So in a recent thread on the Minnesota board, I heard that its not uncommon to find FS in the strip clubs... Is this true?  Any recommendations for a guy headed to Dallas soon? Reply here or PM me if you prefer.

FS... relax my friend... you usually have to spend lots of money and get to know a few ladies... unless, that MN board gave you some pointers where you can get right in there.

Generally you spend much more money at the club than for a well reviewed lady on TER.

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I'm (for the most part) right with DB on this one, fellas:

You'll spend $200, at least, if you plan to have any fun at all in most topless bars, and more like $400 for ONE NIGHT in a decent "all nude" joint. Hell, one hour with most of the regular Provider beats that, for most men.

But it does, and will continue to, happen. I don't think I'll ever fathom the general disdain most stippers feel for Providers, and vice/versa. It's not competition, necessarily; I equate it with something akin to the caste system of social structure in the Hindu culture, for lack of a better model...

I know for a certainty that at the Clubhouse, in Dallas, BBJs DO occur, in their VIP area. You're also quite welcome to almost anything that can be done, if you're with a crafty enough dancer who wants to engage. It's weird, and a nice distraction...but nothing beats the Real Thing, when it comes to quality time with a great Provider. Not even that rare, gents. Go and see for yourself; happens all of the time, if you've got the funds.


Okay,
Bobbo

Other dancers selling more than dances puts the entire club at risk, so while I have never looked down on either profession, and what anyone did outside of the club was their business, I HATED dancers who more-than-danced in the club. It wasn't a competition issue, it was a safety concern.

It was also an annoyance concern. Trying to sell dances and encountering customers who wanted to buy sex was a pain in the ass. Since I love analogies...

It's like being a waitress in an Italian restaurant, and while most of the time customers are happy to dine on fettuccine and lasagna, every now and then you get someone who wants to buy a burrito. "But we're not a Mexican restaurant," you say. But he insists he wants a burrito, not a bowl of spaghetti. "I only sell spaghetti," you say. But that waitress over there, he says, she sold me a burrito last week and told me for a few dollars more, she'd throw in a taco too! "I ONLY SELL ITALIAN FOOD. NO MEXICAN. WTF ARE YOU DOING HERE? GO SOMEWHERE THAT SELLS MEXICAN FOOD IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT! aldfklsjFLKSJLFKJ!"

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So, yeah, that always bugged me.

Bobbo, your thoughts are a bit off, so I'll start with - recently I went to my first Dallas clubs with the boys... after 200 worth of quasi lap dances - I finally connected with the gal I wanted to play with - 200 more of dances with her and things getting worked up so she suggests the VIP - 300 for the hour for her, 200 for the semi private room, and mandatory 150 champagne... hmmm, another 650 and is my dick going to be sucked? or even touched?

so what is the private VIP? - 500 - so I go look, peek in the semi private ... see a couple of guys having very similar  action to the main area - I question her - seems like not much going on - she says, what do you expect, we're not prostitutes...  

so I whip out the cell, and say ... neither is this gal... as I text my wonderful ATF, but for 200 I get all I ever want... you my dear are a hustler... nuf' said... not going back.

Perhaps in the private area I could have developed a warm-n-fuzzy and maybe have her agree to meet me outside or get extras in the club...but only after a 1000 at least ... and how much for her services... just whacky to me...

I love the ladies of this hobby... thank you for being here for us.

it's fun to window shop... bring your ATF to the club for an hour.

Have some drinks, coupla dances, heat it up and go back to the hotel and have fun. it's better than payin 20 bucks every 5 minutes until the club closes at 2:00am... then you wait for your stripper (and maybe her boyfriend too..yikes) until 4:00am  to soak you for even more per minute.... Hire the GFE pro's every time.

    I bet you could get Carrie to play. wait... that does sound like fun!!  um.......... Carrie honey?..........

Where to begin?

I wouldn't necessarily say a strip club, anywhere, is the better call over a reviewed girl when the goal of the evening is erotic companionship.

Having gotten that out of the way, I will say that dancers are a lot more fun to hang out with and if you know what you're doing, you normally don't have to spend a whole lot more than you would with a provider. Keyword there is hang out with, so hold your horses.

