Read the above post...and see if you can tell us what the magic or 'telling' word or phrase is?
What is the tip off for the behavior mentioned?


Now I'm off to Tampa so you kids are on your own for a while.
Play nice....don't tease (in the bad way)...and no putting anyone's pigtails in the ink well.
Anyone gets out of line....there will be spankings.

C ya soon.

I only bring this up because it's one of those situations where there doesn't seem to be a solution and it's aggravating as hell.

I got yelled at by some provider yesterday because she wouldn't discuss anything over the phone. Okay, understandable...but if she doesn't answer her freaking emails either how am I supposed to find out if she even engages in the type of scenario I was interested in?  The personal websites don't answer every question imaginable.

Not everybody lives in Tampa or Orlando. I live 90 minutes from both cities and I sure as hell am not driving 90 miles to some location only to find out in person "No I don't engage in that scenario"

If you have the feature on your BP ad for prospective clients to email you, then answer it. If you have no intention of answering your emails, then disable the damn feature already. Obviously it can be disabled since not every ad allows one to email the provider via BP.

I am also CHALLENGED. I am going to really try to figure out what you're talking about.

undrneathMK,
I'm sorry you got YELLED at for being a POTENTIAL CLIENT... WTF is that?

I cannot speak for anyone else BUT...
when MY phone rings... I am GRATEFUL for the call.

People not answering emails sometimes is an issue and is downright rude. However.....anyone who asks for specific acts without first asking if it is alright to do so is wrong in doing so. I think this person here needs to learn how to read reviews. Maybe become VIP and a lot of his questions will be answered.

To answer your question DD, maybe this person needs to look elsewhere than BP for his company. We do have some awesome ladies here!!

that was like ketchup...
right in front of my face!

[drum roll please] read her reviews with a VIP membership.  If at least several reviews indicate she does "x", then it is usually safe to assume she will do the same for you.  Also, read the lady's web site.  Ya gotta do your homework fellas.

I've not searched on BP so I'm not sure of what feature the OP is refering to.  I'm sure most ladies do not sit by their computer 24/7 to answer emails from prospective clients.  If a lady doesn't get back to me in 24-48 hours, I will move on.  Now, it the OP was emailing her (through BP) at 9 pm to get a date fro 10 pm, shame on him; a lady needs time to screen.

I think the "telling" word is- "BP"

Signed,
Horshack

..is not something that the majority of ladies will do, whether by email, phone, text because they would be incriminating themselves.  Its the easiest way for LE to bust a lady, and a huge red flag if someone insists on discussing specific sexual acts.

If you are requesting or detailing this information in your initial email, this may well be the reason you are not getting a reply.  The suggestion to ask first if the lady is comfortable with discussing this is a good one...at the least she will likely at least respond to say yes or no.  But by putting it out there immediately, shes going to assume you're LE and delete the email.

Reviews are your #1 resource for finding out what services a lady will provide. It is anyway a good idea to research the lady you are interested in seeing.  That way, you are more informed and can be optimistic about the lady you are about to see.  Especially if BP is your preferred souce, it also lessens your chance of being taken advantage of or being busted yourself if the lady has been well-reviewed here and has a good reputation.

So yeah in short, being discreet in your correspondence will up your chances of getting replies to your emails, and doing your research will help you make the right choice as to who to see.

Some of you people have been doing this for long, you forget everyone starts out a newbie at some point and sorry, but we don't have all the resources out there at our fingertips at the very beginning. Personally I used BP only because I think it's format is easier to peruse as opposed to some other sites which are design and navigational nightmares.

(One nice thing people could do for newbies now and in the future is share the names of some of the reputable resources that everyone is talking about being out there. For someone new at this, how in the hell are we supposed to tell what site is more reputable than others?

I DO study the ads. The term "Fetish Friendly" in an ad doesn't mean a whole hell of a lot (or explain a whole hell of a lot) other than they "might" be interested in exploring it in a session. First of all, as I mentioned before not every question is answered on someone's website. That is of course assuming they even have a website.

As far as getting a VIP membership, to be honest it seems 90% of the providers posting don't even have reviews here so it didn't seem worth buying.

keystone,
No I don't email women at 9:00 looking for dates at 10:00. I prefer using email in doing my research on providers because like most married men, I don't really care to take the chance of someone calling me back at a inopportune time.
I thought I was trying to follow the advice of the people here and do some prior research which to me means contacting providers I might be interested in a few days prior to the day I was looking for, judging their responses and narrowing it down from there. But obviously that doesn't work well since so few of them ever respond.

Maybe I am showing my newness at all this but you would think the women would show a little more professionalism in contacting prospective clients back. Granted, engaging in my profession isn't going to get me arrested but if I blew off everyone who contacted me wanting my services, I wouldn't be in business for long.

Well unless 95% of the providers seem to share the same characteristic of habitually choosing lousy computers, I think I'll stick with my theory about lack of professionalism.

I'm glad you have a life. I do as well.  If you're having personal issues to deal with at the moment that prevent you from engaging in that important component of business known as customer service in a professional manner then do us both a favor and don't bother advertising.

Maybe she is concerned about the fact you tried to discuss a specific scenario with her in the first place.  It does not matter all that much if you discuss such detail over the phone or in an email.  All emails are tractable to the end user.  It is very likely that she became concerned that you were trying to entrap her.

