That's not the answer I get from that conversation.
I don't care how a TS "identifies". If I "identify" as the president of the united states, does that mean all should take orders from me as such? Do I get to use Air Force 1 etc.?
Let me put it to you this way; How would you like it if the doctor you went to for your sex change, after agreeing upon a sex change operation... after waking from the operation it turns out this "doctor" just glued a rubber pussy onto you? Would you still think the client (you in this case) doesn't have any rights to know this supposed doctor's previous history? When you seek out a doctor, you're seeking out a doctor... not someone that "identifies" as a doctor. Wearing a lab coat and stethoscope, and calling ones self a doctor, doesn't make him one. When hobbyists seek out women, we're looking for women, not people who just think they're women.
Words and terms are defined, defined for a reason... you can tell everyone that blue is red, up is down etc., but that doesn't make it so. Female/woman is medically defined... and no where in that definition does it say that a certain amount of plastic surgery creates one. Your genes will always be your genes, plastic surgery does not change this. Sticking feathers up ones butt does not make a chicken.
TS's should be honest just for this sake alone; it may save their lives... I know a few guys that wouldn't take kindly to being lied to, or attemptedly lied to in that way. They would snap directing murderous fury towards the TS.
It's just plain unethical to not disclose this