I have a True or False question for everybody.  Me and a friend are having a debate on this topic.

If a woman has a REAL orgasm during sex, it means she enjoyed herself, correct?

In other words, if a woman is not enjoying herself during sex, she won't orgasm.  Is that a true statement?

They are both false.  Guys are going to flip on that one.

Example...  I have had people get me off in a rough way that was not pleasurable to me, it hurt but I did come.  So an orgasm doesn't necessarily mean we are having a good time.  It can in fact be a reaction to any type of stimulation.  As well the 1st few orgasms feel amazing but if I keep rolling beyond comfort, the orgasms start to hurt and become very uncomfortable when getting to the high multiples.  Granted most of the time it means I am having an amazing time, but not always.

To the 2nd question, no I do not HAVE to have an orgasm to feel amazingly turned on and sexy.  The outcome doesn't have to be full on orgasm and sometimes that light play on the skin just keeps you on the edge without tossing you over.  I love that feeling, being so super charged that even the lightest and briefest touches feel like electric through my body.  Some of my best experiences have not ended in full orgasm.  I will admit to being swollen after, a woman's kinda blue balls kinda thing, but still very yummy.

Granted this is just my experience, I can't vouch for anything that happens with anyone else only myself

That this is probably the wrong place to get an honest answer, don't you?  All of the women are just going to say they always orgasm no matter what.  Why?  Because they want to seem as though they are very sexual beings who love their jobs in order to drum up more business.

True or false, you are grasping at straws...

XXX-Giselle Parker

"In other words, if a woman is not enjoying herself during sex, she wount orgasm."  I'm sorry but this sounds like a rather immature statement.  Sometimes I do sometimes I don't, by choice doesn't mean I'm enjoying myself or my partner any more or less.  There's tons of foreplay I find erotic and engaging, even a warm hand on your body after a long day is gold to me.  At risk of sounding like an old married couple, I enjoy pleasing my partner even if I'm not really in the mood. It's not their fault I keep a busy schedule and a busy mind to go with it.  This is why I love the hobby things are scheduled I'm in the right mind set, I feel sexy, clean, clear headed, well rested with caffeine ready to go.
 

Orgasms are dependent on lots of different things, and are not an indication of enjoyment.  

Sex is about the journey, not the destination. Getting rid of orgasm-centered sex heightens connectivity, overall sexual response, and enjoyment for both people.

Holy crab salad batman! I was under the impression everything was real and and I was hot shit. I'm so depressed now.

Funny as he'll!!!!

I don't need to reach to big O, to have a "good time".

Would be all Damn day....with a couple of snack breaks, water breaks, and maybe toss in some Netflix. It's always fun trying though..

Each woman's body is different.

To be the fly on that wall, listening to that conversation. Hoped the fly had popcorn and a cool drink, or a shot of tequila.

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I just figured it out because of the reference to crab salad

BTW, nice alias, ya joker!

XXX-Giselle Parker

If you want her to truly enjoy herself, ask her what she likes.  Listen.  Pay attention.  Then follow her guidance, not your impulses...

Sage, I believe you gave it a good shot.  

I would have to agree. I've had many different times in group situation that I have had multiple O and I am so exhausted afterward I can't do anything else. I am NOT saying I didn't have fun but that is a different kind of fun compared to one on one playtime.  

One on One, can be intense too depend on the people involved and chemistry that forms. I have had some play times where I too came out with "Blue Balls". I will be very forward and tell them I am 'NOT DONE YET'.... If they still have to leave I will take matters into my own hands to relieve the pressure.  

I hope you have found your answers and this was a very good question.  

JC

Oh my ..... Thank you for the best Laugh Giselle....

I have had plenty of appointments where I didn't "O", because the dude didn't try, or I could pick up that he just wanted his part to happen... nowadays, not so much because I have the longer time minimum, and have a lot of people who keep returning - I have a feeling people keep coming back because I actually "O". However, this is our job, and sometimes not faking that "O" means the guy isn't going to come back.

There are times I just want to fuck. I don't want the "O". I just want my bell ding ding dinged.

Nowadays 3 appts in a week is a very busy week. Other times I'll go a couple weeks with crickets, and then boom. 4 in a week. maybe 5. This is where I get laid - that's it. So yes, I enjoy it, and it's not because of the orgasms. (Though that's a very nice thing if I get one.) Physical touch is essential for life. You need to be touched, and it cures anxiety, depression, and promotes health in ways I have no clue lol. But for my weeks off, I have scheduled regular massage visits, because I know the importance of physical touch.

MY problem is, if they're willing, I'll keep them down there as long as it takes me. And there have been times I knew if I didn't "O" I would be frustrated, so ... lol.

By the way - I think you do get honest answers here. Some of us do it because we enjoy our jobs. It took me a while to find a great system with compatible "partners" to where I enjoy my dates, and you can really tell if someone is enjoying themselves, really happy to see you, and you can tell if it's 'real sex' vs 'put food on the table' sex. In my case, it's both, and both go together for me. Sex with no gift is not enjoyable for me, hence, why I don't do it.

I was just telling some young 23 year old guy yesterday (who was trying to get my golden pussy for free) how to get a good woman. And he needs to pay for the dates. He said "No way!" I said, "Then wait until you're 45. Until then, your role in life is to just have fun, because with that attitude you won't be finding yourself a good woman."

I'm mean LOL

One last bit here. There are two types of "O"'s for me. There is the mental orgasm, and then there is the clitoral orgasm. I need both to be satisfied. (This is why I like having multiple partners, though I'm lucky to find both with most of my clients.) The internal "O" is very important for me. It's an "O" of power, and an "O" of surrender, where my entire body flushes with pleasure over and over and over again. But it's not the climax "O" I can only get through clitoral stimulation. I'm happy with the internal "O"'s, but like both. If I can't get both, I'll choose the "psych-asms" any day.  

Then there are the guys who are just happy that I'm there to blow them and make them happy. I'm happy with that too. There's a sense of accomplishment to do your job and do it well. Though many say "Girls are here just to make a buck" there is an intense sense of satisfaction knowing you made someone else sexually happy. It's not just guys who have that desire and need to please their partners. Many of us ladies thoroughly enjoy rocking a man's world. It's a feeling of power, and it feels good.


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I agree. Sometimes I am enjoying myself during sex, and then he wants me to orgasm. Now I have a job to do. Get an orgasm, when I was already having a great time. Sometimes it's just fun to enjoy each other and enjoy the personal connection. Now I've got to somehow get an orgasm, or at least put on a show. lol