Ok, so there's a provider I've seen a few times. She's absolutely stunning. Perfect in every way in looks and body. In my opinion that is. I'd say she was the prettiest provider I've ever seen. I've always done hour sessions with her and I've always had a hard time finishing. I have no idea why. It's not her looks of course. No complaints about the performance or connection. Everything *felt* great.

Last session I had was a dissapointment because she ended session right on the dot. Actually like 5 mins early which is why I probably won't repeat with her. Even though she is amazingly beautiful.

I've never had any issues before and can usually cum on que. I'm thinking my problem might be:

- session too long
- too enchanted by her looks to concentrate

has anyone else had this problem when with someone they shouldn't have a problem with?

Just wondering, I also have had this finishing issue. It usually takes some doing to get me off at the end, but everything else is fine....It started with a porn star, so I figured performance anxiety, but everything else was fine, just the finish. I'm about 50-50 now. Could be age....

I don't understand your not seeing her again if you are enchanted with her looks/performance/connection, because she ended the session on time. 5 minutes is about how long it takes to get your clothes back on and say your good-byes. When time's up...time's up. You looking for a little extra...on the house?

Have you started taking any medications lately? Anti-depressants side effects include 'sexual side effects' - which IS inability to orgasm.

I took them for 4 days about 10 years ago, couldn't cum with my SO - then tried the ol' faithful - myself - same thing, I thought my wrist was gonna fall off. Quit the drugs immediately and in a couple of days back to normal.

OK - so if you're not on medications - nevermind. LOL

hopefully, this tid bit might help someone else.

Nope, no medication. And I'm fairly young - very early 30's.

You have a good point regarding the time being up. Guess it's my fault for not finishing earlier.

Just happened to be looking for reviews on a lil lady who travels to NC but lives Orlando area and saw your post.
Yes, I did/do on occasion have the same problem---however, I figured it out to be associated to two things: 1. I am concentrating too much on pleasing her (because she is so beautiful, and is enjoying the ride as much/more? than me that I just hold back way too long(
2.Also 90 % of the problem was with the male raincoats---kills sensation and slips off to where I got paranoid THEN TA DA, a provider introduced me to the FEMALE raincoats and the sensation returned---when is the last time you saw your Johnson heading for his fav hiding place with nothing on)Her raincoat is in place and Johnson just slip slides away without a worry in the world;P Read up on 'em! Johnson needs to be in his hiding place for a minute or two before he gets all wound up---heat from both of you helps soften the material so you and she feels like nothing is standing in the way. You can kiss her face/mouth/eyes/ears while waiting, and it's o.k. for Johnson to twitch a little while waiting---LOL  Wish I was even close to your age again---ENJOY!

I have found this happens when you hold back for too long. Timing can be a very tricky issue. You want to play for as long as you can but at some point if you don't complete you never will.

Also the pressure of the clock may be intimidating you a bit. It is just plain rude to be 5 minutes before it is time to go and still be pounding away with no end in site. If you think that an hour is enough, then book 2 hours. This way as the hour ends you will be able to relax knowing that you have all the time in the world. You can take a break drink some water and start again. Make a habit of booking much more time than you think is needed to get the job done. Leave time at the end for some afterglow. Haven't you ever been to a yoga class? They say that the last 15 minutes when you meditate are the most important part of the class.

The fact that you are so goal orientated lets me know just how young you are. completing is great, but the journey is where the true value lies. You wonder why some ladies won't see anyone under a certain age? This is a good example of why.

Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own orgasms. It is not her job to make you have one. It sounds like she did her job to create an environment that you could enjoy and yet now you probably wont see her again because you had a personal problem beyond her control. Did she have a "satisfaction guaranteed" sticker on her website? Did you two make some kind of deal that she was going to work you until you said it was over no matter how long it takes? There has to be a point when you can just be grateful for the experience and not feel like you have been shorted in some way.

So true, great post Heather, you are wise, beautiful, and an AMAZING lover!!!

Jim

Thanks heather, you have a few great points. I think I'm holding back too long and should just come earlier instead of trying to get the most of the hour. There were points where I wanted to Cum but held back because I knew she only allowed one shot.

To my defense, the reason for me not wanting to see her again was more than just the 5 min thing. It was:
- the way she abruptly ended it. Seemed frustrated cause I didn't come again and dressed quickly. Felt cold.
- felt bad cause I couldn't finish last few times with her
- feel more pressure to try and do it again

I have to disagree with the age comment and just being goal oriented. I DO enjoy the journey which is why I purposely prolongue the experience as much as I could.  Can't blame me for wanting a nice finish, no?

I generally see younger girls 20 to 28. Maybe I should start seeing some older milfs that know the tricks.  

One other point to realize which was important in answering my original post. I see many providers and never have any problems cumming exactly when I want to. I do the full hour and finish up on time. And this is with girls I'm less attracted to and feel less connection with. My original point was that she was just too hot. Why is it I can't come with her versus someone less attractive?

Yes she acted interested during the session. I had no problems at all with her performance (fake or not).  I just don't know why I could never finish with her. I've been rushed before by other providers and I've been able to finish. She never rushed me. It just abruptly stopped. The time I was with her before, I actually stopped things before she did and I gave up.  I would think it would be easier for me to finish while with someone I really liked vs someone that I thought was average.

is if you had a self-image problem as a teen where you didn't feel good enough to date good looking girls. That's really a wild ass guess, as you can tell.