#8 was right on, I would never expect someone to show up without a condom, and willing to go BB. Had to leave in the middle of the action to be able to finish.
Posted By: narcissus
There have been a few threads on the issue of BP girls, whether BP is a waste, etc. I thought it would be a good idea to provide some guidelines for those who have not had the pleasure of mining for gold in BP (or any similar venue). These rules apply whenever you are looking in BP or any other source that provides low cost advertising to ladies without any verification. Feel free to add to this ...
GOOD REASONS TO MINE BP INCLUDE:
1) You want to make your dollar go farther (sometimes)
2) You enjoy meeting ladies who are relatively new to the business (this is a pro and a con)
3) It is 1am and you have needs that can't wait until the next day (and you failed to plan ahead)
4) You are patient and have moderate expectations ... In the usual worst case (in my experience, a rushed CBJ from a "lady" who might be less in looks than what you were hoping for) you still go to sleep happier than if you had not tried
MAJOR RISKS
1) Pimped ladies. A large number of ads on BP are placed by pimps. Their girls or usually addicted to something bad, are illegals who are forced to work on threat of being reported, and/or at the least are badly abused and threatened to work (and these ladies don't usually get to keep any of the money you give them). Having sex with one of these ladies is morally reprehensible, and very risky (think aids).
2) Scams. Many ads on BP are not actually from ladies who plan to see you in person. Rather, they will ask you to sign up on a site for "verification" or to "see more about me" ... these are ALWAYS scams, no matter how good they sound (actually, the better they sound the more likely they are scamming).
3) Inexperience. This is what you are probably looking for on BP, but you have to keep in mind it is a good and bad thing. The lady I just saw last night has been in the business for six months, but she clearly had no idea what she was doing sexually. Skills are hit or miss in this area. Keep in mind that someone new to the business advertising on BP is probably nervous and scared, possibly emotionally scarred, and probably used to being used for sex in her real life .. the idea of GFE may be foreign to them because they may not have ever had that kind of relationship in real life. If you treat someone like this with real respect, caring and attention to her needs, though, over a long period of time you can get more than you ever dreamed of; but it is not easy at first.
RULES TO LIVE BY
1) Avoid ads that have lots of clear pictures of the lady that include her face. A new lady on BP is not likely to want to use her pictures with clear face shots, unless she is already a pro (street). Sometimes visiting ladies do post face shots, but I like to stick to locals who I can see over and over...
2) If its too good to be true, it probably isn't real. A model body and model quality picture, at $100 an hour? Nyet. Similarly, beware of ads that over promise, or that appear polished - these are not likely to have been written by a newby. You are really looking to find ads that *do not* stand out; something like this is usually gold "Pretty Italian brunette, 22 years old, looking for jenerous man $250 you not disappointed!!").
3) Always check the phone number (not the lady). Run a search on TER using only the phone number, and don't restrict it to Chicago (run same on the other review sites as well). If there are really bad review for that number, even for a different lady, drop that prospect and move on to the next. However, keep in mind that a new lady on BP might get mediocre reviews (5-6) so that is not any reason to avoid. I also sign up on netdetective and run a search on the number there too. If you are lucky, the number will link to a real person who roughly matches the age and gender of your prospect - this is almost always a very good indicator that the lady in question is for real (pimps, agencies and scam artists are better at hiding their identities).
4) Never, every, sign up for any verification service in order to see a BP lady. Legitimate newby BP ladies (the ones you are looking to find) may ask for some traditional verification info (name, address, real phone, work phone) but if they are trying to get you to register on some site it is almost certainly a scam. If the lady is professional enough to be using a legitimate verification service (like P411 or RS2K) she probably would not be on BP.
5) Never, ever, give - directly or indirectly - your credit card, bank account, passwords, mothers maiden name, social security number, drivers license number or similar info. The indirectly part goes to Rule 4. A while back, I contacted a girl that I recognized as a regular on TER through a sugar daddy site. I had never seen her before, so she did not know me from this site (and still doesn't). Since I thought I knew she was safe, and the idea of making her my sugar baby was enticing, I agreed to sign up on a verification site. Signing up entailed charging a service fee (I think it was $50 or so) to my credit card, but she stopped chatting with me after I made the charge. A month after that, there were thousands of dollars in charges in India on the same card. She was (is) a totally legit provider here, but over on that other site she was scamming. So don't trust anyone with that info.
6) Outcalls or Michigan Ave hotels only. Incalls are dangerous on BP IMHO, and visiting ladies will almost always do a Michigan Ave area hotel or O'Hare. Ladies out by O'Hare who are on BP are usually pimped so stick to the ones on Michigan Ave. A lady that is coming alone into your home is not likely to try to rip you off in your own home; conversely ladies on BP who refuse to do outcalls may be more interested in getting you in a place they control so that can rip you off or worse.
7) Avoid ladies with "agencies" and "drivers." When you call her or she calls you, if a guy is talking or doing the verification, or if there is any mention of her "driver" say that your wife just walked in and hang up. ASK her how she plans to get to your place. I always say that parking is very hard and I will be outside looking for her to help her get a spot ... if she says not to worry because she has a driver I use the "my wife just walked in, gotta go" and hang up.
8) Have condoms at your bed side. She may, or may not, bring them.
9) Show her a good time and treat her with respect as you would a date. Seduce her. Talk to her first. Often she will go right into sex trying to get it over with quickly. Slow her down, ask some questions, tell her about yourself. Offer her water, wine, food. Show her around your place. Start out with hugs and (if she will let you) kisses. Get naked slowly. Let your fingers do the talking and then your tongue (if she will allow). Don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want, but you may need to entice her and make her very comfortable before moving on to bigger and better things - she may not be used to GFE.
10) Make it clear to her that you expect her to stay a full hour if you are paying for an hour. Ask her if she is okay with that before she arrives at your place - pimped girls are told to leave ASAP and are expected to stay no more than 20-30 minutes.
11) Don't book a multi-hour date on the first meeting. The first meeting is unlikely to be what you want (GFE with a virgin? Ha!).
