I know the ladies probably aren't going to be honest about this subject and so I am going to ask the guys.  In the past I have asked providers that I have seen many times if they would care if I visited their girlfriends.  Just about all would say that they didn't have a problem with it but once I did it seemed like it bothered them.  I even asked some if it was a problem and they later admitted that it bothered them.  I don't know if it was an ego thing or loss of income but it bothered them.  Was wondering if any of you guys have had the same experience.  Now I don't knowingly see the friends of ladies that I see regularly because it causes problems.

Don't ever bring up other providers unless you are discussing a possible threesome!  

Just want to get my 2 cent in.There is plenty of fish in the sea.So there is no reason for a lady to get bothered by you seeing someone else.There are so many men in Chicago and plenty to go around for each and every lady in this business.Mabe you are good looking and they want you all to themselves????

.....this is one of those occupations for providers that is intimate, personal.  Feelings matter, no matter what most say.  Even though they're providing, and it's a paid transaction, and they're seeing far more hobbyists than you're seeing providers............you get the picture.

On several occasions providers have suggested that I see one of their friends and then the drama starts.  Now I never discuss my encounters with other providers and  I know I don't have to ask for permission but since the providers were sharing the same working space, it was just a courtesy thing to see if it would be a problem.  It never seems to work, at least not for me and so I am done with doing the girlfriends of girlfriends.Lol

So, look. Here's the deal. It's in my best interest to refer my good clients to my closest friends. Why? Because more often than not, a client that sees me is looking for women who have a similar attitude, look, or specialty that's akin to mine.  I call it a "preferred referral network", and it's really great.  You screen with me, or any one of my gals, and you can basically see all of us based on that recommendation (assuming you're not using an outdated reference from anyone).

Thanks for responding Londonbay.  These two particular ladies offered up their girlfriends and when I took their bait they turned on me.Lol  Stopped taking calls and cut me off.

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I felt like the guys showed a tremendous amount of insight on this subject.  While I know that one of the things you guys pay for is no strings attached, and I believe that with my whole heart,  I can't say it won't hurt my feelings a little bit when you go see my friends.  I would never let you know that, though, because it's unprofessional and immature, but you guys were right.  We are only human and sometimes that can be disappointing..  

Or if I'm recommending a friend from out of state.

And make another girl feel exposed? If that were the case with me, I would let the other girl know immediately that something's up, and I would choose the friendship with the girl over the money.

There's a reason I do not share in calls with anyone ever forever ever again.  

DS, I hope this doesn't offend you, but the cases of ladies refusing to take calls sounds so extreme that I wonder if there wasn't more going on than "jealousy". If they like you and your money, and they have any self-awareness at all, why would they take the initiative (at least that's how I read your post) to farm you out to friends and lose a good customer? Perhaps they were ready to move on for whatever reason and this was their way of doing so?

I almost wrote this last night(better, but hey this is what you get in the morning from me, lol) but with you asking the guys I felt weird about answering till I saw alot more ladies responding today.

Hello ladies,
Thanks for all of your thoughtful responses.  I never meant to exclude the ladies from commenting on this subject, I just thought you wouldn't.  After all, who would know more about this subject than the women.  I am glad that some of the ladies have admitted that they are bothered when their clients leave them for other ladies.  This honesty gives us guys some insight into how the ladies in the profession think and feel and I hope that the guys that are reading this are more cautious or at least more thoughtful when dealing with the friends of the escorts that they see regularly.

It's funny, this came up recently. I was on a business trip, and totally debauching, and the woman I was with asked me if I had seen anyone else while I was there, and the reply choked in my throat. Logically, I knew she was just making conversation and probably didn't care beyond that but all the possible paranoid negatives started screaming in my head, all of them ultimately bullshit.  

No one will believe me except clients who have seen me and providers I know.

Is someone that does not belong in the business, IMHO

I know most of it is just trying to find common ground, and obviously that's the easiest subject. Then there are references, and ideas for duos and recommendations...

It is kinda awkward to discuss activities with one provider versus another. Also I'd wanna know what the context of the conversation was. In a certain context a man or woman could take it like you're trying to make jealousy be a factor to get some type of benefit to keep you from seeing someone else. She's still a woman. Might make her feel she's not doing something right.

