How risky is this, I saw some complaints about a couple of providers rippping of hobbyists?
How far ahead is too far ahead to pay a deposit?
It's a highly rated provider, but what recourse do you have if she disappears, doesn't show or something happens that you can't keep the appointment?
Personal experiences?

I have only done that for someone that I met before, and trusted.  Having said that, if she's a highly rated and respected provider, with a good fan base and lots of reviews, then she should be trustworthy. On the other hand, if you are nervous, don't do it, and find someone that doesn't require a deposit.  Common sense prevails!

I offer a few of deposit options/deals.

Anyone who books with me (after proper screening) witha 25% deposit receives 15% off my rate.

For those who need a discreet way of screening, a deposit of 50% the final rate is accepted.

Finally longer engagements (over 4 hours) and travel engagements require deposits for obvious reasons.


I understand why some do not like deposits, especially for a lady they have never seen before. Yet I find it curious how some regulars who know me well, and trust me wouldn't take advantage of making a deposit for a discounted rate. But hey, who am I to argue.

Kisses,
Vanica Love.

I require a deposit on any travel appointment with 50% down plus air . Locally no I do not. But I do travel and in order to ensure myself that he will show , I make it simple. 50 % down bal due upon arrival. Trust falls into play when I offer hobbyist references who have traveled me . I would not recommend you do this with someone who has little or no reputation though. We ask you for references, you do the same and you won't
have to worry.


XO
Angela

Let's see, I just did a trial run and it took me exactly 4.5 seconds to take the envelope from the inside of my jacket pocket and laid it on a counter.
So 4.5 sec.s that's my final answer!

WTF

B

I wouldn't worry too much about it. She will probably be honest about the whole thing.

You should book as far in advance as possible, but make sure your schedule won't change. Deposits are usually non-refundable. This is because the lady is blocking out a large chunk of her time and turning down potentials for those dates. If you cancel she will likely keep the deposit as compensation for her lost opportunities. I only ask for deposits on extended dates (overnights and beyond) and have never had an issue. Of course I'm on the receiving end, but I have never had to quabble about a return, etc.

If she rips you off, I'm pretty sure you can write a review since money was exchanged and she did not make good on her end.

Good luck and have fun!

Kisses,

Veronica Sweets

...and you're a known reputable hobbyist, the chances of her shitting in her own bed by ripping you off are fairly low. If you have a good hobby reputation, she's not going to risk ruining her reputation by having you out her, in all likelihood. Even her WKs are going to be hard-pressed to argue with a guy with solid cred.

Yes, Angela, I get it - if I ask a lady to come see me, give up her time, make that commitment, I need to assume some of the risk. Makes perfect sense. They key is that I am asking her to make the trip to see me.

But when there is no risk, when I am just going to see a lady, Vanica? No. And it is not a question of trust, as you make it seem. It is practicality. Paying deposits makes the whole transaction a lot more complex and greatly increaes the risk of hard feelings.

Stuff happens, so if I start giving ladies deposits, eventually one of us is going to have to cancel. Now we have a whole new transaction - what happens to the deposit? I can give you 500 messy examples, none of which are unusual, where the existence of a deposit is going to make a little problem into a big one, and quite possibly result in us never meeting again.

The absolute worst case - you retire and owe 10 guys, or more, their deposits. Do you have the money? Maybe you do, but many would not. You can't pay me, so sorry, bye bye. Then, a year later you came back. Am I going to see you? Probably not because you "ripped me off," and that is a true shame since we had such fun together. All because of a stupid deposit.

And you are more likely to get slammed here when you have to cancel, because you not only did not make it, but you also "stole" his money. So when shit happens, you need to manage it a lot more carefully than you would otherwise.

Anyway, I understand the logic of deposits, but you also need to consider how it is a wonderful way to make the normal, little problems that come up in the hobby into dealbreakers, to screw up a beautiful thing. It is not a matter of trusting you, or confidence, it is just avoiding trouble for both of us. Simple is better.

I give ladies money for services rendered, and gifts. Anything in between is asking for trouble, no matter how much I trust the lady (and I trust them all a lot, otherwise I would not risk seeing them).

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