Long ago I met a guy through an agency. He seemed awesome and was fun.
Saw him a second time and learned through my mistakes over time. He had shorted me 100 and I let him know. My fault for not counting ahead of time but I felt a certain connection. One can ruin for all. He was advised of it and promised to pay it the next time he see's me. This was in 2010.

He was a no show/no call in 2011. Then when he was advised he was not permitted to visit with me again he cussed my assistant out. Was threatening.

His tactics now....

He uses various email account and text numbers to try and arrange dates. Pulled a recent search on blacklist with his info and OMG...page after page he is listed for rape/rob/threatening/harassing/stocking and after the 4th page I stopped reading. He is very dangerous and continues to write nearly 5 times a day or more. Luckily I have found out how to know if it is him or someone else. Yet, I should not have to go through this nor should anyone else.

I am very discreet. So I thought the best way to figure out the next step would be to get feedback from a male/female prospective. Aside from being super cautious as I always am....should I help him by letting him know that I know who he is or destroy him? Not physically as he has been with a long list of providers. I am not that way at all. Though I hope that this post will help because he reads my post and replies via email.

Hmmm..trying to think b4 acting. I just cannot understand why someone would have to act out so oddly.

Namaste,

Envy Jolie

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you don't need him.  You must be on your guard.  Protect yourself first.  I think ignoring is the best policy.  If he continues to call...  after this time...  is the same as stalking.   You should probably save his messages but never reply.  If he calls, be polite, do not allow yourself (or your booker) to be provoked but do not continue the conversation.  
He is obsessed...  there is no reasoning with such a person.  As in other stalking cases, you may need a restraining order...  or Police help...  I would never try to do this without involvement of an Atty & possible use of a PI to ID the person.  Sometimes a Lawyers Cease & Desist demand letter (which tells him he is known) is sufficent.  
Many gals deal with this & you'll find more on the legal board if you read back.  A lot depends on your local laws.  You can not afford to under estimate him or your danger.  I hope you no longer use the location where you saw him.  If you feel your residence has been compromised, you should move with an eye toward your security & safety.

Many ladies have been known to abuse the blacklist sites, by posting guys for really minor things. But, this kind of shit is exactly what the blacklists are for. Black list him. Post on the Providers board, and post on your regional board as Curly said. You can't out his real info on the public boards on TER, but you can put out the general info and ask ladies to PM you for specifics.

Stay safe !

Protect yourself first.  Black list him.  Keep records of any message or conversation.  Ignore his messages and hope he moves on but be prepared for needing a restraining order.  And under no circumstances see him again as that will not go well.

No matter what a person does, I would never post his true identity on a board like this. I'm probably one of the most genuine people when it comes to things like that.
He has been doing this for so long now. I am guessing it must be a mental disorder. Though I am not a Dr. I have read the first 3 pages of blacklist reports on him and the girls were saying he was mental. Which is

So go figure that just about an hour after my original post about this...(keep in mind my only intention was to get him to stop) he wrote an emailing from another email address that adds to a pile of about 40+ and ask to book a two hour session at the end of my Chicago tour and used his real name now. He has been trying to book at the very end of my tours often. Finally I responded. The only way he got through the spam section was by creating another email address.

I wrote him back and asked him to please stop using the false aliases, sending emails, and text.
He got crazy of course and I asked him again to please just stop or I am serious that I will file an order of harassment against him and I'm really trying to be nice about the whole situation. Let there be peace, love, and balance. Just please stop because it's annoying. So of course he still had his words and from everything he wrote I know that he has read this.  
SO TO HIM: I hope you really leave me alone now. I am not a mean person and I do not deserve this.  I will not blast your name in respect to myself and the vow an entertainer makes when she is sincere with discretion. However, if I get one more email/text, yes, I will follow the advice I have got here and do know that even though I am about peace, I will stand ground because I respect myself.

Yes, I have all of the emails and text. No way does this man know where I live or have enjoyment. He does not know of anything regarding my personal life. I'm extremely cautious in whom I choose to meet with and I am sorry to those I have not been able to meet due to extra security measures. My Assistant and I are safe. I had a really stalker in 07' who was just a guy off the street that had some issues with some lose screws and after living in fear for about 5 months, I finally got a restraining order and he had 4 others prior to mine. One being my locksmith. When he finally stopped is when he was thrown in prison for kidnapping someone. I do not know all the details. I just know that I learned to be more cautious though I do not let it affect my personal life. And again my intention of this post was one to get the advice from others as it's not like I want to be talking about it to anyone. OMG! Yet, I really wondered what I should do because its not physically stalking like the other guy and I must be proactive.

Peace, love, and balance...

Thank you for your advice!

Namaste,

Envy Jolie



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You have been VERY patient with this sociopath. Kudos to you for having a kind heart, but always put your safety first. He will probably take his show on the road and victimize another provider, so it's best to blacklist a danger to the community. Some guys have been blacklisted for far less.

Sorry for all your grief Envy. Hobbyists need to see these stories, as it serves as a reminder of the importance of screening and it's necessity.

You need to forget him and ignore him and move on. There's nothing good that will come from you interacting with this guy. Blacklist him, make it known in the community he's not safe and then move on.

This guy is gonna kill someone someday. Y'all need to stick together and have each others backs.

Change your name with your agency, and then they can tell him that you quit.  Then you might be safer.

Yes I'd agree - ignore ignore ignore.  No interaction with him at all.  Don't let him know you know.  Just out him to the BL and any ladies/agenices you interact with, publishing the various emails he uses.  But don't interact directly with him.  The more you ignore - the more likely he'll lose interest and move on.

Ugh

I experienced this recently to with an indian out of towner with a 2488857208. he had no references I was nice enough to see him and he gave me a visa gift card and shorted me a whole hour. My bad for letting him slide said he didnt do it often and was out of towner. who was this guy that did this to you?