I have never before in over 3 years been told when a hobbyist comes to meet me for the first time "I am going to pass you are a fake and you don't look like your picture". I pulled out my mini-pad and pulled up the picture and showed him my glasses are the same, my watch is the same, my ring is the same, even my small birthmark on my left breast is the same!!!  

Why would a guy say I don't look like my picture not to mention all the time to get ready and book the appointment.

Please guys explain this one. I am even willing to go on cam in another program and send all of you my pic and get your opinions. These are new pics and they are real and they are truly me!! I need advice please.

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All of you have read this post and no comments? Nothing to say?

Even supermodel quality girls have pictures that they think are not flattering. They would prefer to pick pictures that make them look the best. That's understandable and very normal. But you have to be careful with not going too far. Even if you could convince the guy (with things like tattoos, etc) that you are the same person, that doesn't mean that you're the same person as you tried to represent in the pictures.

I would recommend posting more pictures of yourself from various angles and in various outfits. It's up to you. But, obviously, the less you share and the more you try to hide, you simply have to expect a small percentage of guys to leave. That's the game that you decided to play. And most guys won't leave, so it might be the right game to play for you.

From a 2012 review....... so this sounds like its not as isolated of a situation as you think.

"This is an extremely difficult review to write because Cece is a very nice, mature woman, but she is not much to look at . . . So I didn't. Her posts contain no pictures, but she will send you one if you respond to her advertisement, as well as her e-mail, and eventually her number. The picture is her, and it looks okay, but clearly hides some of her worst features."

Things are never certain. Two weeks ago, I met with a top-rated provider and it was a bad experience.  I did not write a review because she seemed like a nice person, we just didnt click.  I think she was having personal problems and she seemed like a flake.  So, just move on.

END OF MESSAGE

some guys think they are renting a Porsche..when they arrive and see it is a Kia..they decline the ride..

I met you at a meet n greet, I haven't seen your picture, but one thing I know is that you are upfront and a straight shooter. You definitely are not a games player. So I would just move on and take it as one of those things that happen that make no sense.

This guy was talking about a scar I had on my stomach which has since been removed. This guy said I don't look like my picture. So that was not an issue in this situation. Not to mention that guy made up things in the other part of the review that I could not get removed.

   This is one of the best posts on ter in recent memory.  As one mecomes a more experienced hobbiest one learns to look at what is being hidden in poses at least as much as what is being highlighted.  Many providers use very awkward poses to hide what their body really looks like and us as hobbiests need to see through them, not to mentioned airbrushed, old and fake pictures.  More hobbiests need to have to have the guts to walk away from a provider using these misleading methods

           To the OP your Ter profile currently shows a backpage ad from December of 2011 with no pictures in it.  Is that really the best you can do?

I don't play games. Read the post your great. What I show in my pictures is me. Nothing in the emails was he asking for model material. He specifically said I look nothing like the pic. If you read the review... the guy specifically says the pic is her. I am an older woman and with older comes flaws that we all have as we age. If you want model material then make sure the girl is model material. I have never said I was model material. I treat the guys with respect as they should me. Also many of the reviews on ter is all based on chemistry. The guy that wrote that review made up  some polyp story to make the review more believable. I didn't know at the time that I could get the review removed. Also, he only scores the younger ones with higher scores.

So this is an isolated situation... we were discussing the picture.... I guess you cant comprehend what the review said.

ChicagoEighty, Axxel, macdaddy1944 and Cubs17 have all made some astute comments about photos as representations of a provider as well as about the nature of these person-to-person transactions.

As some have bluntly observed, this isn't Match.com —and certainly not eHarmony or christiansingles.com.  Men expecting to find true love and women expecting universal and unconditional adulation for their charms via these encounters should at minimum be prepared for disappointment.

That said, pictures can be deceiving to the disadvantage of the subject of the photo.  Odd as it may sound, even a presumably good set of pictures might not suitably highlight attractive features or appealing qualities in a woman or otherwise be a faithful representation of what one will meet.

That at least has been my experience on more than one occasion —so I've had the good fortune to have been pleasantly surprised.  And, on the other hand, on a couple of occasions, the lady appeared just as represented in a picture but somehow didn't deliver the hoped-for thrill.

Not to get too poetic here, but to paraphrase Elizabeth Barrett Browning, "How can you disappoint me?  Let me count the ways."

And it's not my idea of a good time to spend what still seems to me big money in order to come away disappointed.

I view photos as impressions —using them mainly to weed out the blatantly unappealing or fake.  Reading or interpreting a picture is an imperfect art.  In fact, once a photo seems not incongruent with other pertinent information about a lady, I try not to look more deeply into it.  I don't want to start nurturing some ideas about a woman, based on a picture, that may be at odds with how she actually comes across in person and what she will be like with me.

In general, though, shadowy shots, odd angles, and contorted poses do suggest that a woman has something to hide that I'm going to find disappointing.

For what it's worth

So this guy finds you on BP, you send him pics? If he looked at your TER profile he should not have been expecting something hit.. But hey..he let the big head over rule the little one

He specifically said my pictures where not me I was a fake. I was not the girl in the pics. If you would like I will send you the pic and we can go to a site with cam and you tell me if I don't look like the pics. I told the guy that took the pictures and he would love to confront the guy Nat he did not photo shop my face. Like Nat said I am a straight shooter. I don't play those games because when you play the "fake picture" game you are setting yourself up for an automatic cancellation when the guy shows.

I believe you're bringing negative attention to yourself with this post. Just my opinion, of course.

Yep. No guy is going to say "You're fkin ugly" so they make up dumb shit to leave. I had a guy say, "I thought you were taller" and I flat out told him just to tell me I was not his cup of tea, and take off. I don't need my feelings to be coddled, as I know I am not going to be for everyone. As long as the pics are accurate, that's all that matters.

To the guy saying we should not "pose in the best manner," I must call bs on that. As long as we are not hiding things with a sheet, or behind a door, etc. no one is going to tell their photographer to catch them in the WORST possible angles. That's just stupid. Excessive photoshopping is a no no but a skin smoothing feature is done by most everyone. You can have professional photos that don't include excessive photoshopping. If you have a gut or a double wide ass, it's going to come out one way or the other.

I totally agree with you sweets