WOW. Seems like I hit a nerve with you somewhere. Not my intention.
I won't spill much virtual ink responding though, because it seems like maybe you didn't read my post all that carefully. I don't claim to be super good looking. Nor do I mean to imply that my looks matter in the "john equation" or that anyone's do -- I am certain I have been with providers that did not find me attractive or that would not have chosen me to spend time with had I not contracted for it. And I would not expect them not to complete the transaction for that reason...it's work for them, remember? I acknowledged that too. Nor was I suggesting that it is just as easy to find satisfaction outside of the hobby as it is inside -- indeed, I expressly stated that immediate gratification is one of MY personal reasons for engaging in the hobby. I only meant to say that I do get laid outside of the hobby with women that I am attracted to and that would likely be found attractive by prevailing societal standards (and it doesn't really matter whether you find them to be 2s or 3s on your personal scale...they turn ME on and I was talking about me, not about you or anyone else). And I only included that to add a bit of credibility to my assertion that I have other reasons for engaging in the hobby than to address an inability to get myself laid outside of the hobby. I don't know why that doesn't make sense to you. I also acknowledged that "reasons" for doing things are as varied as all of our individual experiences. Not looking for attention anymore than you are (or are you? I obviously can't know that from reading one of your messages). I just wanted to state my opinion/suspicion that not all providers have the same reasons for providing. If you want to respond to that or debate that or whatever, please do...this is as open a forum as all of us have for discussing these sorts of topics. If not, I guess we'll end it there. Sorry I caught you on a bad day
I always wonder the backstory on some of the ladies? did you inquire about a job? for money? fun? or did someone propose it to you? Maybe others have similar thoughts?
After I got out of porn I was an Executive Assistant and got bored with that.... I realized I really just wanted to have sex and lots of it!!
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Zana
You do it for the money. Stop with the BS.
That is a silly question. I have a savings account with plenty of money in it. I have CD's, money hidden away for rainy days. When I was in porn I got paid but it was the running joke among everyone that I would have done it for free. Maybe you should rethink your question for people you actually know. Since you have never met me.
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I apologize for whoever asked that ? Nothing is free in life. No matter the chosen profession all of us have to make a living that will allow us to live the lifestyle we would like, provide for loved ones, have security blanket for future etc. More power to those who truly enjoy what they do to make a living. The less your occupation seems like work the more successful you're likely to be. Sorry didn't mean to pontificate i just couldn't see why anyone would ask you why you would charge for your services. They would not ask the same question of a lawyer/doctor/accountant etc. Asking someone why they charge is just a bit disrespectful.
Thank you very much for understanding!
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Zana
LOL sure you do, sure you do..............
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Thank you so much!
It was so much fun!!!
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Zana
Well, did more than just watch, lol
My answer is similar to Zana's and it's funny how often men (always men) reply with this.
If you're good at something and enjoy it, why not make a living off it? Isn't every job on earth worked for the money?
Exactly. Which is why you see all those professional athletes play for free....
Oh, wait....
typical alias self-righteous bullshit..they dont have the balls to post this shit under their real handle..wonder why?
Don't you have another thread in the RO board to leak?
i can always leak in your mouth..i here you love to suck cock Ronnie.
You're such a douchebag. Who next are you going to share the RO board with is an excellent question. Why anyone here would ever trust you with anything, especially the ladies, is beyond comprehension.
you will have to learn to let this go sooner or later..living in fear will not help you..we all know who you are..you are just to fucking obvious..good hunting..
For someone in their 60s (maybe 70s), such retorts make you seem like a teenager slinging an insult in the locker room. Totally juvenile.
Any comeback that essentially amounts to "durrrr you're gay" is pretty lame.
Like a little boy. The ladies like him kissing their assholes, the guys know better.
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WHAT... a dumb statement. Is it a requirement that you must HATE being a provider in order to get paid for it? Or does that concept just really get your rocks off.
God forbid women find a profession that not only MAKES MONEY, but they can also find empowering and enjoyable.
I'm quitting the biz immediately and getting a job at Starbucks so I can hate myself and what I do like a normal person!
