Have a question, I've been in the hobby for a while and I usually get to see the same lady 2-3 times an I feel a connection; but then I move on because I feel if I continue to see her I could get somehow attached is it normal or because the level of intimacy just curious any input will work and as alway play safe

I see my ATF every 3 weeks or so and we have settled into a very comfortable relationship with appropriate boundaries and absolutely no false illusions. I was completely smitten with her at first and had mixed emotions and feelings due to the fabulous experience she created. But she is wise beyond her years, not to mention extremely insightful and perceptive, and she helped me comprehend and appreciate the relationship for what it truly is, and it has been pretty much smooth sailing ever since.

I've been seeing my current girl for over a year. For some reason she tells me things going on in her life. What's going on with her Family, upcoming events like Birthdays, and even Family Issues. Now I never asked her about these things. But she just tells me what's going on in her life. I guess she Trusts me so much that she needs to talk to someone. Our Sessions are still Awesome. Am I attached to her? I think so. I never expected to be this close to her. Do I regret it? Heck No. She's a Sweetherat and is so Adorable.

If you're just looking to play with no strings attached, then move on once the feelings show. But if you find yourself looking for an emotional attachment too, then be careful what you wish for.  It can be great but it will definitely test your mettle and it could end horribly, or not. Then there is the whole deal about finding the girl you can lay out your feelings to and having the time and $$ to develop the emotional connection. I got into the hobby just to play, no strings attached, but then I played with this one particular girl and started seeing her and more.  A connection developed. Oh oh...but I found it's what I want so it's what I do.   Best wishes to you, bud.

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If you have good chemistry with someone, don't throw that away on the "off chance" it will get stale. It might get stale, or it might get better.  And if it gets stale, _then_ move on.

I tend to develop feeling for a provider when there is a bit of a connection. Some men never do. Some develop feeling whenever they have sex. If you know what your proclivities are, and you really understand yourself, you should be able to control it, or at least know when to get out. (Sound like you do a good job with that.

have just 'celebrated' a third year with a lady...yes we share, know a lot about each other, but have firmly established boundaries.  It has gotten a little arms-length though  in the last several months so our visits are not as frequent

Thank to all for your input I guess I just keep on moving and besides there are plenty of fish in the sea