: Chicago Discussion : Re: Thanks

CageAgain 781 reads

posted 11 years ago

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ver the last few day's I have reached out to several providers to try and arrange a date.
All the one's I contacted claimed to provide what I was looking for in the ads or website. Understand that I want some
out of the box things.

So the trail of not understanding starts.

1st I am not verified on any service.
2nd Really only have one person that can verify me in the last year, but does not have web site.

That being said made it very clear was willing to provide whatever information needed to verify me.

2 answered me one said no thanks the other stopped talking to me

2 never responded

Am I up the creek without a paddle ? Or am I doing something that I don't understand that is making them
think we might have a issue.

Thanks very muc

Jack Bauer 378 Reviews 440 reads

posted 11 years ago

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You answered your own questions

1st I am not verified on any service.
2nd Really only have one person that can verify me in the last year, but does not have web site.

Right off the bat you are facing an uphill battle. Join P411 or RS2K, unless you plan to see newbie friendly providers [who will ask for employment details and other personal info].

Plus, I bet you are saying something in your communications that is scaring off ladies. It probably pertains to whatever "out of the box" activities you want. Ladies don't like to discuss services over the phone or e-mail. Get familiar with the term YMMV.

CageAgain 366 reads

posted 11 years ago

3 / 14

Re: You answered your own questions

Thanks Jack I have no problem providing additional information to the ladies.

Since I am "out of the box" how do I explain what I am looking for ?

chicagojoe32 97 Reviews 325 reads

posted 11 years ago

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Re: You answered your own questions

Try, discreetly, posting on this board an example of "out of the box" and perhaps you will have some one PM you and go from there. Or use the search engine provided on TER

MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 527 reads

posted 11 years ago

5 / 14

as someone who caters to "out of the box" requests, here's a tip:

I'm willing to discuss session details via email once a client has been verified. Considering you're looking for something very particular, it's not fair for you to show up for a date and pay for something that you might not end up getting.

Try phrasiing it like this:

Dear provider x,
While I am not a member of a verification service and my last reference is over a year old, I am happy to provide you with employment verification and other information.

I'm interested in a session that's on the unique side, and once you've verified me, I'm wondering if we can discuss that.

Thank you so much for your time,
CageAgain

"outside the box" tends to mean you're interested in a fetish or bdsm-based session. try looking providers who use the phrases "open-minded", "fetish friendly", or just let their freak flags fly via photos and other info on their websites.

Good luck!

GramParsons 305 reads

posted 11 years ago

6 / 14

Re: as someone who caters to "out of the box" requests, here's a tip:

Once again Erin you are right on the money.

PeonyK See my TER Reviews 259 reads

posted 11 years ago

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Re: as someone who caters to "out of the box" requests, here's a tip:

Good advise !!

Freya Fantasia See my TER Reviews 305 reads

posted 11 years ago

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excellent advice. You might also describe what has been awesome in the past...

Instead of asking for it directly.

Prostitution is exchanging lewd or sexual acts from money so you shouldn't ask for that. But sometimes you can describe a fantasy that you had or something that you did one time and you're not negotiating to do that with the provider.

Personally I feel much more comfortable with that with a new person.

Debra_Hollander See my TER Reviews 254 reads

posted 11 years ago

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You could write it in the form of an erotic story, maybe?

Seriously. I've had a couple of people send me stories that detailed what it was he was seeking.

Just a general greeting then, "here's a story I find very intriguing".... and then the body of the story... at the end, "if this is something which you are intrigued too, please respond".

It may sound cheesy, but since they put it in story-form, I replied to them... if they had baldly asked if I would do those things, I would not have responded at all.

Don't worry if you're not a creative writer by nature; just search the web for one that fits your desires.