I was planning a trip to LA soon, saw someone I was interested in seeing, but before I made the call I thought it wise to do a little homework.  My homework discovered that this little known pornstar I wanted to see appears to be a full blooded lesbian in her personal life.  Now the movies I can find with her are about 50 / 50 men and women.  But her twitter shows mostly her and her many girl friends.  
Now I'm not judging Lesbians, because I love women as much as they do, but for 1K for the session, I want to believe that while I'm with her that I'm the center of her universe and now know what I know now, I don't think she could be that great an actor for me. I just got the impression that she really doesn't like men. So I decided to move on. Please don't jump me, I'm not at all judging anyone's lifestyle or what they do in their personal life

Yeah, it definitely spoils it when you know she definitely has a preference for girls over the boys. Honestly, it's the same as hearing your ATF has a boyfriend or husband... the chemistry might be there, but there's always something in the back of your head that just won't go away.  

I think you made the best decision. If her reviews are good, that just means she's a good actress. But since you know she definitely has a thing for girls, then it's gonna nag you for the whole date. When you pick her replacement, check if she has good reviews, watch some of her movies (if she's a pornstar), and just leave it at that... perhaps these are those moments when ignorance is bliss.  

Hope this helps! Have fun in LA!!

Maybe she likes relationships with girls and banging boys.  Maybe she has higher profile boyfriends who don't want public pics with a porn star.  

Ok if you wouldn't marry the girl, but for a little visit?  I'm not bi myself, but that seems like kind of a weird basis..

an outright preference for women is quite another.

Nothing kills a fantasy quicker than knowing that no matter how skilled you are as a male lover (fucker) you'll never really be giving her what she wants.

Would you really enjoy bedding a gay guy who you were sure was just going through the motions? Forgetting of course the fact that you would be looking at it from the perspective that you would be getting paid, instead of paying for the experience.

I think Miss Marie is right. You really don't know as much as you may think. A few pics and her website will never tell you everything about her. Maybe you're right... maybe not.

You're also right though in that if it spoils it for you, move on.

I am laughing, but in all seriousness...I would.

When I really want a specific style of non-BFE bedding...I want it...selfishly and for a good hour or two if that is the mood I am in then its worth paying for as long as he delivers. Especially if its off record, meaning no one knows but us.

I don't have an opinion on the OP. Everyone is different intimately. I don't understand him, but he may not understand me either. If the lady seemingly prefers women and it kills the mood for him, he did the right thing. Life is too short for regrets and settling for disappointments

Ok... your preference is your preference, and if for any reason you're apprehensive about parting with your money here, you shouldn't. It's that simple.

However, as a woman who dates women in my personal life, I'll let you know that there's a *huge* difference between getting into bed with a man and getting into a relationship with one.  

I'll be flat out and honest - I love dick as much as the next girl, perhaps more based on what I've seen and been told. I also happen to love pussy. A lot. When it comes to sharing the non-sexual aspects of my life though... no offense guys, I enjoy the courtship and consummation but don't see much of a future for myself in the form of the archetypal hetero relationship. I usually date women who are bi as well so men are more than welcome in bed, but just as friends with bi girl benefits  

I've run into some (omg) amazing women in this lifestyle that feel the same way, which leads me to believe it's not that uncommon. Especially when you consider this lifestyle is all about hookups without hangups, which is *exactly* what we're after.

Then, let's consider social media - she may think her followers don't want to see her with men. I'm a woman, but I can see why a hetero guy may not want to see so many dicks aside from his own, so lesbian action might seem like a more appealing visual. Add into the mix the *endless* selection of female amateur pornstars for a young starlet to pose with at any time, compare it to the relative slim pickings of men who are willing and able to engage in the lifestyle without complications (physical, mental, whatever), and you've easily got yourself an all girl twitter feed. It really doesn't mean much.

Anyway, you've made up your mind and that's awesome. No doubt you'll have a great time elsewhere. That doesn't mean you're not missing a great time with her... just saying. No judgement from me either, just stuff to think about since this is a discussion board

I love to have sex with men! But to date one at this stage in my life whilst being honest about what I do, it's unrealistic for me to have a seriously relationship with men at this point. In the future maybe but for now no.

