.... getting a woman off orally before the main event.

The O from DATY is so much stronger than the O I can have with penetration, so I would much rather get off with that first then do whatever he needs me to to for him to feel good

Me too...

It's the best for me when the person doing it (male/female) is really into it and loves to do it for an extended period of time with variations.

hmmmmm

I love my DATY nice & slow

When it comes to DATY... (no pun intended!)

The one thing I think gentleman need to remember is that the clit has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, so it is incredibly sensitive. And mine in particular is quite tiny..so it's even more sensitive. So, if you go from zero to sixty with speed and pressure, it's too much sensation. Start of slow and gentle, and crescendo up to the faster tongue flicks and more direct pressure. And that doesn't mean that you have to be down there for a half an hour...I mean, if you want to be, I won't stop you . But if you start with just a few teasing licks, kisses, etc, that makes the experience immensely more pleasurable.

Also, I can't speak for every woman, but I do not like having my clit sucked. Again, it's just too much sensation for me to handle most of the time.  

But a lot of times, I think DATY really varies immensely from woman to woman. I saw someone the other day who was saying that his ex told him that he was terrible at DATY, but he totally rocked my world. Maybe he learned something in the interim, or perhaps there was something about his tongue and technique that didn't work for her, but worked for me. Or maybe she was just being mean. Either way, not all women like the exact same thing.  

So, as other ladies have stated here, listen to feedback and pay attention to body language. It's not a one size fits all activity