I've had kind of bad luck seeing the same providers twice early in my hobbying days--in both cases the second time was not as memorable as the first. Since then I have pretty much stuck to one visit and then move on, as a rule. I realize the YMMV rule applies and every person is different, but in general, am I missing out? I read all these reviews where guys talk about how wonderful their second, third or fourth visit is and it makes me wonder. In general, do you find repeat dates to be more intimate, more satisfying and generally better, or no? I've had some truly great experiences and I would love to see those ladies again, but I fear a second visit may tarnish my memory of her.

and just what you are searching for in the sessions.  Generally I have found that I knew at the end of that first meeting if I wanted to see the lady again.  And in many cases, I was satisified with only a single visit.

But there have also been those gals that somehow found that "button" and I needed to see again.  But it was always that little something that intrigued me enough to go and see her for a second visit.  And on a few occassions that turned into visits on a regular basis.

I don't believe there is a "magic formula" that you can use to make this determination.  Simply something that you "feel" and go with.  What you might want to consider is changing the type of gals you have been seeing.  Take a look at those ladies that tend to offer "dinner dates" as their preferred session.  Many of those gals have worked on their skills to engage you the way you may indeed want to be engaged.  And you can use the reviews to help you determine if a gal may be that type of lady.  Or why not PM a reviewer of a gal that you might want to consider seeing a second time and discuss how he might have seen the subsequent visits.

You don't discuss just what you are actually seeking.  You may be that hobbyist who only will do a one and done which is very common.  But you need to define for yourself just what else you are expecting a gal to be for you.  In my subsequent meetings the BCD has never diminished (had it been less than what I wanted that would have been the LAST session with her).  Subsequent sessions can be "boring" if you are the type of guy that is always seeking "new".

Thanks for the great advice, CCPA. I think you're right--it may be on me and maybe I am the sort who is sabatoging a 2nd visit with unrealistic expectations because deep down I am seeking someone new. Still, I'd like to know for sure, so I may try some of your other tips and see what happens.

When I see a guy for a second time, we normally flow better. He knows me. I know him. We vibe. Plus, I know that he likes me. I think it actually makes me work harder. Regulars are my soul and my bread and butter.
You should give highly reviewed girls a second go round if you enjoyed your first ride. I know it's cliche but, "The best gift you can give a girl is a return visit."
KK

is that the 1st visit is truly awesome and it is new, fresh and wonderful.  A very small % of the time, with the 1st date the guest has relived(on his own be it in day dreams, or in manual relief) the experience a number of times and it has blown up the reality of the actual date.  The 2nd date can't hope to live up to an overinflated remembrance of the 1st date.  This also rarely but does happen with those that have not visited in a very long time.  It isn't that the date is actually less then it should be, or was but the memory is altered from the earlier remembrance.

HOWEVER, there is something to be said about a comfort level.  A provider is more apt to give more of herself and to the experience if to comfort level is there and she has a better idea from the 1st date what you like.  I guess ultimately it depends on her approach to you, and to be honest you can never know that in advance.  Sometimes you can guess it if she has discounted pricing for previous guests, that she does in fact like the feel and touch of a familiar hand.  

You just have to figure out what works for you.  Some love this hobby for the variety, and others for familiarity and comfort.  If you are in it for the rush, the thrill, the adrenaline that come from a visit then stick with your 1 visit per provider, you will never be content with the familiar and always seek the strange.  If you want more of the intimacy of holding a woman and relaxing with and into her THEN repeat visits will be your bag.  

It is never set, no 2 people can ever want the exact same thing from the hobby.  Enjoy it and ride it out the way you see fit because you can only do what is right for you.

When you get to know the right person it all falls into place.
Being able to communicate your desires takes time and
more importantly connecting mentally is everything that
makes your visits worth spending time on.

Being able to tell her what it was that you felt put  a dent in
the session is the best way to keep things hot .
If she is insulted , then it is sad because no one is perfect and
it is from you gentlemen that help providers become more
seasoned . And if someone is willing to listen to you , and work
with your likes , she cares about her service .

is a law of economics and it applies in spades to pussy.

New pussy is fresh and exciting.  At some point it will lose its luster and a normal cock wants something different.  That's the beauty of sex workers,  there is always another one willing to do things you want for a price.  Its a beautiful thing

The quality of pussy may not immediately reduce but over time it will.  How can it not?

Now if you are in a love relationship it may be worth it...  but for mongering why bother?

My 2 cents

First dates have their own thrill.

Dates 2-3 have a different kind of thrill. It is no longer exactly the thrill of the new conquest, exploring the new, beautiful woman, but rather building on what you know, how you please each other, and focusing on going further with that.

Beyond date 3, you are hooked, find her likable, enjoy her company, and those things she does. You either are falling into a comfortable, enjoyable routine, or are mixing it up and progressing in a way that works for both of you. Conversation, familiarity, comfort and compatibility are important and positive things. I have a lot of repeats, but have only twice gotten past three dates.

There are very good reasons for always seeing new ladies, or just seeing one lady (though the latter seems a lot more risky to me). I mix it up, about half repeat visits, half new ladies, with the intention that I am searching for new regulars because some of my current regulars will either stop interesting me, or go off in their own direction and leave me behind.

And if first lust, the thrill of the new, is what is best for you, go with it. No need to force it, but one of these days you probably will meet a lady you dream about seeing again. When and if that happens, go with that, too.

enjoy,
zig

I have "connected" with a couple of providers that after the first encounter, I simply liked them and liked being with them besides the great time we had together. We establish rapport outside the hobby which to me makes playing with them more satisfying.

I really appreciate how you explained this, from the male point of view!  It's not so different for ladies, or at least for me!

First dates are always about hoping you can figure things out.  Subsequent dates, when they happen, are more relaxed, have more opportunity to be open to more ideas.  People I am blessed enough to see multiple times I am just....blessed by!  I love that we develop our own rituals as to how things go (a glass of beer, a dinner, shopping...etc!), and yet strive to keep things fresh (especially during alone time!) and fall no where near a rut!  I think I do this pretty well....  

I'm looking forward to seeing my "wonderfully comfortable" and "new" friends in Chicago soon!

XO
Wendy

Thanks to all of you who responded--there's some great information and really informed opinions in there. Special thanks to Sage, who is at the top of my "Repeat list," for her perspective from the other side. You have restored my faith in this board as more than just a place to bicker and ask "Have you seen this girl?"