Not sure how it came about, but I've had providers ask for my TER screen name where they say is for verification, but actually look at reviews to get an idea of what I like and don't like.

I'm wondering if these slightly possessive feelings are rooted strictly in the temporary loss of business or if they tend to be more of a personal nature?  Either way it only shows you value your clients, or at least their business.   Despite the downside for you, I really admire your honesty on this...it shows you're human in a way some of us might not expect.  Kind of nice, IMO.

I once had a girl that was my ATF. And she knew she was. I actually don't mind seeing the same girl if I can find one that seems attuned with my wants and us sexual and secure enough to let me explore a few of hers. Feeds to my GFE fantasy I think and she gets to understand my desires better than starting over and over with a new woman each time. I actually complimented to her that she was unlike any of the other ladies I'd met, and she felt a little offended by that. Where I thought I thought would be a compliment made it awkward for her.

I have had ladies tease me and say that I was cheating on them right after I submitted a new review.  I know that some guys think that some of these ladies are dumb but most are not and they see what is going on.  They read the reviews just like us guys and when they know your TER handle they see who your fucking.Lol Just might be one of their girls.  They also may read that you are doing things to their girl that you are not doing for them!

why would it bother you at all if he sees another woman? you see other men, right? this biz is supposed to be a fantasy, it's called GF "experience" not GF "reality"  i never even thought this would be a problem until i started reading this post, (and another one i think was on the general discussion page). are we like hair stylists that get upset that our client is "cheating" on us by seeing somebody else at the salon?  we are all human and emotions are perfectly natural but c'mon... put on your big-girl pants.

Yeah. I don't mind it when they are inquiring and getting an insight of how to please me. Even to learn the pet peeves. This is another reason why I don't review every experience. If there's something personal I'd say that could turn another guy off or come off the wrong way from another provider reading my comments when prepping for our date. I like the date to feel authentic. She should be able to know me from our interactions, not how I'd interact with someone else.

You're absolutely right it shouldn't bother them that he sees other women because she does have other visitors as well. It seems there is a couple interesting dynamics playing out though. Sage and Freya kinda touch on that there is some sort of bond that she has with you as a client and that feeling of unbeknownst belittling is present when the graphic concept of another provider is in the mix. I mean wouldn't it be kinda rude and unprofessional if she talked about her other male client's visits with that same provider on your new friends list? There's also something to be said about having a great time with "you" and keeping the outside, outside, it's just professionalism. Then there is the $$$ dynamic. Of course they want their friends to do well and there seems to be a Sisterhood amongst providers, but if you give all your riches to the rest of the world then what would you have left for yourself.

I'm rarely in one place for long, or very often because I'm almost entirely a touring provider, so if a gent asks for a recommendation and I give him details of friends I genuinely hope he'll see them. It works both ways too as I've had bookings from other ladies recommending me. I think girls who are secure in themselves and have good solid bookings and their finances in order are only too happy to share clients and help other ladies succeed, and clients see good providers.
I imagine really young girls would be more likely to get possessive over clients and stress about losing them to other providers?

...some want to visit every lady on TER at least one time,  and then there are some kind of in the middle who want to stick with their favorite five or six ladies. It's all good.  

I like to learn what you thought of them and learn more about the other ladies in the business, never in a negative way. I just think it's fun. It really IS just making conversation.

I totally understand. Sometimes we men find an ATF, and it's apparently that that ladies do too. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I kinda agree with Freya here that it's kinda misleading and confusing if you reach that ATF level and it seems that relationship (let's call it what it is) was just whispers in the dark.  

Well all I know is if freya is in Chicago I want to see her just because of her honesty and integrity.

....if he doesn't but again if you're still THAT GOOD then you can find someone to replace him (just like he replaced you).

I am not the jealous type, but I have ran into some issues with a few ladies that seemed to get very territorial if one of their regulars wanted to see me or if they found out a guy was seeing other providers. I think it all depends on the lady.

We are not freaking married! I don't own you. That is why you come to me.No strings attached, FFS.

this ended up being a good thread and glad we are discussing this.