Your original response would imply that there is only ONE reason for being in the business.... and it can only be money exclusive of pleasure.
Thank you all for your support on that dumb ass comment for the person who obviously does not understand reality! If he understood providers and why some of us got into this profession maybe he would have more fun himself.
Love always
Zana
you are welcome..trouble is..ron burgundy thinks he is reality when in fact he is a piece of living breathing shit..
Love always
Zana
Well people shouldn't say things they do not understand especially about people they do not know! Thanks again for standing up for me! You actually know me!!
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Zana
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Zana
I'll stop there before Octagenarian rage sets in.
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Zana
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Zana
....a discount macleaky the douchebag!
Everybody knows who you are, so knock off your alias crap
Grow the fuck up.
Same old shit.
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Big fucking deal. So she has fun too, so what?
Thanks honey
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Zana
Oh my, the tons of pornos of executive assistants and bosses, lol! It's one of the hottest fantasies, sex in the office! Door closed or open, how adventurous are you? 
I think I have actually done that porn before!!!! I still have the secretary outfit!!
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I've watched a quite a few your vids, hot hot hot!
After hours...with the door open...you never know when the cleaning crew will show up, lol. Usually right in the middle of jacking off in my experience, HAHA!
Thank you so much honey! I had so much fun making them! How could you not! You get laid!!!
The Door Wide Open... Yes fun times!!
I have actually had sex when the maid came in. I was in Vegas. I swear she stood there for the longest time before she left... It was so funny!
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Zana
After hours...with the door open...you never know when the cleaning crew will show up, lol. Usually right in the middle of jacking off in my experience, HAHA!
Oh God, I can't imagine this happening, I'd be freaking out but you'd be all cool and probably ask her if she wanted to join in, lol. Haven't seen too many hot maids so you might wanna ditch that idea if it enters your head. I'm still laughing, birthday suit, maid staring, sounds like a... porno moment!
Only a moron would believe that. If you were a desperate broken down old hag, I could understand it. You are not bad looking, so unless you are socially inept you are fucking for the money. End of story.
This is a job, a job like any other. OF COURSE WE ARE FUCKING FOR MONEY. BUT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ENJOYING WHAT WE DO. Why does "fucking for money" and "having fun" have to be mutually exclusive? You're setting up a false dichotomy. What you're also implying is that those of us who DO enjoy this job, those of us who keep on doing this job because we enjoy it, are broken. We are not broken.
Stigma like that is what keeps sex work so taboo. The assumption that the only reason ladies enjoy this job is because they're less than desirable or somehow "unworthy" is just plain bullshit.
Not to mention, I don't fuck "strangers", and if I did, it wouldn't make me any less of a person. My body, my choice. I mean, honestly. No one would get laid if people didn't enjoy fucking all sorts of other people.
When I bartended, I bartended FOR MONEY. But you know what? I also really loved bartending. I loved the interactions. I loved making awesome drinks. It's always nice when you can enjoy the work you do.
SO OF COURSE WE ALL DO THIS JOB FOR MONEY, BUT I CAN STILL FUCK FOR MONEY AND REALLY ENJOY MY JOB.
So just quit.
...I knew Erin was a former bartender when I saw her pop a champagne cork and catch it in her hand like a boss. It was pretty badass.
Stigma like that is what keeps sex work so taboo. The assumption that the only reason ladies enjoy this job is because they're less than desirable or somehow "unworthy" is just plain bullshit.
Not to mention, I don't fuck "strangers", and if I did, it wouldn't make me any less of a person. My body, my choice. I mean, honestly. No one would get laid if people didn't enjoy fucking all sorts of other people.
When I bartended, I bartended FOR MONEY. But you know what? I also really loved bartending. I loved the interactions. I loved making awesome drinks. It's always nice when you can enjoy the work you do.
SO OF COURSE WE ALL DO THIS JOB FOR MONEY, BUT I CAN STILL FUCK FOR MONEY AND REALLY ENJOY MY JOB.
So just quit.
