I know that some women hate facial hair on a man and others love it. With respect to the etiquette of seeing a provider who either has seen me before (when I was clean-shaven) vs someone I've never seen before, what is your input and advice for getting the honest opinion on whether it's a turn off vs turn on for her? I think it's important to be up front so there are no surprises, but sometimes girls will say it doesn't make a difference, but then it obviously does bother them. It's clearly in my best interests to find someone who is enthusiastic about it rather than merely accepting it. I keep it pretty well-groomed with a scrub in the shower, lotions and oils and combing it, so it doesn't get bad skin underneath or dry scratchy hair. I have gotten a number of compliments on it from unexpected sources. But still, I know it's not for everyone and I don't take it personally if it's a non-starter for someone.

The one provider I saw earlier this year after growing it was a bad experience (I may have seen another longtime friend since I've had it, but I know she likes goateed men, so my beard wouldn't have been an issue with her). I told her in advance that I had it, sent her a pic so she didn't think it was something it is not, etc. and she said it wasn't an issue, but once in the room, she very obviously didn't care for it. No kissing. Sent me a mean note afterward (after I gave an honest but somewhat critical review that she tried to have taken down).  

I am an oral freak and a session just isn't as good to me if she's not into kissing and facesitting and cumming all over my face. I think it's good manners on both peoples' part to be upfront and honest about this - I don't want to waste your time or my time or have either of us regret the experience.  And I totally respect that even a soft well-hooked beard may not be your idea of a friendly surface to rub up against sensitive parts of your flesh. Any advice on how to approach it would be appreciated.

I'm so glad you asked this question, because I have found myself wondering if this is something I need to mention beforehand. Like you, I keep my beard well groomed & clean. Have heard from multiple sources that they were surprised at how soft it was...

Is this something I'm required to mention prior to meeting or is this something that should be on someone's website under etiquette. I have seen a clean shaven face request on more than one site- but wonder if that's more about an itchy 5pm shadow...

Thanks in advance!

Sorry hun but when I kiss a man with a mustache or beard I always end up with those pokey hair ends going up my nose.  It kinda grosses me out especially in this weather that can give you a little bit of drainage, icka because I am not a boogey eater.

As far as down there, it is just ok.  If it is recently trimmed it can be painful though because the ends are sharper.  I am less likely to have as much fun as I would like if I am being poked or rubbed raw with the hair.

Personally I like clean shaven, the experience is better for someone who is really into oral both with kissing and down stairs.  I wish it wasn't so, but it is certainly is a hindrance when someone has a hairy face IMO

It all depends on the softness of the beard, the length of the beard and as sage said.... cold weather icky buggers no thank you!!! That's where you have to carry something to clean up your beard when you arrive.

However, I do like some, not all, short beards downstairs....  

Sage I will have to give you some pointers on what feels really good and how those awful pokey hairs wont poke you downstairs if the technique is right

Generally, those who have beards do a good job of keeping them clean. If that is you, I don't mind it at all. Sometimes men look super sexy with face hair, too. Not all men can rock a good beard, but some... mmm. It's quite nice.

I will say clean shaven is nice too. HOWEVER if you are clean shaven, please be VERY clean shaven (ideally having shaved within a few hours). I have little love for the "I shaved recently-ish" sort of stubble... it is like trying to make out or being scrubbed in delicate areas by a very rough sand paper. I truly am not a fan of that at all. It hurts. I don't like that kind of pain at all, and it can leave me feeling raw. Having extra raw skin in winter is just miserable. So, for me men, please don't do give me the almost-but-not-fully-smooth clean shaven thing if you care about me enjoying myself to the fullest. And I'm hoping you would. The best of times are all about incredible mutual pleasure.

Thanks for the feedback and pleasure to make your acquaintance.

All fair points. Thanks for your feedback!

I am not a smoker, but I imagine that there are some other issues if a bearded man is a heavy smoker. I'm thinking of my basketball coach in junior high. Great guy, but tough to be within 15 feet of his ... "fragrance".

So, tell me Sage, as long as I have the facial hair, should I mark you down as a good provider for those times when I simply crave a woman to focus on me from the shoulders down? Or when I need to be bound, gagged and hooded?

Ha! Re: your "short beards downstairs" line.  That hair tends to be pretty soft as long as you're not in that transitional period going from being shaved vs. letting it grow to its natural state (doesn't it? or does it vary by one's ethnicity and hair type?)

I like a slightly grown out 5 o'clock shadow or even a full beard on some occasions as a matter of aesthetics but as far as clients go, the only issue I can have with facial hair is cleanliness and prickliness. Some men who smoke and have a full beard end up having quite a strong odor to their facial hair even if they have proper grooming standards. My biggest issue is if the situation is prickly. If a man's facial hair is thick and sort of stiff, at a certain length of growing in that hair can feel extremely sharp and painful on sensitive girl bits. It makes me yelp in pain and reflexively flinch/pull away. It feels like what I imagine getting your parts poked with needles would feel like. ouchies! If its soft or grown in enough, this isn't a problem.

Neither baby, either way we would still play.  I work around it, and while I may not enjoy it as much being poked or rubbed a bit much I will still enjoy it.  The hopes are that I take it easy a bit myself so I don't damage myself by getting what a need and ignoring the bristles.  I do like the sound of bound and hooded, however gagged?  Then how am I going to ummm, you know then?

Mine is practically all grey now..................do I score several thousand points??????

END OF MESSAGE

Oh and I forgot I don't like rug burn. just be gentle with me and make sure the beard is soft and not prickly like a porcupine.

You're welcome, and it is a delight to meet new people.

I really don't give a shit.

I learned some things from the provider's responses. Interesting.

I don't seem to mind it at all when a girl has a bit of a "beard" down there. But then, my chin isn't nearly as sensitive as her vajayjay.

Sorry hun, you'll never see me with that cowboy look, LOL. I don't have spurs that jingle jangle jingle unless they're my frozen balls from our frigid arctic weather. I don't have a cowboy hat either but if I grew a gray beard, I suppose it would line up with my pirate theme. You should have seen me with a mustache years ago, I looked like I was out of some bad 70's porno movie

Can't wait to see you this week and lucky you, it's a hell of a lot warmer than this past week. See ya soon