Ladies & men, I just wondering if I am being out of line or not. Please chime in on your views about cancellations.

I arranged a meeting with a well know provider on this board with great reviews. I had seen her before and had a great time except she kept me waiting downstairs about 30 minutes, but I put that aside since every once in a while stuff happens.

The next time we arranged a date and time and an hour before was given the incall location. Called when I got there and said she was just checking in. 45 minutes later I get a voicemail that she is cancelling because she couldn’t get a room.

Now I had just wasted 40 driving minutes driving there, 45 waiting around, 40 minutes back…so basically 2 hours of my time. I wrote her telling her I was disappointed and hoped she could make it up next time with some extra time. Her response is I would get a $25 discount next time.

Now, I think my time is worth more than $12.50 an hour (considering she charges $350). I lost out on my billable time way more than she charges.  All I was hoping for was maybe 30 min extra (I am not trying to be outrageous!!). I know if I had a lady drive over to my place and then made her sit around for 45 minutes and then cancelled, she would have been extremely pissed. Also she would probably want a deposit before and if she would see me again or blacklisted me for doing that to her. I am very conscious about time & cancellations and the few times I cancelled (less than a handful in many years) I have always given plenty of time (hours if not days before).

I am just wondering am I being overly demanding or is a $25 discount about right for compensation. How do other ladies handle this subject??

Btw…I never heard back about my request from her. Do I post a review (although we didn’t meet)??

I value everyone’s opinion….Thanks.

even book another visit with her? Just cut your losses and move on. Too many other ready, willing and more than able young ladies just waiting to fill the void.  Also, the way I understand the process, you can't rwrite a review if the session never took place.

It really depends on what you want. I'm trying to find what I want and that's not easy, so if what I really wanted did this to me I would need to evaluate if I really wanted it any longer.

I hate waiting in a doctor's office, I mean I'm on the books for 1 PM for a friggin reason. But, I keep him because he takes good care of me. Could I find a new doctor, probably, but will he or she treat me the same way...probably! This is a business and if any other business would have treated you this way what would you do??? Crap, my barber is a huge pain in the ass but she cuts my hair just right, I tolerate because I get what I want... In the end, are you getting what you want and will you be happy...

If your time with her will be jaded in some way because of how you feel, then you should assess the cost to your enjoyment and do what you need to do.

Personally, I think giving you an extra 30 minutes is nothing, a good business person would bend over backwards to make things right. If what you say is true, she either doesn't get it or doesn't care. I hate to assume so I look at my choices not theirs and go from there.

Just don't bill a client for the time, it could be me! LOL

and also to make me look better within the community. Guys talk and this kind of talk can hurt you if someone wants to. This is an alias so there's no way of me knowing your history here but that shouldn't matter.

Asking for 30 minutes free would be fair if your rebooking for the original time although the mix up may not have been her fault with the hotel.

This is a big problem using a hotel for a daytime meeting. Getting the room before a certain time is always a wait see plus most ladies book via the internet and never talk to hotel staff. Once you arrive early depending on how busy the hotel, the room just isn't ready or regular reservations will come before the internet discount booking agent.

I'm sorry this happened and hope you will not feel to scorned if you do see this lady. It's hard to get past such feelings and really enjoy yourself once things go bad. At this point I to would suggest seeing another lady.

Kisses Haley

Haley, thanks for your input.

I would rather have additional time than take money away from a lady. I am not looking to get an hour for free or anything like that, just fairness. The problem is this lady only works daytime Mon-Fri incall, so you think she would have that all in order. The sad part is I really enjoyed our first meeting...oh, well.

We are all never too old to learn something new.

If she could not get a room at that hotel, she should have found another one.  If this was impossible, for some reason, she should have not problem with your VERY reasonable request for 30 minutes extra next time.

It sounds as if she may have had a special arrangement with a particular hotel, but they had no rooms available.  She should have verified in advance that the room would be available.  If she got there and then found out there was no room available she should have found an alternate location at a reasonable rate (they are out there) and paid the difference, or at least given you the option of covering the additional cost.

There are many alternatives to cancelling if what she told you is true.  Her response indicates to me a total lack of respect for your feelings and circumstances.

it has happened to others.  Ok you can not write a review, but you can let others who want to know about time wasters.  She is the one who has the reputation to protect and should have handled it better.  I think $25 is an insult to you and she should have offered up a 1/2 price or at least an extra 1/2 or even a whole hour session.  But you having to ask put her on the defensive and I think even if you did see her both you and her would be in a awkward position.  Things happen even if it was beyond her control it is she that cancelled.

I would agree that moving on is best.  

She kept you waiting 30 minutes the first time and 45 minutes the second only to cancel?  Her story that she was just checking in doesn't wash.  It does not take 45 minutes to discover you can't check in early and my presumption is that she was still in route when you spoke to her.  

In any event, YOU are her client.  She should be the one being apologetic and offering to make it up to you and an honest explanation goes along way.

I think in this instance you might be better off moving one....  I know of really quality ladies who would never have done business the way you have discribed.  

I know of one inparticular that I felt went FAR beyond what was required and told the gentleman his next session was without charge!  Now I think that was way over kill but she really wanted him to know she was sorry and that she felt terrible about canceling.

Personally I would think a half hour extra time would be a good response for what occurred, but since the suggestion had to come from you and was not her idea, as I said above the best thing would be to move on.

Bigpart52

I would like to talk about this and know who this well reviewed lady is so I have this information when deciding if I should take a chance making an appointment.  I don't want my time wasted and I don't want to waste anyone else's time either.  We are supposed to be sharing information on here but everyone seems so scared to say something negative about a provider.  I don't think we should bash the providers but they should be held accountable just like the hobbyist.

If she couldn't get a room it didn't take her 45 minutes to figure that out. If it were me I would have walked outside to speak to you in person and perhaps figure out a solution together. It's *possible* she got held up with another client. It's also possible that she didn't think her answer through before replying to you with how she'd make things right.

I'd ask her to consider spending a few extra moments with you based on a gentle explanation of the same story above and to go through with the meeting if she agrees. You might end up having a wonderful time and all ill feelings will be washed away.

you to get her name. I don't want any part of this type situation.

Are you so obtuse you can't readily understand the numerous reasons an alias might be needed in a situation like this?

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Hi pm me the provider please thanks. I hate having my time wasted an I especially cant stand it when im paying for it lol. The name should be shared so that other men dont go through this headache. That is the reason for these boarda right? Heh.

hmmm wish there was like a punctuality rating for the providers so we can see whos flakey an whos not lol

When I got home, I had a message in a bottle from a friend from the west coast to confirm meeting in NYC the following week, and to let me know she would be in Vegas that week-end.  I said fuck it...made arrangements to fly out to Vegas the next day for the week-end.  Walking out of work that Thursday afternoon was priceless...pumping fist, jumping up and down, "We're going to Vegas!"

I got together twice with my friend that week-end in Vegas, plus again as scheduled in NYC the next week...

The lady who cancelled in NYC has two strikes against her, despite being a well-known presence who is friends with friends of mine,  I can deal with postponements and rescheduling, but I am not cool with being blown off, and being told "Sorry, see you next time" from first-timers.  Not cool!