A gentleman from this board and a couple of others forums scheduled a meeting for this evening and he seemed nonchalant about my decision to come out because the weather is bad and he lives 50 mins from me. I also have tail lights and brake lights out on the back of my truck and school tomorrow from 930 am to 630am tomorrow. Well this man will keep you talking on the phone MUCH longer than what is required to complete the conversation if you get my drift.

So I texted him to let him know I could not make it out tonight for the above reasons. Since that time, he has filled up my voice mail with nasty messages about he will do everything he can to ruin my business and will change all my reviews he has posted or post new ones stating how I blew him off for another "j o h n".

I am at home in sweat shorts and a tshirt making revisions to my website, working on advertising, and preparing for school tomorrow and making sure my "helpless in the kitchen" teenagers have food to eat while I'm gone all day tomorrow.

So, I guess for some people, reviews are a very important bargaining chip or tool, however you want to put it. He has now sent me a nasty email message and is just totally inflamed over this episode.

And I might also add, that I stayed at his house for over 2 hours the evening I visited him previously, and only asked for or ever expected the donation for one hour.

I am now afraid of him, a little shaky, rattled, and tense over the whole stupid episode. So, in your opinion, good or bad; should reviews be used and held over your head this way?  

-- Modified on 8/7/2009 6:50:19 PM

:O What a jerk!  

Someone else from another board tried to do this to me, too.  We did NOT have a confirmed appointment.  In fact, I told him that I would not be free this evening because I had another appt scheduled and I work on a first come, first served basis (pun intended hehe).  He then proceeded to lecture me for fifteen minutes on the phone about "blowing him off" when, in fact, I did no such thing and made it clear I would not be able to accommodate him tonight.  I even offered an ulterior appointment for him as a courtesy for tomorrow and he insisted I "give him a good discount" since I didn't show up or he’d blast me on the other board and on TER.  I told him to go for it.  

It's BS.  F him, girl.  Tell him he can post whatever he likes and you'll be happy to dispute his claims with the real story both here and on your site.  You're under no obligation to see anyone; if you choose not to for WHATEVER reason it’s none of his damn business anyway.  He’s not obligated to tell you HIS  personal life, is he?

Damn, thanks.  Sounds like the same guy.  ARe you in the Tampa area?!?!

Thanks for your response.

...into what you ladies have to put up with sometimes. Most of us are gentlemen, but a few are A-holes and always will be. The guy in question should be reported to TER.

Changing a review he has written just because you couldn't make it is not allowed but i'm sure it has been done before. I'm sorry you are being bullied by someone like this as most men here would not consider such ramblings.

I too have been known to go way overboard to be friendly and then find it is expected each and every time.

If his review does show up with a new revised version contact TER and let them know about your problem. Copy and paste your post here too the message which will place a date on this situation.

Here's the part that is going to really hurt your gentlemen friend as you were so nice to him...Cut all contact and never see him again.

Now go get the lights fixed on your truck before you get in an accident and get hurt.

Kisses Haley

How said you were treated in this fashion – you (and any other Gentlemen reading this) know that A-holes like this are the exception to the rule – all I can say is what I learned a long, long time ago  .  .  . ‘Sticks and stones can break my bones but WORDS CAN NEVRE HARM ME!’ – Yes, that’s an ‘old’ one but so am I!!

This piece of s#@t is not worth the worry!

After dealing with some providers who are not as gracious as you about communicating in the event of not being able to make an appt; I understand why some guys might get the wrong idea.

That being said. it's a shame some of us can't look past our own selfish needs; and realize that not everything goes as planned.

As least you tried to do the right thing by informing him. Nothing much else you can do now besides not respond to him and possibly out him to TER.

"he has posted or post new ones stating how I blew him off for another "j o h n".

Kind of a possessive MF-ing creep, is how I would categorize this piece of work.  His statement says volumes about his own insecurity.  He should be seeing a shrink, not a provider.

Pathetic that you have to be exposed to folks like him, and fortunately you know this is not the norm.  Be thankful for the decent guys you come in contact with in the profession and forget this POS.

put up with A-holes like this.  Block his e-mail address, block his phone number, and blacklist him to the other ladies.  Note:  You might be dealing with 2 separate guys or the same guy.  If you two talk, you can answer that one for yourselves.

Treat this like the gov't would!  LOL! Don't negotiate with him.  If you didn't want to see him (for WHATEVER reason) then you didn't want to see him.  He needs to move on.  He is obviously perverse and needs to be called out on whatever "do not see" boards you ladies are using!!

He is a member of this board and another forum where he has posted a 2nd review of me that is bad.
 
He actually put in the review that he is retracting my original review from about 3-4 days ago because I cancelled our second meeting.  He is trying to say I see 5-6 "j o h n s " per day!  Anyone want to borrow some moola!  LOL OMG!  

I cannot believe that other board let him put it up after I had emailed 3 or 4 emails and actually forwarded his email threats to them that he was planning to use this board and the other one against me.  I think this forum has caught it, but the other one, I can't get them to answer me back.

Should I out him right here or in the provider's only section?  

I HAVE had 2 other providers come forward privately to me and tell me they had the same experience with him.

Thanks for the support guys.
XOXO

Your alter-ego said it best, "You, sir, are no gentleman!"

F him, like I said.  Out him on providers.  I don't have access to it yet but I'd be happy to share my guy's name with you in email so you can avoid him.  I don't think we're talking about the same man, mine was in Gville.

I'd be curious to know who he is myself so I can avoid him.

Again, sorry that happened to you, hon.  You can email me through my site if you like.

Thanks I sent you an email.

After all,
tomorrow is another day!

XOXO