I made a dinner date with a gentlemen I had never met before. We planned dinner after our 2 hours in the room. This was a 4 hour date with 2 hours private time and 2 hours public time. I only charged an extra 100 for the 2 hour public time.

Nice hot guy went strong for 2 1/2 hours in the room and said since it was late we could continue in the room and order fruit, cheese and wine for room. His idea was to spend the next 90 minutes feeding and playing with each other.

Ladies : how would you have handled this ? Please know this was another 90 minutes for sexual pleasure I wasn't getting paid for.

Gentlemen : how would you feel if I spoke up for myself ? Should he be upset at my saying i'll take my 2 hour outcall fee and depart ? He already mentioned his wallet was tapped when I arrived.

Thanks for your input  

Kisses Haley

Hi Haley,,,,first thanks for all your input in helping me navigate myself though this website as a newbie...you are genuine and I appreciate your help...
A dinner date is simply what it is...doesn't matter if you have it catered, have it sent to the room, he cooks, you cook or you both decide to eat out... May not be a bad ideal to list dinner date on your site to clarify this more clearly. This should avoid any confusion to those who can't differentiate between dinner and playing. Somewhere he wasn't on the same page or maybe he believe dinner is cheese and crackers? Personally I would of asked,,,,what's for dinner tonight or suggest where you'd like to go out and eat.  

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Everything was in place and above order so no mix-ups. For sure he had every attention to take this route and try to get 4 hours for the price of 2. I'm not sure how other ladies would have handled the issue of these changes in plans. Was I wrong in feeling he was trying to take advantage of me. My PM's have said yes so far.

I would like to see how men think on this issue. Perhaps they think much different to how a provider feels.

I am happy to see you posting and getting involved with the local board.  

I think I tried to make this post less tedious to read and left out an important notation. Our plans were made up front for dinner out after the 2 hour playtime because of his touchy stomach after eating would have been uncomfortable.

Kisses Haley

situation recently, where a gent booked a dinner date and then suggested room service. I just suggested a restaurant we could meet at. In the end his bid for room service was purely about the time factor which didn't turn out to be an issue at all and we had a great evening together.  

In your case I would probably have simply gotten up and put on a robe or something and said that I would love room service, but could I please see the menu? I'd say I was expecting a full dinner and so crackers and cheese wouldn't be sufficient. Maybe he would like to split a couple of appetizers and an entree? I'd be really sweet about it, and I'd also make our dining time sexy but with firm boundaries as to how sexy..

This guy crossed the line on time. Not too respectful of him. I think you would have been well within bounds to leave when he chose dinner in after making plans for dinner out.

Having said that it sounds like he was very pleased with your bcd time. And I'd take that as a compliment.

I'm coming to Orlando in early Dec. and would welcome a visit with you. May I send an email?

as a provider I would of spoke up n explained that the agreement was 2hrs dinner n 2hrs play. hence why he got a discount on 2hrs. If he wants all 4hrs play he needs to make up the difference.

Haley,

I think public/dinner time means just what you were thinking Haley. This gentlemen was I'm sure enthralled by you and didn't want to leave your side. That is a compliment! However, if he wants more private time then he should have compensated you for this.  

I would have simply said "I'm getting ready for dinner, where would you like to take me?" Get up, get dressed and start out the door. If he doesn't get it by then, simply say you requested public/dinner time and honestly I'm famished!! Remind him again you requested 2 hours private and 2 hours public/dinner.

It's always a sticky situation and I think many of us men and women have been in these situations. I'd gently remind him again your thoughts and maybe he will compensate you for this additional time.

Hope this help,
Mermaid Jad

I think once he told you cheese and crackers in the room were dinner, you should have spoken up, he got two additional hours of play time for $100, not cool at all.

Haley,  

A dinner date is not dinner in the room!  You expected and agreed to a dinner date at a restaurant and I think you were very generous in charging your time at such a minimal amount.  Don't let that happen again - and I'm sure you won't.

END OF MESSAGE

I have done both in room and out to a restaurant. The restaurant was with MJ. I was a little concerned that there mite be a time issue. MJ was patient and helped me through it. It was obvious by her web site that dinner outside the room was required. We texted back and forth about where to eat and when. Ask him where he is planning to take you and if he got reservations. The in room meal was per request of my ATF. Every once in awhile she will do something like that. We still stayed close to the agreed upon time. Your time is just as valuable as my own. I think the 4 hour date with MJ my have went a little over but she did not complain.  

I believe your client knew good and well that he was pulling a fast one, and counted on your reluctance to "make a scene."

I've had a few fellows try to pull similar stunts... and once I actually threatened to end a date, when the fellow rushed me through dinner as if the restaurant was on fire.

"You want a cocktail? Really?"

"Order the fish, it doesn't take as long as the chicken."

To the waiter, when I was in the middle of my entree: "She's done, you can take her plate."

At that point, I had had enough. (Not literally-- I was still hungry!) I put down my fork, looked at him as if he had three heads, and said,

"Darling, this isn't what I signed up for. Our date is 2 hours out, 2 hours in. Dinner is supposed to be a sexy part of our foreplay-- getting to know each other while enjoying the sensual art of a nice meal. We've been together all of 25 minutes, you're making me feel like an unwelcome guest, and I really don't think this is going to work out."

I excused myself to the ladies room and took a small portion of the donation and put it in my wallet, and returned to the table with the rest in the envelope. I handed it to him and said, "Thank you for the meal, but I'm going to say goodnight now."

I got about halfway to the sidewalk before he caught up with me, embarrassed and pleading with me to stay.  

So... don't feel bad, Haley. It's happened to us all.

If we have not met, is it possible to have just dinner in a top restaurant and call it a blind date?      Provided the lady has no appointments scheduled

What a story! I love how you handled that.

You'll still be responsible for compensating the lady for her time per her consideration requirements.

Unless you meet her on eharmony.

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Haley,

Dinner is dinner out. I have done dinner in rooms before but that was agreed upon beforehand and my donation reflected that