I am not new to this and here is my experience. As a middle age man (mid 50's) I am not in to the slam bam thing. Does the LE check have to be get on the bed and get comfortable or is there another way to put the provider at ease in a less dramatic fashion? I would like to sit and discuss what I would like which is lovemaking.  Making out while still dressed, removing each others clothes.  Maybe then retiring to the bedroom.  You cannot discuss intimate things over the phone.  My experience is that you get naked maybe a kiss or two then on to the bbbj and so on and so forth for myself that is unfullfilling. I suspect many men my age feel like this to.  Also the women's response is what excites me though I realize this is your job and an attraction may not be there.  However if someone is doing something that does feel good it would be nice to know or give him guidance where he can improve.  Yes U can read the reviews but they usually are about the bbbj quality,  physical attributes, and positions used while fucking.  I put this on this board because I am from Tampa.  Comments appreciated

I really prefer 2+ hour dates. I like to get to know someone and feel comfortable with them. This cannot be achieved in an hour.  

I'd agree with Kelly. A guy who just comes in and lays there is really frustrating for me. I've had to teach plenty of Sailors what I like, if they are willing to learn.  

I love to kiss too. This is something not all guys or girls like to do. That's part of the foreplay, the erotic journey of getting to know each other. I've been told what I do is a lost art. That was a huge compliment.  

I think you can mention it's about the journey for you. It's about being intimate, being slow and passionate. At least, that's how I think. Maybe start out with a massage for her. I love gentlemen who do this for me.  

Hope this helps some.

slow and sensual.. older is better and so much sexier...
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I always fall in love with the lady before meeting her.

END OF MESSAGE

Your post describes exactly how I feel as well.  Guess it comes with age.

Before you take the plunge with any lady, I think you have to do a lot of due diligence like you should on most things. For me looking at their website the pictures posted  and reviews on here, should give you a fairly good idea of what your about to receive. Most peeps also like a bargain, in this arena you should look at as Good service isn't cheap and cheap service is what it is.......cheap.

With that said experience also plays a part of how you conduct yourself, this will also pay dividends. I have also found once you get yourself white listed or okays on P411 your lady friend also has a good idea what to expect from you even before you arrive................. all of this comes with time

Choose wisely my fellow hobbyists

Yet, to have someone take the time to discover you. Find those spots that drive you insane. Maybe get lucky enough to find your Kryptonite.

  Now that's time very well spent

Some of us do treat our providing as an art form, that includes kissing, slow seduction, and being open to having a true connection during the time we are together!  

If the reviews you're reading are truly about "the bbbj quality,  physical attributes, and positions used while fucking" then of course you're receiving a hollow experience that consists primarily of those things.  You need to do heavier research and look for ladies whose reviews speak to her other attributes - the ones you value.  It may mean paying a bit more as quality service does come at a premium price.  A lady can't really "make love" to six guys a day.  If you're riding the lower price ranges and higher volume girls, all you're really going to get is a fuck most likely.  For the courtesan experience, search reviews and websites for a lady who already makes you feel as though she is making love to you before you meet.  You'll find the right lady!  

Wise words from a very kissable lady.

much like food, you have to be willing to invest both time and money to get a satisfactory experience. If you want to maximize your time with someone in the way the OP describes, you really shouldn't be skimping on the fee. The fact that the OP's providers are doing the "LE check" tells me he is perhaps looking in the wrong place for what he wants. I really don't mean to insult anyone here- but who does that?? I would hope most folks here realize that an LE check is an exercise in futility, and thus those who do it tend to be the less-aware and more business-like.

world of fun!  

To me, it sounds like the ladies you're pursuing are in a sector of the market that will not fulfill your needs and desires. They'll get you off, but that's about all you can ask from them. What you desire is available to you in absolute bounty! You just have to know where to look, and how to look for it.

My advice:  

1. You should definitely spend more time skimming ladies' reviews. It sounds like you want your engagement to really feel like a genuine connection or date- not just a quick in-n-out. You can find clues to whether or not a lady offers this by knowing what to look for in her reviews. You'll begin to see patterns and certain words repeated in reviews of ladies who fit your needs. Look at the "attitude" and "atmosphere" sections of reviews (definitely get VIP if you don't already have it).

2. You should also consider spending a little more for a lady's time- as the lovely Mermaid above said, go at least two hours. Also, the fact that your providers are doing "LE checks" tells me maybe the sector of the market in which you're looking is probably a more... budget-friendly sector. You'll get a basic service there, but you can't really expect to get much more than that. But you're new, so how would you know? That's ok- you've come to the right place to ask! As with most things in life- if you want a fulfilling experience, you'll need to invest a little more. Stay around the $300/hr and above market and you'll be closer to what you want.

3. Consider finding a more mature lady- the young juicy girls are fun, but rarely do they possess the sensuality you seem to want. You can definitely find young and sensual, but my guess is that this is something you'll need to back channel about (ask on the RO board, PM a couple of guys to get the scoop, etc.). But usually ladies over 28 have developed a more mature sense of their own sexuality and can be more engaged with you in a connected way. Nothing beats experience!

Once again, welcome to this delicious little world of delights!! I'm certain that you'll find exactly what you want once you know how to look for it. Have fun!!!

I'm 49 and I agree with you

Being a newbie and 49 I prefer the slower pace because I like to be comfortable with the woman. I enjoy kissing and talking before the act itself. Not the slam bam type. All this is new so I'm learning more each time. I know its a time limitation but I still like to take time getting to the sex.

I do very much enjoy the company of older gentleman they are on the same page as me, sensual taking our time, just everything I like after all I am a mature woman so I know what I enjoy ... I will be in FL Naples, area in a few weeks..

There is a defining moment in life when the drive thru at Wendy's
is no longer an option. We deserve a banquet of juicy, delicious intimacy.
As mature lovers, we need mental and emotional engagement
to have an authentic experience. I agree 110% with you and others
who prefer something more substantial...

Best to you-
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