So I got a text from a provider friend of mine this morning regarding a client who was violent & mean with her. She's pretty shaken up. She does have some info on the guy (I'm not sure exactly what) but I've told her to report him to all of the verification sites. Is there anything else she can do?  I'm not sure if or how she verified him...but she verified me through TER

I can't post the link [due to TER rules].  Notifying the verification sites is a good idea [if she used them with this client].  If she has access to the Provider Only board in TER, she can share the info there.  Posting his info on this board is not allowed.

Have her reach ou t to other providers through provider only boards... in her city she should even go as far as posting an anonymous BP ad with a warning and his email and phone number, nothing more. We don't want to scare him so much that he seeks her out again, but we have to get the word out to providers and clients alike that this individual is bad news.  

She should reach out to SWOP Chicago as well.

There isn't really anything she can do with a TER profile (easily changed), which is why many ladies require additional info to limit the threat to safety and for recourse if unfortunately something does happen. I hope she is okay and is able to report him to prevent this from happening the to next lady.  


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She can report him to individual sites.  If she uses P411, Date-Check, or RS2K, she can email them directly.  Aside from that, she'd have to list him on various blacklists.

Also, the PO board doesn't allow for the sharing of personal information, so she'd have to announce that she had a problem, and then interested ladies could contact her for information.  This is all contingent upon her having PO board access.

And I'm curious.. Why isn't she here addressing this issue? Providers in the area could communicate with her directly if she were the one posting this.

Obviously she should not see him again. If she has any of his personal info she may want to keep it on file in case he tries to go to her place. If this happens then she should call the police. Hope she's going to be OK. Since you're friendly with her you might want to check on her.

I have found the ladies here will be inviting and helpful, and not condescending or clique based.

+1.

There should be history of similar behavior unless it's a guy new to the hobby. Or if she does not verify then it's bad business.

To email any of the girls who answered your thread...

Ms. Erin, it is kind of odd, but I wonder if the girl doesn't know about networking yet, or if the guy knows we network.

I feel, however, those kinds of things should be brought to the proper people who can help her avoid it in the future, and deal with the actual occurrence properly.  

Relying on a client, most likely married with a life of his own, is probably not a good idea because he can't really be there for her. I'm not saying she can't tell him, but best providers meet other women in their area who have the ability to do something.