and starts p4p.  Same as other poster...haven't had sex with her in years and never will again. If divorce wasn't do damned one-sided and expensive, I'd be gone.

My first experience 3 years ago was just so-so. But they're getting better!

After the 2ND kid It became a challenge to get any thing sexual going with the wife. Me Not being able to get away from work she started going away for part of the summer with the kids as they were out of school leaving me to 80 hour weeks and her running up the credit cards having fun.  Then came the I don't dress sexy anymore because I am not comfortable with my body.  Had to do something but wished I had discovered this as to titty bars.  Now the AMPs have there place but the hobby is the top of the food chain,  even though I do not see the 10s or the expensive ones.  Regrets that I was not man enogh to put my foot down years ago and either fix the problem or leave.  

My first time was shortly after I started my business, I had lots of free time and was on the road alot trying to drum up business. Being that I had invested alot into starting the business I was kind of cheap on my first experience. It was alright, not the worst I had but I did learn that you get what you pay for. I started hobbying not because I wasn't getting any from a significant other but because what I was getting was vanilla. I wanted more PSE with some GFE thrown in.

After kids came along, I got thrown under the bus. I let it go because what we were having before that was just plain boring.

For the longest time I suffered from what I call "Proud Syndrome This is where a guy convinces himself that he does not need to pay for it. Why pay for it when I could get it for free was my mindset. I had been married twice, once for 11 years  and once for three years. During the years that I was married, I would constantly get phone numbers and opportunities but remained monogamous. Once divorced and single, it was like I had Chick-Repellant on me.

Working as a Wine Steward at a very high end restaurant in Wash. DC that was a hotbed for some of DC's working girls I was having a conversation with a regular client. Guy-talk led to him imforming me about a gorgeous exotic looking latina who was sitting at the bar. She was an UTR girl who just radiated sexuality. She came by the bar often but I had never spoken to her. I used a fail-safe ice breaking line on her. I first introduced myself as the Sommelier and asked if she wanted to try a couple of Brunellos that we were going to added to the Captain's list. She smiled and agreed, a long conversation ensued. By the end of the night she gave me her card and told me to call her. I still have it.

I called the very next day and agreed to meet at a local hotel. She is my very first review (Julie). Unfortunately, she was pissed that I reviewed her and I only saw her once but the sex we had blew my mind. I had never been with a woman that hot who or a woman who was as sexually liberated as she was. For a guy who all his life only knew a few lame vanilla positions, who had to beg for a blowjob from my wife, who had never had a woman wash me in the shower, rimm me or even kiss me as passionately as she did. I got more pleasure in one hour with a provider than 14 years of marriage. The rest is history and I have been hooked ever since.

They have a saying in the Army - what goes on TDY stays on TDY.  Same thing as what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas.  When I left the military I missed the thrill and excitement that went with it plus I met a few good women along the way and I missed that thrill too.  My first venture into the hobby was with Sunny in St. Petersburg, FL.  The first was a massage but we quickly moved to the bedroom and had some great times.  (I wish she was still around).  I don't do this a lot but I guess it is mainly for what I don't get at home in the bedroom.  Sex is good at home but I want it more than a couple times a month.  I like lingerie, hose, stockings - you know  - a woman getting fixed up just for me.  It just doesn't happen like that at home that much anymore so every now and then I go spend and hour or so with a very nice lady.

I had friends in the biz already so this was not a new arena for me however I felt that I could meet interesting people plus increase my income tremendously in order to afford going to school and have excellent grades.
Regarding the first time..it was a bit ackward but I was lucky to be with someone who was patient, charming and totally understanding so it wasn't that bad in fact I regret I did not enter this industry before.. This is the best "job" I've ever had! I love every minute of it and I wouldn't change any of the experiences or insights I have gained that can't be possible in the real world.

Like many of you, I too found myself in a marriage that sex was no longer a need for my partner. I waited patiently for many years and hoped that things would get better and our sex life would revert back to the way it was previous to the children and health issues. I was faithful to my wife for almost 20 years before finding TER in 2011. I was longing to give and receive some TLC.20 years with same woman...the last 4-6 years( I lost count) without a bj. My first experience was nothing short of incredible. I will never forget that night. The kissing and touching, her hot breath as she went down on me. Her warm wet mouth...it was like I was tripping on something and having an outer body experience.
The guilt and remorse didn't set in until a few months later. It took me a while to come to grips with myself and the hobby. Part of it was sadness in accepting the fact that my sex life at home was pretty much over. After that it was just plain guilt. Fortunately, over time I have worked thru these feelings and I feel good about my choice. I am very happy now and I'm glad to be able to feel the passion of being with a woman again. I have no regrets.

I agree with you 100%  i'm married with kids but only together for the kids.  We never fight in front of them and i am looking to end it soon but am dreading not being able to see my kids whenever i want.

You guys ate great and thank you for sharing.  I often felt like i was the only one who felt the way many of you feel with your home situation with your SO.  Its true that sex is important and sometimes is missing or n. ot the same with your SO no matter how hard you try. I also felt guilty at first but came to the realization that i am happy with the choices that i made.  I hope to meet some new close friends here.

You have been on my " list " and are gaining vertical momentum !
Advancing your education is something I admire and would like to contribute to .Smart chicks are HOT !!!
I would like to think I am patient , charming, and understanding, so just maybe ...............

Posted By: palomam

I had friends in the biz already so this was not a new arena for me however I felt that I could meet interesting people plus increase my income tremendously in order to afford going to school and have excellent grades.
Regarding the first time..it was a bit ackward but I was lucky to be with someone who was patient, charming and totally understanding so it wasn't that bad in fact I regret I did not enter this industry before.. This is the best "job" I've ever had! I love every minute of it and I wouldn't change any of the experiences or insights I have gained that can't be possible in the real world.

part of a relationship and if that is not there from the beginning it ain't gonna get there in the end.  IMHO!

I continue to give all that I can to my family, but I don't want to go back to living w/o some sort of sexual relationship. I'm a warm and loving person and I need to share this with a woman. The hobby is teaching how to do so in a non committal way. It's all new to me, but I love it. The ladies I have met appreciate me and my business and they have taught me a lot. In fact, Mr Vanilla here, just had a little chocolate swirl mixed in and really enjoyed it!