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Stigma like that is what keeps sex work so taboo. The assumption that the only reason ladies enjoy this job is because they're less than desirable or somehow "unworthy" is just plain bullshit.
Not to mention, I don't fuck "strangers", and if I did, it wouldn't make me any less of a person. My body, my choice. I mean, honestly. No one would get laid if people didn't enjoy fucking all sorts of other people.
When I bartended, I bartended FOR MONEY. But you know what? I also really loved bartending. I loved the interactions. I loved making awesome drinks. It's always nice when you can enjoy the work you do.
SO OF COURSE WE ALL DO THIS JOB FOR MONEY, BUT I CAN STILL FUCK FOR MONEY AND REALLY ENJOY MY JOB.
So just quit.
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Is the Chicago mafia worse than NY mafia? I think not, at least not since Al Capone bit the dust from fucking too many hookers
Now there's a fantasy - being mobbed by a bunch of attractive mafia CHI babes and being forced to have sex with all of them. I'd be so incensed, wouldn't you? What a horrible thing to do to a guy!!!
A chick who can fuck my brains out, and then mix me up a millionaire's coffee in the morning.
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oh, I've got lots of tricks like that. 
Truth be told, there's no difference between doing porn and being an escort with one exception - legality. Even in the escort business, there's some legality as long as there's no sex and you're simply spending time with a client for money. I don't believe escorting itself is illegal - only the sex part.
I'll take a guess that in general escorting pays better than porn. Not to mention that there are no multiple takes or coitus interruptus. How does a horny girl get off doing porn? Does it happen often Zana? Erin? Beuhler?
Hell, I prostitute myself out every day at work. I get paid for performing a service. It uses a different body part than yours but I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't get paid either. We have to do SOMETHING for money so we can live. Why not fuck for a living? Porn is legal, prostitution is not. You weigh the financial rewards against the risks and come to a decision. Right?
I will tell you only for myself. I can not speak about other people that were in the business. I know a few that were like me. I pretty much held the crew, directors and everyone captive. I did not listen to anyone when I was on scene (making a movie). Except when it was a dialogue day. When I had a scene with one of my favorites and we were together they pretty much just filmed around us and tried to take pictures. The male talent knew me well enough to hold me in a position long enough for the photo then moved again. I got into the business to get laid. I got out of the business because they (directors mostly) started making it not fun. So, I left. I still as of today have my agents and others asking me to go back but would rather not. It is more fun here. Meeting new people and having fun this way. Take it for what you will. The people who have met me know all about me and know exactly what I am talking about.
I hope everyone has fun and enjoys the other benefits too without all the negativity.
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Zana
I'll take a guess that in general escorting pays better than porn. Not to mention that there are no multiple takes or coitus interruptus. How does a horny girl get off doing porn? Does it happen often Zana? Erin? Beuhler?
Hell, I prostitute myself out every day at work. I get paid for performing a service. It uses a different body part than yours but I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't get paid either. We have to do SOMETHING for money so we can live. Why not fuck for a living? Porn is legal, prostitution is not. You weigh the financial rewards against the risks and come to a decision. Right?
and it reflects what I've heard from other porn stars. The process of filming and photos takes the fun out of sex. One porn star told me she got tired of doing the same thing over for multiple takes and what started out as a fun day turned into real work that she wasn't enjoying. Same experience as you described.
Here, both of us can have fun and there's no one interfering in that fun. But it's not legal so that adds another layer of stress that you don't have in porn.
You seem like a lot of fun - I like fun
I wouldn't call getting paid for a service "prostitution". that's using a bit of creative licensing on what the term prostitution actually means. Getting paid for performing a service is a job. Just sayin'.
But of course we all do things for cash that we wouldn't do for free. I'm not attracted to every client that walks in the door, and if I were to meet that person in civvie life, I wouldn't be randomly hooking up with them. That's okay; I'm not being paid to be attracted to someone. I'm being paid for a service. It happens to be a service I thoroughly enjoy though, so it helps a lot.
