A personal confession, being tossed out there for discussion (hence the alias).

I find myself sometimes intimidated by the reputations or postings of providers. I enjoy a good romp as well as any, but find two factors sometimes holding me back.

1. I don't do well with rubbers. I never have, even at home. I certainly do not seek bare full service, but I find myself thinking that I have to have sex. That pressure exacerbates the issue.

2. When hobbying, I sometimes find myself wanting less wanting to recreate some of the wild things in the reviews and more wanting to be able to relax and be pampered, if you will. Obviously, there is a give/get dynamic there, just as in all non-hobby sex. I find helping a woman get where she wants to go to be beautiful and wonderful, but sometimes I just want to feel like it's not a requirement, like it's ok to sometimes just want to lay back and be pleasured, or even just lay back and enjoy touch. I want to be able to sometimes not feel like I have to lead or keep up. I guess it's a geisha type fantasy of a knowledgeable woman who'll know exactly what you need without asking. . I tend to me more of a slow and sensual type than a hot and wild type anyway.

So, the net is that when I read how ravenous a lady is, it can be intimidating. This isn't a knock on anyone, just a statement about how I react to these things. I know that there are lots of women who'd be perfect, but it's hard to imagine telling a really hot, sexy woman that I might not want to bang the heck out of her .

I'd love to hear any thoughts from providers or hobbyists who can relate.

You need to see an Asian provider. I enjoy when I am in mood to lay down and be taken care of.

This goes along with what I've been saying for years....

When I get a review that is 8's or higher, my phone is silent. When I have received 7's or less, the phone rings off the hook.

I think that the lower numbers make you less intimidating.

I like to think that I create a comfort zone when spending time with someone so that they can tell me what they want or dont want to do. I'm typically good with going with the flow too and not pushing anyone to do anything they dont want to....

Find a lady that runs french lessons and sign up for one of those, that way- there's no implication that anything else will happen.

Don't seek out the wild PSE-type providers. The reviews give a pretty good indication if she's the slow sensual type or the wild ravenous type. Maybe you want to see a provider who likes the wild side but you don't want to be wild with her. I bet she'd be willing to accommodate your desire for a slower sensual session. All you have to do is ask.

As far as the cover is concerned, it's a no-brainer. If it doesn't do the trick, there are other activities that might work for you. Don't be afraid to talk with the lady about your concerns, There's no reason to be intimidated by our limitations and the ladies are well aware of them anyway. Believe me, they've seen it all and you'll find that they can be pretty innovative in finding a way to satisfy you.

Some providers like to O during sessions, others don't. To each their own.

I've never heard a provider say that lower scores give her more business, this is certainly a first, LOL. I can understand your view that a highly-scored provider can be perceived as being "above" us but I've never viewed it that way and it certainly hasn't stopped me from seeking out the best-reviewed providers. It speaks more to self-esteem issues if hobbyists are intimidated by providers. It's not like we're meeting the Queen of England here, lol. But I do understand that certain providers can come off as intimidating. Someone like that would turn me off immediately and I'd never seek her out.

I can definitely relate to what you're saying.  I had only a couple long steady relationships in my life and I never was too exposed to condom use.  So, now with providers I tend to seek only to sit back, relax and enjoy being the recipient of good bb oral.  

Back in college, when I'd could see action with the girlfriend 3 or 4 times a week, I had the opportunity to develop stamina to get more "wild and crazy".  But hell, now that I'm stuck in the situation I'm in, that is just no longer the case.

On ur point about comments. My only comment is "don't be a fool" don't lose ur tool". No cover, no go. That's all for me. A BBBJ is great and that I can enjoy.

Ur other point is a great one and I have been with 5 providers of high ratings. But I'm scared poop-less of 2 I would love to see, but I'm worried I would just embarrass myself. I'm not that experienced and looking for hard long time romps and stuff that I just haven't really been locked into. Don't think I'm a slug in no means but I would love to see a Bebe and a Piper but I'm afraid I'm just not in their league and couldn't keep up. So, you're not alone dude.

Id never really thought of this angle before, it's certainly an interesting topic of discussion.

I think you  need to look beyond the ratings numbers and just interpret the reviews in terms of the nature of the lady.  Some have very nuturing and accomodating traits about them, others don't.  You can often sense this in the reviews.

Female Condoms.  They are worn by the lady, and when properly lubed, are more like bareback and just as safe.  They do occasionally make a bit of a crinkle noise, however, as they are non-latex.  But some gents just love them.

Another thing to keep in mind, every encounter is different.  Not all encounters have to result in banging the heck out of the lady...

They will be just as wild and just as frenetic as you want them to be. They are both great ladies in addition to being sexual dynamos.

With them, having fun -- no matter how it is done -- is the most important thing.  

Although it really isn't fun if you don't at least try to give Bebe the pounding she wants!!!!

Just my opinion -- great is great.  I had a local provider jokingly complain to me about her reputation for being "wild."  She told me she could do any mood.  She can.  
Who do you like better, Glen Miller or Louis Armstrong?  I like wild and I like sweet.  Generally I think wild can do sweet but not the other way around.

I am the entire spectrum of a woman... from wild to lover, receiver or giver. What I love about this lifestyle is that everybody wants something different from me and THAT is what keeps me challenged. I want to be used to rock YOUR world, however I can do it.  To some people that is about ME cummming and cummming and to others it is about them cumming and cumming and to others it is about us both cumming and cumming. Okay so the one constant is somebody is cummming and cummming. LOL

Thanks Beedoll, I've lusted after you since day 1!
But the fear of being compared to these self claimed
"sport F%$#&ers) and their never ending woman pleasing deeds, kinda scares me away. I know you're all woman and now I'm just going to have to step up to the plate and take a LICK or a few hundred. The "morning wakeup" really is inticing. But just how does one sleep knowing that's coming or sumthins cummin : ) Maybe you can recall my name Elton21. I wanted to get the mileage thing to you. We'll have to work that out, it's yours.
Watch for my request and maybe I can just surprise myself a little...