This board is usually open and pretty good on giving opinions on many things...
Q to Providers: if one of your regular clients invites you to lunch (previously unplanned) after a session, just because he is going anyway, and in the course of general conversation says "you're more than welcome to join me," and you indeed do join him for a nice lunch, would you expect him to pay an additional donation?
Q to hobbyists: have you ever done an impromptu lunch or dinner (or drinks) with one of your favs, and if so, thought the provider just wanted to enjoy your company and the meal, and not feel the need for a donation for this?
I guess it boils down to: is it always all business, or can there be some gray area? What is the proper etiquette?
Thanks.
Every lady is different. There are time that I will accept a luncheon invitation from a gent. In those instances the only additional donation they provide is the cost of the meal. After all, they invited me.
I am sure you will get other responses to the contrary.
Yes I have had such lunches with favs. Some ladies will be happy to join you for lunch off the clock some won't. This seems to vary from lady to lady as well as with what frequency you see them IMHO. Just don't think that this is something that is owned to you. I have found that the ladies that generally don't expect an additional donation are usually ATF that you have been seeing for a while. A lady you have only seen several times is much more likely to request a donation for a bite of lunch after a date then a lady you already have established a relationship with. Please correct me if I'm wrong ladies.
Doc
P.S. This does not mean your ATF has time to be taken to lunch, remember she is at work. So don't take it personally if she can not go or must charge you to make it possible for her to go and not be losing money over lunch.
I had a out of town Provider ask me what I was doing when we were done and I said going to grab a quick bite to eat and she asked to go along. Of course fine I enjoy company at lunch. I paid for lunch but not time and it was only a quick lucnh at a fast food joint. Nothing fancy but we enjoyed each others company for a quick lunch.
Not expect him to give an additional donation...I often join a gentleman friend afterwards for lunch...dinner...and sometimes a little happy hour...and there have also been a few occassions...where we had to go back...and Enjoy Dessert...lol...
..you should always be told up front there is a donation. When I say yes I have never charge, but I know some girls do.
Kisses,
Wanda
I've taken a couple of favs out for lunch and dinner after a session. I always pick up the tab of course. I think if a lady expects to be compensated for her time she'll let you know. I think also the chemistry has got to be there for the lady to accept your invitation. Happy hobbying.
RRD
Having said that, I think it should be discussed ahead of time and not after lunch. That way, everybody knows where they stand. Since it can obviously go either way based on all these answers, you should be the one to make sure it is clear. That way, you won't have an irate lady on your hands after lunch!....
If I've known you and we have our set agreement
on the clock and if afterwards time permits should you request me to join you for a light lunch or a drink and appetizer yes I can attend. IF I have time.
I do believe that it is a sign of appreciation
and it is appreciated however, some guys like to
extend time by doing this in order to avoid paying the multi hour rate who really can book
more than 2 or 3 hours.
I have a hobby friend that I see and ALWAYS go out for drinks and a little dinner fare for when he comes into town. I enjoy his company and etc etc etc. I do NOT charge him for the extra time, however we have been enjoying each other for a WHILE now. I consider him one of my clients that is also my friend. Please keep in mind: It is a RARE example!
On another note, a girl I schedule for had a client ask her to lunch after an appt. She couldn't go because she only wore her workout clothes to the hotel (since she worked out at the hotel gym before the appt).
Next time the client scheduled, he mentioned he wanted to add lunch to the appt. so I blocked off time for a lunch date. He only gave her $ for the time and not the lunch at first. He did give her extra money when asked, but seem shocked/disappointed at the increased rate.
As a scheduler, when you make an appt that includes lunch or dinner, you should be charged -no ifs, ands or buts (or coconuts). HOWEVER, if you offer after the session, and your ATF has time (and is hungry) and says yes, I would make sure that there is a common understanding as to if it is on the clock or not.
You just paid a provider for her time. Don't get all shy and bashful all of a sudden and create an uncomfortable situation for you both by ASS-U-ME-ing that what you had in mind is the same as what she had in mind.
Good luck!!
xoxo
VC
I offer lunch and dinner "dates" that are a medial amount more. I don't charge full rate for going out to eat, however if I don't know you very well then I do feel I should be comped for my time.
If I know you very well and have been seeing you regularly for years and years there is a pretty good chance that I might take you up on a breakfast or lunch date, not dinner though. Most of the time I do ask that a date be attached to it. However, they wait for me to offer. If I am asked I usually refuse, but if I am hungry and have time and desire then I will ask though still my guests responsibility for the bill. Again, this is only an offering extended to LONG time guests who have been visiting steady over many years and at my discretion. T
While considering a potential date with a woman you might want to ask up front about the possibility of a lunch or a drink afterwards. I don't know about you, but I would roll on the floor in embarrasment if the lady agreed but expected to be compensated and all I had was the lunch receipt and my Visa card and no cash.
Having said that, there are some ladies who may enjoy an inpropmptu luch or drink after an appointment if they have enjoyed your company during your time togather. My experience has always been to not ask her to join me unless she first asks what I am doing afterwards. With out mentioning any names here, there are a few local lovelies that have left me incappable of doing anything but resting after our time together. And to those women, I say, MOVE TO TEXAS.
It depends on your provider and your level of comfort with each other. It's all about the vibe to me. I have had a great time with certain providers and felt a lot of chemistry, but when the session was done I knew that she had better things to do than sit and talk to me. I have also had session's with a regular (that I havent seen for a while) that would ask me if I wanted to go eat, and even if I would like to spend the night spend the night sometimes. I would always pay for my session, but if the lady enjoyed my company they would always let me know whether or not they wanted to chill with me. So I guess there is no right answer, every situation is different in my opinion.