As far as orgasms? I cum pretty regularly with clients. Be it from myself, them, or from my trusty hitachi. I've never done porn, so I can't speak to that. From what I've heard from other mainstream porn producers though, it's not the most common thing due to multiple takes, other pressures, etc. But personally, i have no idea.
Escorting is totes illegal, though. It gets shoved either into "pandering" or "solicitation". Not to mention, getting paid "under the table" is illegal as well, so whether or not you're having sex, receiving income and not reporting it isn't legal. And considering that cops can go through an entire date and have sex with a gal before busting her, it makes the situation even trickier (yes, it's entrapment, but it's the cop's word against hers, and the cop's gonna win).
Risk vs reward is always a factor, and some people might even throw a little bit of politics into their work as well. Risks and rewards also vary from person to person; one person's hard limit is another person's walk in the park.
At the end of the day, it's really not anyone's business as to why we do what we do, or how much we "truly" enjoy what we do. If you're lucky and get responses like the ones given here, it's a good place to start. Some people love to share stories, others are more private. But honestly; do you want to know that someone is escorting to put food in the mouths of hungry kids? To pay of debt? Or would you rather just pretend and keep that GFE experience more legit
Risk vs reward is always a factor, and some people might even throw a little bit of politics into their work as well. Risks and rewards also vary from person to person; one person's hard limit is another person's walk in the park.
At the end of the day, it's really not anyone's business as to why we do what we do, or how much we "truly" enjoy what we do. If you're lucky and get responses like the ones given here, it's a good place to start. Some people love to share stories, others are more private. But honestly; do you want to know that someone is escorting to put food in the mouths of hungry kids? To pay of debt? Or would you rather just pretend and keep that GFE experience more legit?
When I read this post, the thought of a topless bar tender who servers me drinks and then we fuck. Hmm, got to add that fantasy to the bucket list...
Do you enjoy it enough that if you were offered a respectable unrelated job with the same lucrative features: magnitude cash payout per hour, work when you want, as much as you want, so the potential to make a lot of cash...
Bartending doesn't come close as a useful analogy. Like an order or two magnitude off in $ and not nearly the stigma of getting caught doing it. A middleman heroin dealer is more apropos... If someone says they enjoy dealing heroin and I believed it, then it might work.
But feel free to carry on. Lol.
Stigma like that is what keeps sex work so taboo. The assumption that the only reason ladies enjoy this job is because they're less than desirable or somehow "unworthy" is just plain bullshit.
Not to mention, I don't fuck "strangers", and if I did, it wouldn't make me any less of a person. My body, my choice. I mean, honestly. No one would get laid if people didn't enjoy fucking all sorts of other people.
When I bartended, I bartended FOR MONEY. But you know what? I also really loved bartending. I loved the interactions. I loved making awesome drinks. It's always nice when you can enjoy the work you do.
SO OF COURSE WE ALL DO THIS JOB FOR MONEY, BUT I CAN STILL FUCK FOR MONEY AND REALLY ENJOY MY JOB.
So just quit.
It's not the analogy that matters, it's the fact that I can enjoy my work, and that I'm not obligated to be miserable in my work because I'm a sex worker. that's the transcendent part of that statement;sex work is a job, and we as sex workers have the right to enjoy our work just as anyone else does
...an answer (above) that goes "definitely love (primarily)."
But feel free to argue the straw man/person.
No one can argue that you guys love it ...1% of the time.
the other 99% you're with a guy 50 years older (sorry, Drip/py). Lol.
Reading your other posts, we know you get huffy when ladies get called out (no matter the reason) so you can have this thread now.
...and I have no clue what you're referring to or talking about, aside from me getting "huffy".
I do get huffy. I get huffy when I see things I don't agree with. It wasn't one lady being called out, here. It's all these lived experience that are getting called out. Zana, Lola, Tobi, myself, and other ladies have given legit answers to questions asked, and yet we get told that what we are saying can't possibly be true. So, why even bother asking if your default is going to be "well, she's lying"?