It's not rare to go to a strip club, socialize with a few of the girls and get them to come out after they get off to join you for a few drinks, small after party or so on. Now, just because they come out doesn't mean you're getting lucky; it just means they're coming out to chill and relax. On that same note, the odds are that if you played your cards properly and got them to join you after they got off, closing the deal is very likely.
Regardless of how the evening ends, this is hanging out and letting things work themselves out. There's no money exchanged for any special services or any suggestions for such thing. It's no different than girls who you met at a regular dance club. Just keep in mind that most strippers like to party and they're rarely ready to go to bed while they're still pumped up from the club.

This is all based on personal experience and not all clubs, dancers, etc are crated equally or do the same things. Just saying, no blanket statements or lumping them all into one group. Gesh, it's very rather difficult to try to be politically correct.


The approach.

First off, non-Friday weeknights are your friend. The busier the club is, the less time a girl will want to spend chatting with you. You normally want to arrive to the club about 3 hrs before it closes, any earlier than that and you'll spend a bit more on the girls that you would want, much later than 2 hrs before it closes won't give you enough time to make a good impression.  

Next, I've learned it's a lot better to do BYOB clubs over the topless ones that serve liquor. That way you can bring all sorts of goodies with you and you'll save a ton on drinks & shots for yourself, the ladies and whoever's out and about with you.
Don't get lap dances, at least not until you've been chatting with the girl for a good hour or so. In my opinion, you're better off paying the girl for her time to sit and chit chat, over spending the same amount in a few dances.
The most important thing is to not come on too aggressive or needy. Just relax and have a good time like you would at any regular bar. Be that beacon where she can hang out after a long night of having guys trying to grope her and god knows what else.

Anyway, that's what works for me and my attempt at covering a different perspective. I will say that I usually enjoy myself a lot more just hanging out and partying with the girls over any bedroom fun that may come along with it. Granted, I'm not going to complain about it but that's not my goal when I do the strip club thing... just an added bonus.
Think it's that social butterfly in me that's been keeping me from really sinking my teeth into the hobby. The need to socialize prior to anything else happening is an aspect I still haven't really found in the hobby.

Just my 2 cents.... even though with that novel of a post it's more like 37 cents or so.

I will ask my current fav about that - going to the club with a sure thing sitting beside me, getting me heated up.... YUM!

PM me if you do that with Carrie... I have no doubt she's knows what to do... didn't she just say she used to 'dance'?

after dumping x,000's and getting nothing in the Atlanta clubs in the late 90's - I did find a special lady - as you say, mid-week but after lunch, very slow and easy to talk with her... shift over at 7pm I suggest dinner - bingo! torrid little affair for a few months.

Next approach - my party buddy and I got close with the 'door man' at one club - tux, GQ looks, handled all the VIP guys etc - and the ladies loved him.

I told him I had a large house with spa on private deck, I'm single and able to party anytime - WOWZA!!! I start getting phone calls at 1:30 AM or later on the weekend - 'hey Denny, got a few ladies that want to hang out, you up for it?' you bet!

So the my friends and the ladies came over - sometimes as many as 4 gals - got naked in the spa - hung out listening to music and sipping wine - but I only had sex with one of them after getting to know her after several visits - the rest of the time the girls said how much they appreciated having 'friends' that were not all over them, demanding sex - one of the gals even cooked breakfast as these parties that started around 3 AM even later - it was a very fun time - and it was interesting getting to know these ladies - and one of those things, been there done that - now I am very content hanging with my current ATF

Nooooo thank you. Strip clubs have strangely lost their charm for me.

DB,

Say it ain't so, bro! lol...

My thoughts are a bit off? Well, that's an opinion, old hoss. Get me? I think I've been truthful in my relating of this particular experience, and dig this: I'm in a town of 100,000 people, roughly, with three topless joints, an all-nude place (VERY lower-scale, if you ask me), and NO PROVIDERS ABOVE THE STREET/WEEKLY-RATE MOTEL SCENE.

Tell you what's a bit off: you're assuming that your scale is the only scale out there to go by, and that's just not accurate. I may be shooting low, but you're aiming very high; I'll offer that the truth, for most gentlemen, lies somewhere in the middle.

Are my thoughts a bit more on, now?


Okay,
Bobbo

and since I've only been to clubs in large cities... I stand corrected, er, rather ... re-centered from being a bit off myself...