I can't possibly please everyone. My thought was to let him say his peace and let her respond. Then, the WK chime in and we have a classic train wreck.
To not allow his post would be wrong, and to not allow her to respond is wrong. Somewhere in the middle of all of that I need to make a decision, like I did this morning. Shut them down and be done.


In terms of moderating someone for something trivial, I'd like to see an example of one time I have done that. I pretty much allow the train to roll on, and only when things get out of hand do i step in.

Threads should not be closed just because someone sees railroad tracks on the horizon.
The threads were civil under the circumstances, and the community had their say and opinions.

This is not Disney land. Think about that.

We are fortunate enough to live in a country where we have significant freedoms, at times on the boards those freedoms can be compromised.  I do agree that there is a point in which to terminate a banter that becomes a shouting match and name calling thread.  However, in this case that did not appear to be happening.  And for that reason, allowing the banter to continue might have been a good thing (in that it brought some members to post that had previously only been lurkers).  As adults on this board, I trust that not too much of what happens here is critical in our real lives.  What happens between the OP and the lady are between them, and we are just observers casually commenting on the issues at hand.

From my point of view, I enjoy reading various exploits that occur.  At times, it gives me pause to consider how issues may indeed affect me and my interests.  Needless to say, my livelihood is not connected in any way to the activities on this board, as I suspect are none of the majority of members.  However, I do feel that each of us may have something of value to add to a discussion.

And at the end of the day, if a reader feels like the thread is just not his/her cup of tea it is quite simple to just move on.  For those others however, it is entertaining to read the fantasies that other posters feel compelled to write about.

That's my 2 cents.

The size of this community will certainly make a given post long if people have something to say about it. Frankly, the moderators do a good job.