Pertaining to your question concerning "straw-manning" the thread, I'm not sure how I've done that. My response wasn't in regards to the OP (that topic had been derailed long ago); I responded to a post that stated that no woman enjoys having sex with old men or strangers. That statement was presented in a very reductionist manner, and I responded to that. I did not replace the proposition presented by The post i responded to with a different, weaker proposition and then proceed to argue against the weaker proposition.
And your "1% vs 99%" is just as reductionist as all the other arguments made concerning a woman's ability to enjoy sex work. That percentage statement implies that we all hate what we do 99% of the time; I think if that were the case, we'd all be poor, horribly angry hookers.
And honestly, why would you want to see a woman who you believe hates her job 99% of the time? If you believe she hates her job so frequently, your chances of being that "1%" experience are slim to say the least. What a horrible way to hobby.
Anyway, I'm totally down for debate and constructive criticisms to my arguments. This is an open forum and we are all adults, so I feel that we should be able to talk about things intelligently and critically. What I'm not down for is being repeatedly told that I'm a liar who can't possibly enjoy what I do without being viewed as undesirable or broken. That nonsense is for the birds
If I were to get into porn, as a male performer, I would get into it for fun over money. Just the idea of physical pleasure with all kinds of women would not make me think of getting paid first. I imagine over time that the porn experience would not always be as fun as it was in the beginning due to various factors (demanding directors, bitchy co-performers, etc). Therefore, my attitude and enjoyment would not always be at its best from scene to scene creating a YMMV situation.
To bring it back to providers enjoying what they do, the YMMV differences from one review to another shows that providers may enjoy what they do, but not always enjoy it as much with one client as with another, or perhaps not enjoy it at all sometimes.
From what I understand from some of the posts, some of the providers are creating an illusion of enjoying themselves nearly all the time, when in fact the nature of the YMMV phenomena tells a different story. Of course there will be certain women like Zana that always have a good time no matter the client, but you have to admit that she and perhaps yourself are rare in this industry. Don't bad days at work exist in this industry as well, when you wish you were doing something else?
I apologize for being long-winded.
No need to apologize for being long-winded... I'm the queen of that.
Of course bad days happen. To say bad days don't happen would be completely unrealistic. Personally, my good days far outnumber the bad, and that's generally by my own design. Screening well alleviates problems that can lead to bad days; being physically, emotionally, and spiritually balanced helps alleviate bad days too. But everyone has bad work days, and sex work is no different.
The question originally posed is of interest to many hobbyists I bet, so I'd to see it get back on track without any angry judgmental posts. I am a member of the second oldest profession, and I enjoy my work and I get paid for it but I do give some of it away pro bono.
Grad school is expensive and student loan interest rates suck ass. Tried the sugar baby route for about 5 days (weird and lame), before stumbling onto TER. Pretty much showed up on the newbie board and worked my way from there!
The rest is pretty much history. That said, while I admittedly got into it for the money, it's also super fun, super easy, and doesn't take much time away from my personal endeavors. It's a sweet gig.
Tobi's answer is honest and awesome for sure. But there isn't one universal answer for everyone, my friend.
I've known women who are in financially stable situations and use this as a FUN way to supplement their income even if they don't need to. Otherwise that would just be called swinging. There is a specific aspect of the transactional relationship that can make it much more fun than random hookups. You're providing a service, which is enjoyable (if you're good at what you do). It takes your needs out of the equation and gives you a sense of mastery over your talent when you can do what you're good at and be compensated.
You're not wrong in thinking that many join for the money - and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, telling someone they are bullshitting when they could have joined to explore the exciting world of escorting is wrong.
It's funny -- I suspect providers' answers to the original question are as varied (probably more so) than the answers we might give if asked "how/why did you get involved in 'the hobby.'" Right? I mean, people work for money and sex work is obviously work (it's right there in the name, you know?). I am perplexed as to why some find it so hard to accept that sex workers can never be fortunate enough to enjoy their work the same way others are fortunate enough to enjoy being bartenders or painters or mechanics or teachers or whatever. For my part, I envy anyone who derives a modicum of enjoyment or satisfaction from what they do to put food on the table. Unfortunately for me, it has been rare during my working life that I could honestly say I enjoyed my work -- but I have always known folks who enjoy theirs, even if they wouldn't (couldn't, really) do it for free. In the end, we all have to eat.