I never discuss any detail over the phone or email with a new client.  If they bring up a taboo topic I cease all further contact.  Maybe I am over cautious but being cautious has served me well.  If you are interested in learning what a provider is likely to permit it is best to read her reviews.  

Nowhere in your post do you mention reviews or any other research. BP is okay if you can verify her on TER. After you cross reference her to TER, you read thru the reviews to get all of the details. If you still have questions, you can try and pm a trusted reviewer and get further clarification. The process is fairly simple. All of the info you need to ensure a positve experiene is here on this site. If you are using this board, I don't know why you wouldn't  follow the protocol. In any event, be safe and enjoy.

gogo

Well, I'm sure a lot of the ads on BP are not even a real girl, but rather  fishing for info...  Thus, waiting around for a computer to respond  will not get you to your goal my friend....lol

So if I misbehave I get a spanking?.... mmm  lets see how naughty I can be... please please...smile

Happy Friday!

Kisses,
Lexi

For my part here's my 2cents, what the ladies & gentlemen do here is not PC, there have to be "fences" for the ladies especially, simply to protect themselves not only from LE but also from creepy guy's.

I agree with Amytai that before your going to start to openly ask pointed questions you gotta clear it with her 1st, maybe just ask her "hey what are you okay with discussing on our call" think about it from the other end. Here's a lady who has NO idea who the heck you are, doesn't know you from Adam, her concern may be LE or creeps and many ladies may not want to discuss specifics either on the phone or email period.

Look at it this way, if she doesn't reply to your email and that's the 1st interaction you 2 have then even if she does do A, B or C that your looking for how well do you really think the "date" would turn out? probably not the way you had hoped.

To me that just screams move on and keep looking, course that's just me and what the heck do I know

I also thought it was Carter for years because...
they had such heavy NY accents in that show.

The point was to suggest that "BP" was the answer to the DD question.
Not sure if I got it right, but hopfully we'll get an understanding tomorrow.
It was still fun anyway you sliced it.  Hopefully, everyone enjoyed the humor.

I agree with amytai. Another way to gather info about an activity is to talk with the guys that have reviewed her. They may be able to help you with what your trying to find out.

And a good indication of the ladies' email ability is if there's a way to contact her other than phone (ie. "Visit my website and fill out my contact form" or "please email me @... ")

There are some BP providers that don't post their own ads, so don't have access to your emails. Others want to screen you first before any type of talk about scenarios.  

Like keystone kid said, "Find the ladies' reviews & READ them..."

I use BP rarely, if ever so maybe you should look elsewhere for the quality customer service you so desire

xxx
Jinni

Called you Pink Cancer I'd have covered you too.  Just cause I only got a 6th grade edgycayshun don't mean I ain't loyal to my brothers.

Hey MK, there are plenty of newbies here trying to help you out including me. You are already here, so you do have all the same resources at your fingertips as we do. Speaking for myself, I went to the newbie self help section and read thru it over and over again until I was comfortable. Most everything you need to know is there. Research is not contacting providers. First you do research and then you contact providers. There is definetely a set of rules regarding contacting a provider. It does sound like you are breaching the rules and most providers will delete your email. I've never used BP, but think about this for a moment. You say 90% of the girls on BP are not reviewed here. I'm sure there are legit girls on BP, but your percentages go down bigtime. The world is full of scammers. It is very difficult for scammers to get on to TER AND be well reviewed. Thus, they will migrate to BP and other ad sites.
You are putting yourself at great risk. Do yourself a favor and read up before you proceed any further. If it's a matter of $, wait and save up for a well reviewed girl.  Safety should be your first concern. I hope this helps.
gogo

part of this than others, meaning they answer their email much more timely.  I think what you will find is that the ladies you find on TER, either with reviews or posting on the local board, will have a higher level of "business practices" than others.

Yes, we were all newbies at one time or another.  TER saved my a$$ from a ROB in the beginning.  If you want the details, send me a PM.

'Carter' would indeed sound EXACTLY like 'Kotter"!

First of all let me say, I do appreciate everyone's responses. There was a lot of great advice in there. (Thanks Golmgo

I realize now yeah I was going about it all wrong. On my first couple of tries with the email thing, I got lucky and they did respond so I started to think that was the norm instead of the other way around.

Anyway, you all convinced me to get a Ter membership so that is what I will do and go from there.

thanks everyone!

If not after one follow-up, I move on.  That generally doesn't happen, though, with ladies that have a presence on TER.  Having the right references helps smooth the way, and you should be able to discern what you can expect by reading her reviews.  The ladies are quite clear on their websites and ads that they do not discuss compensation or services with first-time clients, so maybe if you have something specific in mind, you should be playing with someone you already know, or have the references needed to get past first base...

I originally wrote that a couple of weeks ago and having been to two providers since then and not feeling like a complete noob now...I see the wisdom of everyone's words and advice (mucho appreciation to everyone

I actually came up with an idea (copyright pending hehe)  where instead of discussing anything over the phone she might feel uncomfortable about. I direct her to a url address on a personal website of mine where an image of the activity I am interested in is featured.

At that point I just ask if if this is something that is possible... a simple yes or no answer is given and they seemed to be comfortable with that method of expressing what I might be looking for in a session.

hey it works for me anyway

thanks again everyone