Zabrina:
To answer your question. However, what is true for me may not be true for others.
I crave physical contact. Like many on this board, I am a single guy living alone. As such, I can go weeks without any sort of contact with another person, let alone intimate, physical contact. With that in mind, what I physically desire is soft, sensual, physical touch. Too often, providers confuse this with manipulation of the genitals only. While this is certainly pleasurable, too much of the time this is the ONLY part of the body some providers are interested in. I am sure that, as a woman, you have been with a man who was interested in one part of your body. How did you feel after a session with him? Unfulfilled.
That is why I tend to gravitate towards women who are active with their hands. Caresses of the entire body. Hugs when we meet. Soft massage or roaming hands both before, during, or after the act. This can be far more arousing than a rub and a tug on the happy bits. And it is also why I try to please my partner as much as she pleases me. This business is a two-way street. If I am inconsiderate of a woman's needs and desires, she is not going to make me a priority if I wish to see her again.
A wise woman once told me two things. 1) That unless told otherwise, I should treat each inch of a woman's body as tenderly and gently as I would want her to touch the head of my penis, and 2) That the largest erogenous zone is that of the mind, and if I made no effort to engage my partner mentally, I was wasting my time and hers.
I hope this answers your question.