In the interest of fairness and mutual understanding, here's a little thought experiment for those who might assume that sex workers, almost by definition, cannot enjoy their work. Let's agree that there are probably some (inside and outside of the hobby) who might assume that the only reason a man would engage in the hobby is that he cannot get laid any other way. I'd be willing to bet that lots of men who post on this board and who are otherwise engaged in "the hobby" (god, I hate that nomenclature) would beg to differ. Again, speaking now only for myself, while romantic relationships have caused me more than my fair share of grief, I have never had trouble getting laid. And it's not like I have to resort to sleeping with women that, by my own or by our prevailing societal standards, would be considered undesirable. Quite the opposite. (Interestingly, some of my most enjoyable experiences in the hobby have, on certain occasions, been with women that, by prevailing societal standards, would typically be judged as far less attractive than my civilian partners.) I say all of this not in the interest of self congratulation, but instead to suggest that I have other reasons for engaging in "the hobby" than some inability to get laid any other way. I am not, by any means, a Brad Pitt clone, but I suspect if you polled 100 women at random, I would be judged to be above average in terms of attractiveness. I am not old. I am not disfigured. I am not married. I am not socially inept. I am not a sex addict. I can and do get laid outside of "the hobby." But here's the thing that I suspect you all already know on some level: "the Hobby" is different; typically, it's easy, uncomplicated, fun (always for me, sometimes for both of us). Two of the primary reasons I am willing, on occasion, to "pay for it" when I could otherwise "get it for free" are that I am able to get (more or less) immediate gratification and I can have an experience that is physically all about me when I want it without feeling selfish or guilty.
I will close by saying this -- any person engaged in "the Hobby" as a client/customer ought to feel pretty lousy about himself if he believes that all providers always hate providing and wouldn't ever provide except out of some sort of desperate need for money. Do we assume the same sorts of things about other "hands on" professionals like massage therapists or physical therapists or doctors or dentists
Aw, shucks...
I'm gonna have to make your acquaintance
Please do, you sound like my kinda dude. Fist bump.
I'm gonna have to make your acquaintance.
I thought it was TL;DR OT "I am hot" dude piece to answer a question about providers' motivations.
To put it another way, I'll lay odd that if you ran his suggested survey of 100 women with 500$ in his hand vs no money in his hand (knowing off course he's a John) that the results will be vastly different.
Also, what am I supposed to interpret from the fact he says he gets laid anyway. He could be trolling (a different kind) 2's and 3'a in a predatory fashion or he could be a serial rapist.
But my initial point is the real one. Our Looks are irrelevant to the John equation. He may be a hottest Hollywood actor/model. But more likely he's an attention mongering mongerer.
WOW. Seems like I hit a nerve with you somewhere. Not my intention.
I won't spill much virtual ink responding though, because it seems like maybe you didn't read my post all that carefully. I don't claim to be super good looking. Nor do I mean to imply that my looks matter in the "john equation" or that anyone's do -- I am certain I have been with providers that did not find me attractive or that would not have chosen me to spend time with had I not contracted for it. And I would not expect them not to complete the transaction for that reason...it's work for them, remember? I acknowledged that too. Nor was I suggesting that it is just as easy to find satisfaction outside of the hobby as it is inside -- indeed, I expressly stated that immediate gratification is one of MY personal reasons for engaging in the hobby. I only meant to say that I do get laid outside of the hobby with women that I am attracted to and that would likely be found attractive by prevailing societal standards (and it doesn't really matter whether you find them to be 2s or 3s on your personal scale...they turn ME on and I was talking about me, not about you or anyone else). And I only included that to add a bit of credibility to my assertion that I have other reasons for engaging in the hobby than to address an inability to get myself laid outside of the hobby. I don't know why that doesn't make sense to you. I also acknowledged that "reasons" for doing things are as varied as all of our individual experiences. Not looking for attention anymore than you are (or are you? I obviously can't know that from reading one of your messages). I just wanted to state my opinion/suspicion that not all providers have the same reasons for providing. If you want to respond to that or debate that or whatever, please do...this is as open a forum as all of us have for discussing these sorts of topics.
