I don't usually go into Chicago but I did to meet some friends today.It took about an hour to find a park and in the process I ran into a regular client.He walked passed me with other friends,I looked back to notice he was coming towards me.He said hi,then asked how was I doing. He then asked if I was working in the lakefront area.I said no and he stepped back to take a look at me.Later when I got home he e-mailed me,to find that he said he was so disappointed in the way I looked.He said I always looked sexy for our dates and wanted to know what happened?So question is "Are we always to present ourselves at our best"?Are we allowed down time? What do the men really expect ?

IMHO, that comment by him sounded like a cheap shot!

First of all he should not have come up and said hi. That was not discreet of him.

Of course you are allowed downtime. I don't expect ladies to look "sexy" all the time. By the way you are hot.

What? You mean you weren't wearing your boned satin corset with the garter straps, fishnet stockings and 5 inch patent leather slingbacks in the blazing heat as you strolled along the lakefront with your girlfriends? Well see now, you just went and ruined this poor man's fantasy! I would expect you will be receiving the bills for his therapist in your mail now.



Don't think twice about it, Jill.

I can't imagine saying such a thing to any woman and living to tell about it. Most of us know better than to engage a provider in public, let alone gawk at her and then have the gall to insult her. You say he's a regular client? You might want to rethink that. How does a guy apologize for a remark like this? Make up some dumbass excuse that he wasn't thinking? Duh...

None of us expect you to look like a hooker on the street. Any guy who thinks a woman goes out in public made up for sex needs a serious reality check and probably therapy.

A smile and nod would have been appropriate.

The guy did show his true colors and now you know to count him in the 'asshole' category who lives in fantasy land all the time.  

I last saw you in person 2 years ago but I can say for certain from your more recent pictures you defied what I thought was impossible and are even more sexy now.

If we men knew what we really wanted, the world would be a better place.  Wants change rapidly, with us men.  
To answer your question of presentation, the answer is no.  Down time is a given.  Your regular has an idea in his head of what you 'should' look like all the time.  Unexpected run-ins, rare, but occur.  I feel a smile and a 'Hi' are fine.  Depending on if others are present.

my two cents!

It is those kind of guys that give everyone a bad name. First he decided he needed to approach you even though you were with friends. Reverse that and  say he was walking along with his wife and you decided to walk up and say hi to him. I imagine he would be here on the board telling everyone how rude and disrespectful you were. Then, he goes to the next level and sends an e-mail to let you know that he was disappointed that you weren't walking around in lingerie at the lakefront. Who is he to say that?

I enjoy the lady visiting in whatever she wears. Natural is always sexier. Only an idot tells a woman she doesn't look good. Why keep him as a regualr when he is obviously brain dead?

Granted he is a douche for implying anything about you not looking as he expected you to look, but the bigger issue is that he said anything at all.  He doesn't know if you have anyone with you (even if they weren't right at your side) who he could be outing you to.  He could have just given a knowing wink or head nod to you and just sent the annoying email later anyway with the same effect.  So now he is not only an annoying douche, but he also could have been outing you which makes him a stupid and dangerous annoying douche.

SMEGMA!!

I have seen former dates in public and all i do is a quick nod of the head and keep on going..  but for him to email you later and comment about your appearance? what a Prick excuse my mild french.  i'd drop him   We are all allowed to have our down time....  no PMs please
SweetPeach
NW Indiana Provider on down time here lol

You can look however you want when you leave the house, but you have to deal with the consequences.  

I know I've had certainly experienced that moment where I see some hot chick I know and I wish I would have shaved or I wasn't wearing some ratty shirt.  

And by the way, the burbs are so fucking lame!

Can you say LOSER?

I ask my ATF all the time to look like she just got finished with the laundry, did the dishes, cleaned house, no makeup, just natural. Those have been our best sessions.

Seconded. It was cheap and mean spirited.