I'm still fairly new to this hobby. I'm looking for an outgoing & wild SP to dress, act, and talk very naughty, but don't know how to ask without offending her. About a year ago, I made the mistake once of mentioning this in a phone conversation. I worded it carefully and I didn't think what was I saying was too graphic or offensive, but her response showed me she was very offended by it and she stated that she never acted that way for anyone. I apologized, and we did not end up getting together. I'm still bothered by the fact that I offended her, and I do not want to do that again. Other the other hand... that is what I am looking for. I know this is just play, and at least to me, it most definitely does not reflect any judgement on her. It is just a fantasy of mine.

So if anyone has any advice on how to know if a SP is into this type of play without offending them or hurting their feelings, please let me know. Providers, is this a common request? Are you offended if someone is looking for this?

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submissive female? If so, by all means seek out fetish providers! There will be plenty of ladies willing and happy to fulfill this request.  

I have a very strict policy on no mention of anything of the sort when contacting me, so pay attention to her website and how she likes to be contacted. I also do not offer any fetishes to anyone I have not met. But on the search feature here on TER, I believe you can find ladies who offer fetishes by looking for those who offer BDSM.  

Maybe you can write a little story about your fantasy on a word document and send it as an attachment once you've established communication with her.  

You may also get some responses to this post!  

Good luck and have fun!

Sorry - my bad. I don't know why I put "SF" - I meant "SP" for service provider. I have since correct my original post.

Don't worry about it. If it happens again you will be tied up gagged and whipped. If you want a response give an area. Check with yourgfeassistant. She knows a lot of ladies with varied specialties.

There's nothing wrong with asking for a dressing request which most ladies take.  

Say my fantasy dress request is " black stockings, short skirt, little panties" or "cheerleader" or "heels with ankle socks, plaid skirt and surprise me with something special up top".  

Also for this role play request add:

"I want you to take charge with a little dirty talk to boot". Your not saying anything sexual or wrong as far as I am concerned. If the lady you picked feels uncomfortable with this conversation move on. If the lady can't handle that she is never going to give you a decent role-play.

Kisses Haley

As long as you are screened and I feel safe I would be glad to be open to fetishes!  I do quite a bit of fetishes and was a former fetish model!

Love & Lust!

Gemini Starr

Is best to read reviews and find out for yourself about her demeanor, you can always look for a PSE provider if you are interested on a more expansive menu without having to ask explicit questions.

Most of your reviews are in Boston, with one from Miami.  I live in the Tampa area, but make frequent visits to Boston.  I just returned from a trip there.  If you read my reviews, you will find a very wild and naughty person.  Of course I am in the mature category, so if this is not your cup of tea, I totally understand.

If she doesn't advertise it or there's no mention in reviews, it's probably not in her wheelhouse.