If not, I guess we'll end it there. Sorry I caught you on a bad day
Another alias from a dipshit too chickenshit to use his handle to insult someone.
Maybe I'm just a giant slut who gets off on fucking for money. Maybe I take that money home, shred it, and let my cats use it for kitty litter. Or maybe I fold each bill into little origami dead presidents, pretend they're my friends, and host little parties for them in my apartment. You really don't know, so you shouldn't just assume that "I do it for the money" is the only possible honest answer.
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When I was the tender age of 17-18 I had a quasi-sugar daddy... I was digging that for a little bit until he started having REAL emotions for me which I was not as comfortable with. I was young and wanted simple fun.
I explored that route with other men. More often than not I came back to feeling like they would become too emotional and/or possessive.
When I started escorting, I had to learn a lot of lessons about the type of people I wanted to see, but I REALLY liked it. It kept things simple and instead of filling a position in one person's life, I was able to meet all types of people and provide a service with the attentiveness and skills I possessed to make someone really happy for a couple of hours. This felt much more like mastery over a skill and I found it to spark much more creativity.
As far as fun vs money, I left the business for awhile because I was married to a fairly wealthy man (was actually a client and we are divorced now). While we were married (with his knowledge) I came back because I just missed working a lot!
Also, I have such a high drive, it takes care of my own "needs" as well. It is still work, but I'm doing something I love.
Why I became one is because I needed the money. And I was "familiar" with the p4p world as I swam in the sd/sb pool several years ago.
And seeing how I loved to fuck and be adventurous already, it was a Great Fit!!!
What's not to love about being gifted for something I loved and was doing it for totally free any chance I had!!
You asked HOW, so HOW I became one:::::There's "more" to that story, and I have shared it with anyone who has asked when we are "pillow talking" as it's kind of entertaining as to how I stumbled into it. For me, the fun details of how that all happened are best shared in private, face to face.
To the OP, many guys wonder this, as I personally get asked ALOT how I got started.
Portia
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And we hope it's because you're doing it for fun and profit. I look for providers who are horny women and love to fuck. Many are neither and are only in it for the money. Some detest doing this but are desperate and have no other choice to make fast cash. I can't speak for other guys but my choices are the "fun and profit" girls. Zana, Lola, Josie, you... all excellent choices in my book.
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Who cares why, just appreciate they are, I sure do!
I was actually introduced to sex work when I was about 20-21 and living in Cleveland. One of my roommates at the time had just started working as a pro-domme, and I'd do doubles sessions with her from time to time. I'd never really thought much of it though.
As time went on, I got college degrees. I moved from place to place across the country. I worked my way through college multiple times over as a restaurant worker; mainly a server and a bartender. I loved those jobs, but the work is absolutely brutal on your body. I spent 12 years in restaurants, and despite my acclaim as a bartender (i'd been nationally published and featured in multiple magazines), it seemed that I'd reached the top of my game and could go no further. I got fed up.
I've been a lifestyle BDSM kinkster since i was about 18, and generally identify as a dominant. A skilled dominant at that, and I thought that maybe I could get paid for it and make a living doing something I already really enjoyed personally. A friend of mine was advertising as a fetishist, and I asked her to give me some hints. She did, and I posted an ad. Three months later I quit restaurant work. The rest is history.
I started as a pro-domme, and have morphed and changed into a kink-oriented sex-worker, able to be flexible in my work. Honestly, I really love when kink and sex combine. It's thrilling. I love opening people's eyes to new sensations, ideas, and fantasies. I love breaking down barriers and helping people feel good. I also have this thing for removing stigma involved with sex work as well. I keep doing what I do because I love it. This job allows me to be active in other areas of my life. The benefits far outweigh the risks.
TL;DR
I came to sex work out of frustration with "mainstream" work. I'm still doing it because I love it.