Wondering if anyone (provider or client) uses any sites like fetlife or adultfriendfinder.com in their personal life

Most hobbyists have a personal life. There is a difference between play and love.  It sounds as though you may be looking for love in all the wrong places. Most hobbyists have a personal life (love) and are looking for a fun escape from that.  Most providers have a personal life (love) as well and do not need those sites for play. Big Difference!

It is what is is!

I never thought about it like that.
I wasn't looking to mix personal pleasure (civilian) and business pleasure (hobby).
I was just curious if anyone else (like me) sought both in on-line forums.
I posted it anonymously because I didn't want to share my handle.

Just TER and the sites you mention have two totally opposite standards/bases. To seek both is unique and I find it intriguing that you do!  No big deal about the alias, apparently there is alot of that going around these days!

I used to videocam on adultfriendfinder and met up with guys for casual sex.  Met a guy on there and I wanted to be his friend only (he sucked in bed lmao) and he introduced me to escorting, voila!

Actually have done both recently.

Started using providers 6 months ago and also used Ashley Madison.  What I found is AM is that it is just too much work trying to maintain the relationship.   With a good provider, even though I love them all, it is strictly business and I love them for that.    Provider is the way to go for an easy relationship, plus the advantage of meeting so many beautiful women.   Life is short and I wish I would have started this years ago.

Actually YES!
I am still active on AFF, because I swing in my personal life, if I have time. I guess you could say that escorting is an extension of what I'm not getting at home, but I do get off on "stranger" sex so why not get paid for it? LOL! My BF knows and supports all that I do so why not? We have met couples off AFF and I think I get solicited more off that site than BP ads but I digress... The "fan" mail from AFF is a boost and the paycheck from escorting is an incentive. Why spoil the fun?

I do NOT think it would be fair at THIS time in my life (being an escort),
to MISLEAD a man on a Civi dating site.

I ALSO don't think it would fair to the Civi women ON that website...
I have been promoting myself in a sexy & sexual way for YEARS
& it is something I have gotten proficient at.

Civi men are usually  interested in me because,
at THIS point in my life,
ALMOST everything I do, I do in a way that has SEXUAL undercurrents
(when not OVERcurrents hehehehe)..

When I retire some day...
AFTER my LIFESTYLE CHANGES (drastically),
I might try J - date.

I heard mixed reviews, but it seems to be the place for this type of encounter. Plus it will give me something to do with all the dirty pictures I have of myself.  LOL

I have a very vanilla sex life at home (and that's when I get sex at home).

With TER, I can find companionship--for an hour, hour and a half or other time period.  Sometimes I see a lady just once.  Other times we connect and have a long-term, mutually beneficial relationship where I pay for affection, sex and conversation.

With AFF/Fetlife, I explore fetishes or sexual interests with like-minded adults and hope to meet people for consensual encounters where I don't have to pay-to-play.

I might explore some of those fetishes/sexual interests with escorts as well, but sometimes they aren't into those things.

I understand why you're using an alias (like me) but so wish I knew who you were.....

It's great that your BF supports you.   Does he ever participate?

...I think it is great that you have all of the resources, know what you want and have been able to have each site work for you for what you are looking for. Yay!  

In your first post, I misinterpreted it and was concerned as some hobbyists may try to meet a girlfriend through TER or just want to play with a genuine lady from AFF who may really want a boyfriend. As long as the boundaries are drawn, you know what you want and you are able to enjoy yourself through the resources provided from both sites that is awesome!  

Happy Playing!

I have no illusions about the limits of relationships through TER and continue to be skeptical of AFF and fetlife but willing to try.

I think I need to get out more. LOL

I love finding other members of the tribe---providers and clients.

Your J-Date comment was priceless.

Yes! Well, in swinging, he's in the dominate role so no sex with strange guys. Not at the full swap level just yet We mostly swing for the girls! I have an active page on AFF, he does not, but we go to clubs too and he can have his pick as long as I am present (and it's fine with me because I do bore easily with him) LOL!  When I decided to start escorting, which I had been lightly dabbling in for years, and yes, he knew; he had no problem with me getting with guys because the motivation is different (or so he says)! I check in with him often to make sure he's still ok with everything and he makes sure I'm safe with work and there has never been an issue. I think he gets off to having a hot chick come home to him and help him expand his sexuality way more than he ever imagined!  

I wouldn't have chosen an alias but I didn't want to paint myself as a way bigger slut than what I am... LOL! I mean I'm not out screwing everyday, I limit who I see escorting, and not open 24/7, but I do have a good share of sexual experiences and "O's" that would make an average person jealous! And yes, I am very responsible, I do think before I get busy, don't drink and fuck, ALWAYS use a cover, and see my Dr. regularly and visit a few clinics for safety measures in my spare time. I like to think that I am making some good memories for when I'm 90 and in the nursing home...

And I'm not telling.