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Normally, I'd stay out of the lesbian/bi debate but since I know you and you've made some excellent points, I'm chiming in. Duh... you make excellent points but I'd expect nothing less from you Ms Braniac

Most guys love watching lesbian porn and this hobby has changed my opinion of it. I'm not into the dyke type lesbians, I like the lipstick lesbians and seeing two beautiful women together is hot. I've done a few doubles but none where I saw that kind of connection between the girls. It was obvious they were gay for pay. Personally, I'd love to be with two women who are REALLY into each other rather than just focusing on me because I can't handle two of you at once, lol. OK, let me rephrase - I can definitely "handle" two of you as in grabbing and feeling but pleasing two women during a doubles sessions - impossible. It's distracting and it would be so much better if they could help please each other while I focus on my own desires.

I have nothing against women who like dick and pussy - in fact, bring it on but just don't forget who's paying the tab.

I've have a few very good lesbian friends that opened my eyes to how some lesbians think.  You hit it right...some women prefer the company, relationship and comfort level of being with women, and also sex with women (which can seem very "touchy-feely" to some guys...it's not always about the orgasm per se).  But many (but not all) of these women also LOVE fucking men...penetration is important, and rubberized facsimiles are not sufficient.  But dating and living with a guy??? YUCK!  

So if this woman enjoys fucking men, but then going home to her wife, enjoy the experience and have fun.  And if that bothers you, then you have every right to choose someone else.

Sy

Just think, "wow despite being a lesbian she wants to be with me. I must be awesome." Then all will be right with the world.  

There should be no limits to a fantasy. In this case you are the one limiting your fantasy by thinking about the truth.

Welcome back!

What I am talking about is not women who PREFER women, I am talking about a much smaller segment of lesbians who ONLY get pleasure from another woman, yet have sex with men for money.

The only time I ever know this for sure is when the woman tells me, and I have enough lesbian friends to have had these conversations, several of them do have sex with men to pay the bills, but secretly they hate every minute of it. For the record, these are FRIENDS, not women that I pay to fuck, the only money ever exchanged between us is me buying them an occasional drink. My point by mentioning this is that friends are a lot more likely to tell you the truth than women that you are paying to fuck you.

To be clear, I am fine with bedding women that "prefer" women, it's the ones who only fuck men because they HAVE to that I try to avoid having sex with. They do make good friends though, as long as they don't try to "convert" the women I am fucking. lol

It wouldn't bother me at all, but I sure wouldn't be parting with $1000 for one session.

When broaching the subject of group sex, I'd say that it's fundamentally important that all participants be attracted to each other.  

I did engage in a double one time with what many men would consider a dyke, and it was incredible. I had been introduced by a mutual friend, and while I knew she maintained a presence here, I didn't know who she was. She was gorgeous, but more androgynous than feminine in her flannel and jeans. She was in no way grungy however (I'll admit I'm a hick *and* a shoe fanatic and can spot a $400 pair of Redwings from across the room) and carried herself with a polish that definitely shined. I made it known that I was into her without question, but she was in a civie (female) relationship where extracurricular activities were not allowed  

She said that she wasn't into men, but she had what she dubbed a "financial fetish" and loved everything about this lifestyle. Before you say it's all about the money, let me explain - it's not. It's about power exchange! I'm not going to get too far into the whole D/s thing (I've derailed things enough) but she was *thoroughly* into it. She kept her civie as a sugar baby, and like many Dominant women, she needed an outlet for her sub side, and found it with the men here. When it comes to strong fetishes, who does it isn't nearly as important as getting it done, so gender wasn't really an issue.

A few months later she called me in for a double, and I greedily accepted I walked into the room, and was floored when I saw her - the usual slicked back hair was curled and radiant, lips dyed red, and all those curves she covered in public were lifted up and displayed in Agent Provocateur. Breathtaking.

I was a little nervous about how the session would go, since I've been with enough pillow queens to know that I might end up having to do most of the entertaining in order to be entertained (sorry/not sorry) and this one wasn't even into men... but she had such a confidence about her when handling our wonderful host that I would have been entertained just watching! I swear she must have had her epiglottis removed - Quite the performer, if not overachiever Fun times for everyone.

Moral of the story is - even dykes wear lingerie to bed  

~Mme X~