I'm pretty new to this scene, so maybe my experience today isn't unusual, but I found it very odd. I set up a time to meet a provider. She told me, "Go to [thus and so place] and call me when you get there." OK, I did that. When I call she says, "Now take a left at [wherever] (a few minutes down the road) and call me when you've done that." OK, no problem. As I'm taking the left I call -- and get no answer. She has one of those "mailbox not set up" situations so I can't leave a message, but I'm sure she has my number (she called me earlier, after all). So I pull over in a convenient parking lot and wait. I try her again after a few minutes; no answer. I wait about half an hour (well beyond when our visit was supposed to stop) and call her every 10 minutes or so. Never any answer. I finally give up and drove away. This took place early this afternoon; she still has never called me.

What do you suppose happened? She's a well-reviewed provider here on TER, so this situation really surprised me. I don't know what to make of it. I have no reason to be upset really, just disappointed and frustrated by the whole thing. I thought I was 5 minutes away from a hot date and ended up with just silence...

Alien abduction?

muwaaaaah!
Lexi
Gold Club Escorts

Disappointed and frustrated are reasons enough to get upset.

Who knows why she didn't follow through on your appointment, but I'd have to say it's pretty inconsiderate, and I'd be upset. She owes you an explanation, if nothing else. Did you give her your TER handle? She may have viewed your lack of experience as a negative. She might have gotten a call from a regular...but again, who knows?

I typically ask for an adress so I can Google the directions from my house to her's. If she's not willing to give it, she doesn't need my business.

I had emailed her my TER handle but I don't know if she got it or not since she never emailed me back, just called me eventually after she had missed my first follow-up call. Never mentioned an email or anything to me on the phone. [shrug]

Maybe I am upset after all. I'd really like to see her, but now I have no idea what I'd say if I ever actually got her on the phone again. ("Remember me? The guy you stood up? WTF?")

I have never given out my specific address to anyone...No matter how well known or how many reviews they have on TER...That is a huge no-no for us ladies. I also don't want my address in any GPS.

Now I do use the 2 call system and mine is very, very easy.  Plus, I have never had any problems with that at all...I keep my phone right next to me while I finish up the last minute touches to my incall waiting on his arrival.

I am not speaking for the lady as I do not know who it is, however, I agree, it is disrespectful.  Contact her and give her a few days to respond.  Hopefully, there was no emergency beyond her control..But you do deserve an explanation.

Makenzie

Hair on fire, phone flushed down the toilet, maybe.

I would give her a couple of days and if she doesn't respond to your satisfaction, post it here.  She will then have a chance to respond.  That's what the board is for.

I've had similar experiences, thinking I was going to have some fun but ended up in frustration.  Is it possible that you did something that made her nervous?  You said that you are new to the scene, so  I would not rule that out.

Great answer Makenzie...My thoughts exxxactly

xxx
Jinni

Hi ExhibGuy,

As a provider, I would like to thank you for addressing the situation in this public forum with such discretion. As soflaguy said, this is what the site is for.

I cannot speak for the lady in question as I don't know her side or situation, however, there is a reason and neither I nor you (nor anyone else BUT her- really) just don't know what it could be.

I would advise you contact her via email and let her know you were disappointed (that is if you still would like to see her). For many experienced hobbyists, this is a good way for a lady to LOSE business, ie. they won't try to see her again and will tell others of their "bad" experience (by posting her name as the "offender" on this site).

Please keep your gentlemanly manner in your communication with her and give her time to reply. You might want to pm her the link to this thread you started so she can read (as I read) your total confusion and see what a gentleman you are. Give her the option to just reply that she did receive your email and will answer in an allotted time (date/time) -for example, her reply could simply be:

Dear ExhibGuy,
I received your message concerning our previous plans. I will have time to reply by Monday, July 12th at 9 pm)

She may need some time to be able to organize her thoughts and respond. Be prepared to accept her reasoning.

If you want to see her, you should not allow frustration or disappointment in the "run-around" to be reflected in your communications with her. And by no means, continue to email her and call her if she does not answer. This can be considered "stalker-like" behavior and then you really will never get to see her and reflects on her good instincts at not seeing you for the appt. Right or wrong, this happens. However, should she fail to respond, it is at your discretion whether you will share the information of who she is publicly(here) or privately (via pm).

You say she's well-reviewed and a professional.

Something may have spooked her. Who knows??? With a little suave effort, you may find out and then, if "the stars align" and you want to try to see her again, start off fresh. If she's a pro, she'll make it up to you.

Heck, I've had my phone die and not have packed my charger, not have a car(travelling) with my car charger to my phone in it and missed out on business because I had to get a taxi, go to a few places (with the taxi meter running!) to find a charger for my phone only to find out I missed several calls for appointments but not to call them, they would call me back. And of course, when my phone had power, it didn't ring!

So, life (and in most cases, it's SHIT!) happens ... Luckily, there are plenty of fish in the sea (maybe not the Gulf, but that's another story entirely )

Good luck on your quest(s?)

xxx
Jinni

Jinni,

Thanks for the thoughtful reply, from a provider point of view.

Actually, I've decided just to drop it. There are plenty of other options available, and I certainly don't want to give anyone the impression I'm "stalking" them. I've been giving her the benefit of the doubt that something must have just happened that was beyond her control. I honestly just hope she's okay.

She has my contact info. I'm thinking she'll let me know what happened when she can, if she's a professional. If not, no biggie. Might be for the best, in fact.

The only thing that really bugs me is not knowing what happened. But I believe I can live with that.

ExhibGuy

Maybe you drove by her window and she decided she did not want to meet you.

Well, um, thanks for the vote of confidence and all... But I know that didn't happen, she had no way of picking me out of all the traffic in the area...

There is really no excuse.  Send her a PM and give her three days to respond.  Then post her name.

You are behaving like a true gentleman.  I would be more upset than you.

Classy guy.

ExhibGuy,
You have a pm
xxx
Jinni