Let’s begin with the fact that I have been gone from the hobby since 2006’ish.  I had been enjoying life and things had been going good until about a year and half ago when I lost my wife to breast cancer.  It was a long battle.  

I’ve been pretty lonely and thinking about jumping back into the hobby to take some of the pressure off.  I’ve been thinking about starting simple with a massage type situation that builds (with french? Russian?) to hopefully relax me some and hopefully avoid any performance type issues just from being nervous.  Recommendations would be helpful. Maybe some providers that just have a way of making you relax.  Thanks and I appreciate any thoughts.  

Really sorry to hear.   I think you are on the right track, sort of ease back into intimacy, and it sounds like your nervousness is perfectly natural.   IMHO, a lady with some experience and maturity might be a good start.  I found Kandi Sweetbits to be compassionate, easy to talk with and genuinely nice, and she could certainly provide both massage and the ending you're thinking about.   I'm sure there are plenty of others, as well.  

Good luck, and remember, it's like riding a bicycle.

Jenny Lynn is another seasoned professional that can prob offer you some TLC and as much fun as you'd like to have.